My post was confusing...let me word it better.
Friend #1 - traveled with DH and I on our trip in November 2014. She stayed at Coronado Springs while we stayed at Yacht Club. I made her reservations over the phone with Disney directly(using her name, her contact information, her CC, everything...I was "her" on the phone with Disney, not me). She had a separate
MDE account as well. She did not receive a magnet, and had very limited e-mail contact from Disney regarding FP+.
Friend #2 - traveled a week after DH and I. She used a travel agent to book her hotel only. They stayed at POFQ. The TA had nothing to do with her tickets at all (which is what FP+ is tied to). Her tickets, like ours, were AFS tickets that she purchased herself on base and linked herself to MDE. We actually bought our tx at the same place and linked them on MDE around the same time as well. She also did not receive a magnet, and also had limited communication from Disney (she also had her own MDE account, did Magic Bands there, I logged into it to book her FP+ for her, etc).
Friend #2, as I said, is the one who used a travel agent, but the TA did not book her entire vacation. I have never worked with a TA before, so I don't know what reasonable expectations are of them. I would be inclined to think, though, that since the TA had nothing to do with her tickets, which is what FP is tied to, that the TA would not have been responsible for updating my friend on anything relating to the tickets - including FP+.
ETA: I don't *know* why Disney contacted us more than either of my friends, or why they contacted us more than others here on the DIS have been contacted, but they did...so that leaves me in a place where I would not be so sure that every onsite guest is receiving "hit you over the head" levels of communication regarding FP+.