Catholic Wedding Alert!!!!!

[WDWHound]

Think of it as an opportunity to get some things done. You know, like doing your taxes or perhaps raising a family. There should be plenty of time.

Seriously, this is a very special event for your friend. My advice is to be attentive during the entire ceremony and look for the beauty in it. Catholic cermonies really are beautiful to watch. An hour or two is not so much time. Think of it as a gift to your friend.

 

[Kallison]

You could tape HELP ME to the groom's shoes and laugh every time they kneel up, down, up, down. Bring snacks, doodle on the program, sit by a window and play guess the color car that drives by.

Sorry to say everyone who says their hour plus wedding service got rave reviews -- they were totally FIBBING to you!!

 

[Beth76]

I'm on the same page that the general public does not enjoy a 1-hour-plus wedding. I'm sure they weren't lying when they said it was beautiful. They just left out other descriptive words.

Kyle, as boyfriend (or is it fiance?) to the Maid of Honor, it is your duty to offer any assistance you can give the bride and groom. Offer to go to the reception site early (oh is that during the ceremony?) to make sure that all is going well with the set up and with the bar especially. If no help is needed, then I would try to find a way to get out of it. Have you asked your GF about it. I wouldn't make my husband go to a wedding that was that long. I would be OK if he wanted to meet up later.

 

[Nancy]

I was married in one of those long ceremonies..it lasted almost an hour. For me the time flew...but I tried to keep it as short as possible.

Now what you could do is go to the church...sit in the back...after GF and bride walk down the aisle, make your getaway. Hopefully GF won't check back on you...if she does you can always say you felt light headed and stepped outside for some air. Sit in the car listening to music or reading a book.

Just make sure you are back inside for the last 10 minutes or so.

 

[Laura]

Originally posted by Beth76
I'm on the same page that the general public does not enjoy a 1-hour-plus wedding. I'm sure they weren't lying when they said it was beautiful. They just left out other descriptive words.

My wedding was approximately 15 minutes. I have been told it was beautiful. If people hated a wedding, they'll tell the bride and groom that it was beautiful--no matter what. For all I know, my ceremony probably sucked! (But I loved it--and that's what matters!)

Sorry, but there's not much to do except peruse the reading material in the pews. Lots of scripture passages to bone up on, memorize the Nicene Creed, etc.

 

[Deesknee]

interesting thread. I was protestant dh catholic great priest. 20 min. congregation 1/2 protestant didn't know ANY responses any more than 20 min. priest would've started laughing because the catholics were worse about not knowing the responses.lol
I also was told it was beautiful, and personally I think the beauty lies within the bride, groom, and the sentiment and personality of the priest.

As, my current priest says ( I converted after 15yrs or so) if your bored in church and all else fails, you can always pray for help!

But, seriously a good friend of mine on many occasions has reminded me it is an honor and a privilege to be invited somewhere, the best gift you can bring is a good attitude.

Good luck

 

[totalia]

Friends of mine had an hour long mass for their wedding. I have to say, that was the longest hour of my life. People were getting so bored, they were talking among themselves by the end of it.

I have therefore promised EVERYONE that my wedding with only be about 15 or 20 minutes long.

 

[Strawberry Lemonade]

If people are going to be so incredibly rude as to talk throughout the ceremony, bring their own entertainment, fall asleep, or whatever, they should stay home. I can't believe how much people complain about giving up 1 hour out of the day. It's really not that boring if you pay attention to what's actually happening and also realize how much it means to the bride and groom. Besides, you can always make up that lost hour by leaving the reception an hour early.

 

[Christine]

MY BIL and his wife had a Catholic wedding last year. I am not Catholic but had been to many a Catholic wedding so I knew what I was in for. What I didn't know was that the whole thing lasted 1 hour and 45 minutes. I thought I'd be out of there in an hour, NOT TWO!! They had over 300 guests and they all received communion. This took a long time. Anyway, it got to the point that people were getting up during the the ceremony to use the rest room. I guess no one expected it would be that long. I think anything over an hour is being really inconsiderate.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I hope you were joking about bringing a book, that would be very rude. While an hour and half seems longs, it won't be as boring as sitting for a mass.They don't preach about God for an hour.Wedding ceremony usually is very nice. Each bride and groom add their own touch to the mass.I went to one wedding, where all four sisters said a very nice speech. Everyone loved listening to their stories, by the end we all had a tear in our eyes.

 

[Rippington'sFan]

Originally posted by UncleKyle
No offense to all the Catholic Disers but I have to attend a traditional catholic wedding (with mass) in two weeks and I'm dreading it. My girlfriend's best friend is getting married and she's the maid of honor in the wedding. I've been told by her and the bride that the wedding will be in the area of an hour to an hour and a half long!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Any ideas on how to pass the time? I've thought about taking a book and sticking it in between the bible, or maybe just taking a gameboy and playing it the whole time. I know to some that might be offensive but to me the real true offense is making anyone sit through a wedding thats longer than 15 minutes.Only reason anyone (besides the bride and her mom) come to the ceremony is so they can attend the reception.

Mine will be: anyone have any reason, I do, she does, here's the rings, now where is the whiskey, beer, and the dance floor.

So whats the best way to kill time?

WOW! How bad is that. No offense but you need to get a clue in life.

 

[POOH&PIGLET]

Originally posted by Sheree Bobbins
I couldn't get over how many people had skipped the church part (which is the important part to attend in my mind).

At least one person gets it. For the couple, the ceremony should be the most important part of the day, not the reception.




UncleKyle
Not that my opinion should matter to you, but I would strongly suggest that you not to go to the wedding. You don’t seem to have the attention span or respect (for your girlfriend, the couple getting married, the others attending the mass, or the Catholic Church) to comport yourself for an hour and a half.

God forbid you actually pay attention to the service.

 

[CamColt]

Wow! Most weddings Ive been to are Catholic church weddings and not one of them, even ones with a full mass, have been over an hour. Not that 1 1/2 hours is too much to give up to celebrate with people on their special day, but Ive just never heard of them being that long. Yikes!

We got married in the church and since it was July 22 and the church had no AC, I made sure we did it pretty quick. We had a few readings, some music, just "I dos"(no long drawn out vows), rings, and the one extra we did was the unity candle. I honestly cant say how long it was but Id guess about 35-40 minutes.

 

[Dalpal]

JMHO,

Try praying!
For the couple getting married, The guys in the war fighting for us.
For the people NOT free enough to be able to go to a christian wedding, But most of all for yourself.
That should take up at least half of you time.


An Hr. is a small price to pay for what will be spent($) at the reception. So You can eat, DRINK, and party for free.
Betsy

 

[POOH&PIGLET]

Originally posted by Christine
I think anything over an hour is being really inconsiderate.

Why? It's their wedding.

A typical Sunday mass at my church lasts over an hour so a wedding mass would certainly last longer.

 

[Bichon Barb]

Warning: Politically incorrect, just funnin' post.

Seeing that I grew up in the City of Syracuse, and married a Catholic (not too many other choices around here ), I think I can address this.

SUCK IT UP KYLE!!! If you can make it through the mass, I think you will be rewarded at the reception. Catholic receptions are waaaaaaaay more fun than Protestant!

Is it an Italian wedding? hyper: my favorite kind) 'Cause if it is, you'll probably be well fed!

Count your blessings and be glad it's not a Greek Orthodox wedding. (We're talking two hour ceremony. )

 

[snoopy]

The longest wedding ceremony I ever attended was a Baptist wedding, it was almost 2 HOURS! It was SOOOO hot that day.

Usually Catholic weddings/mass is 45 minutes to an hour, at least at the church I got married.

Not sure what to tell you to pass the time. I usually daydream.

 

[Christine]

Originally posted by POOH&PIGLET
Why? It's their wedding.

A typical Sunday mass at my church lasts over an hour so a wedding mass would certainly last longer.

Well, it is MY opinion that it is inconsiderate to the over 300 people you invite. I am allowed to have an opinion, right? Even if it is their wedding, consideration of guests is important. Sitting on a wooden bench (pew) for almost 2 hours, all dressed up, and in no air conditioning was a bit much. But I was gracious and didn't complain. Just here.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

volunteer to open up the church nursery and watch all the babies and toddlers.

No actually I'm serious. My DH usually grabs 3 or 4 kids and volunteers to take them out to the church playground so he doesn't have to sit through services.

 

[diznygirl]

Volunteering to babysit - that's a great one! It's very much appreciated by the moms I'm sure and gets DH out of having to sit through the ceremony.

On the flip side - Can you imagine how bored the bride and groom are at their reception? Think about it - they get married and now they have to sit through a 2 or three hour reception visiting people they hardly know answering the same questions over and over again, when all they want to do is leave for their honeymoon!