wow, i would never expect that this would turn into such a nasty debate. i don't expect anyone to help me with my luggage, and don't carryon anything i can't lift myself. often things that are well within the weight limit are difficult for me because i am short and not very strong, but i get on the plane fully prepared to lift them myself. i simply meant that i appreciate it when somebody taller & stronger offers to help out. it's like giving up your seat on a crowded bus for someone older and less able-bodied than yourself, they sure aren't expecting you to, and you're not required, but they're usually grateful. i am fully aware how to check luggage, my flight is not direct and i am concerned about my luggage not making the connection as it's happened to me before so i'm trying to just take carryons. there's no need to be so harsh.