Catholic Wedding Alert!!!!!

[auntpolly]

Originally posted by Bichon Barb


So let's talk about what REALLY irks me. Receptions that start three hours AFTER the ceremony. Especially if the wedding is out of town.

LOL once we were at an out of town wedding and they told us there was a pre - reception for out of towners at a hotel on the way to the real reception. Nice, huh? It gave us a place to go because of the <i>4 hours</i> between the ceremony and the reception. Except that there was no food or anything, just a bar, and everyone just got ripped before the reception. It wasn't pretty!

 

[Christine]

Originally posted by Bichon Barb
I've never heard of a three hour Catholic wedding mass. I've been to many, and they've all been around an hour. (Me thinketh some people just like to do a little Catholic bashing when they can sneak it in.)

Barb, I swear to you my BILs wedding was close to two hours!!! Also, I don't think it is limited to Catholics--any religion could do it and it would be just as annoying.

 

[Dalpal]

I dont even think the OPer has been on this thread for some time now.
You know it really doesnt matter what you believe in. or how long the wedding is. If for any reason you feel the need to leave and you do so with respect to the people there(again quietly). then go.
Im sure no one will care or even know if they are paying attention to the service themselves.
BUT
This has been a very interesting thread...I have enjoyed it. It has made me think.
Thanks to all who participated

 

[Bichon Barb]

Originally posted by auntpolly
LOL once we were at an out of town wedding and they told us there was a pre - reception for out of towners at a hotel on the way to the real reception. Nice, huh? It gave us a place to go because of the <i>4 hours</i> between the ceremony and the reception. Except that there was no food or anything, just a bar, and everyone just got ripped before the reception. It wasn't pretty!

Well what else are people supposed to do for four hours when they're all dressed up with nowhere to go? I'm assuming the "pre reception" was a cash bar?

 

[Bichon Barb]

Originally posted by Christine
Barb, I swear to you my BILs wedding was close to two hours!!! Also, I don't think it is limited to Catholics--any religion could do it and it would be just as annoying.

Like I said, I went to a Greek wedding in Bahston. It was probably around 2 hours. But it really was a beautiful wedding and reception.

 

[Strawberry Lemonade]

Speaking of being considerate to guests, how about this:

DH's cousin got married last November in New York. The family is from CT, so we all got a bus and went down together. The ceremony was in the afternoon and the reception sometime in the evening. Since we had absolutely nothing to do before the reception started, and we were all unfamiliar with the area, we had to follow the wedding party to some private park to watch them take pictures. Outside for three hours in the middle of the winter in New York. With no advance warning. All of us ladies were wearing dresses.

A few of us got back on the bus, but the driver had wandered off somewhere and didn't leave the heat on.

Compared to that, a three hour ceremony in a nice warm church would have been heaven.

 

[auntpolly]

Originally posted by Bichon Barb
Well what else are people supposed to do for four hours when they're all dressed up with nowhere to go? I'm assuming the "pre reception" was a cash bar?

No! It was free drinks - that was the problem!

 

[disykat]

Originally posted by Christine
After all that, the priest forgot to do the "you may now kiss the bride thing." We were all standing there waiting and nothing. So they never even had their wedding kiss.

It really amazes me that people think if all the traditional trappings aren't there that they've been gyped. What does "you may kiss the bride" have to do with anything? We didn't have it at our wedding, nor did I throw a bouquet, have Dad walk me down the isle, have a "unity candle", shove cake in each others faces,etc. Maybe that's why when I go to weddings, I don't expect cookie cutter 20 minute ceremonies.

 

[Christine]

Originally posted by disykat
It really amazes me that people think if all the traditional trappings aren't there that they've been gyped. What does "you may kiss the bride" have to do with anything? We didn't have it at our wedding, nor did I throw a bouquet, have Dad walk me down the isle, have a "unity candle", shove cake in each others faces,etc. Maybe that's why when I go to weddings, I don't expect cookie cutter 20 minute ceremonies.

Ummmmm....I didn't notice it at all. The bride told me about it during the reception. The priest just plain forgot to do it and the whole wedding party kind of lost their bearings at that point. Had she not mentioned it, I probably would have never realized it.

 

[Lachesis00]

No I swear, it is true. I even double checked with my husband to make sure I was remembering right. I got to thinking maybe it was both religions combined but with the Catholic being the primary in the ceremony. I honestly can not remember now.


I am not bashing Catholics, my dad's side of the family is Catholic. While I am not of that faith I do respect it.

Originally posted by Bichon Barb
I've never heard of a three hour Catholic wedding mass. I've been to many, and they've all been around an hour. (Me thinketh some people just like to do a little Catholic bashing when they can sneak it in.)

 

[Donnainnj]

On the kiss the bride thing, when we got married the Priest(Catholic) said that they don't say that. He warned us at the rehersal, and we still weren't sure when the time was right to kiss.
Donna

 

[UncleKyle]

Wow did this thread took on a life of it's own! I just did a search of my threads and this one shocked me. Thanks everyone for making this the longest thread I've ever started! Most of what I said was a joke, not really going to take a book or a gameboy. Just wanted to vent my frustration for having to attend a long wedding, most guys don't like them and only want to get to the reception for food and beer. And for those who disagree with me, sorry I like my opinion.

I showed this thread to my girlfriend and she read every post and thought it was hoot! She knows I'm going to be really bored, so is she. Neither one of us likes long weddings and she's the maid of honor! She says if we get married, it'll be 20 minutes tops because we got partying to do and a honeymood to attend. But we loved everyones responses, got to see other points of view and others opinions. It's why I love (and sometimes hate ) the DIS.

 

[northern michigan]

Maybe kill time by thinking of what the priest is saying in relation to the couple that is being married. Think about how you can support them in their choice to marry. If it's not your cup of tea, then pass on the wedding and simply celebrate with them at the reception.