cancelled trip report - I may never feel like I can go again

[lmbcdb]

I never thought I’d be writing something like this. For 15 years I’ve been sharing our family trips to Disney here, and it’s always been such a huge part of our lives. We were supposed to be leaving in two weeks to celebrate our 25th anniversary at Disney World. Instead, I had to cancel the trip, because my husband has left me for someone else.

Right now, my heart is broken. Disney has always been our special place, but at the moment, I don’t know if I can ever go back. Every trip, every plan, every dream for retiring and working part-time at the parks—it all feels tied to him and the life I thought we had.

I know time will help, and maybe someday Disney will feel like my happy place again. For now, I just needed to share with the people who understand what Disney means. Thank you for letting me put this out there.

These boards have been part of my Disney story for years, and right now I could really use some encouragement. Even if I can’t see it clearly yet, I’d like to believe Disney will someday feel magical again. Thank you for being part of this community and for letting me lean on you during such a hard time.

 

[duppy215]

OMG. So so sorry u have to go thru this. Time will heal. Sending hugs

 

[Disneylover99]

I’m so very sorry.

Please take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve the relationship.
Take it one day at a time and lean on family/friends to get you through the next few days/weeks/months. You got this!

 

[hardcorestitch]

I never thought I’d be writing something like this. For 15 years I’ve been sharing our family trips to Disney here, and it’s always been such a huge part of our lives. We were supposed to be leaving in two weeks to celebrate our 25th anniversary at Disney World. Instead, I had to cancel the trip, because my husband has left me for someone else.

Right now, my heart is broken. Disney has always been our special place, but at the moment, I don’t know if I can ever go back. Every trip, every plan, every dream for retiring and working part-time at the parks—it all feels tied to him and the life I thought we had.

I know time will help, and maybe someday Disney will feel like my happy place again. For now, I just needed to share with the people who understand what Disney means. Thank you for letting me put this out there.

These boards have been part of my Disney story for years, and right now I could really use some encouragement. Even if I can’t see it clearly yet, I’d like to believe Disney will someday feel magical again. Thank you for being part of this community and for letting me lean on you during such a hard time.

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry that this happened to you. I really hope someone else will accept you into your heart when the time is appropriate.

 

[tinkerbellmagic]

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. This will obviously take some time to get through. I believe you might come to the point somewhere down the road where you can use the idea of another trip to Disney, as a healing mechanism. It will be for you and however you’d like to plan it. Take care of yourself. You will get through this.

 

[fla4fun]

I’m so sorry you are going through this especially so close to what would have been a milestone celebration. Can I just say his timing stinks? I hope you have a good support system in place and when you need to vent, we are here to listen. Take time to grieve and take care of yourself right now. Disney isn’t going anywhere (in fact, missing some of the construction going on could be a good thing).

When you feel ready for Disney again, maybe switch things up a little bit. If you usually go to WDW, try DL instead. Maybe try a cruise instead of the theme parks. Take a good friend along who makes you laugh until your belly hurts. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and definitely more than one way to do Disney.

Wishing you much peace as you move through this transition

 

[lmbcdb]

OMG. So so sorry u have to go thru this. Time will heal. Sending hugs

Thank you. Virtual hug accepted and appreciated.

 

[lmbcdb]

I’m so very sorry.

Please take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve the relationship.
Take it one day at a time and lean on family/friends to get you through the next few days/weeks/months. You got this!

Thank you. Even my son is telling me I am a strong woman and can do this.

 

[lmbcdb]

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry that this happened to you. I really hope someone else will accept you into your heart when the time is appropriate.

I can't even begin to fathom that. We were supposed to retire to Florida, and I was going to take Photopass pictures in front of the castle while he sang in the Dapper Dans.

 

[lmbcdb]

I’m so sorry you are going through this especially so close to what would have been a milestone celebration. Can I just say his timing stinks? I hope you have a good support system in place and when you need to vent, we are here to listen. Take time to grieve and take care of yourself right now. Disney isn’t going anywhere (in fact, missing some of the construction going on could be a good thing).

When you feel ready for Disney again, maybe switch things up a little bit. If you usually go to WDW, try DL instead. Maybe try a cruise instead of the theme parks. Take a good friend along who makes you laugh until your belly hurts. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and definitely more than one way to do Disney.

Wishing you much peace as you move through this transition

I'm finding my support system slowly. The first week sucked because I was too embarrassed to tell anyone.
Thank you for your ideas about switching it up. If I do it the way we always did, all I would see/feel is him everywhere we go.

 

[Disneylover99]

Thank you. Even my son is telling me I am a strong woman and can do this.

Sounds like you have an awesome son!

 

[gottalovepluto]

25 years? Even through covid- oof! I hope you're able to take him to the cleaners. And then may you rebuild stronger and happier than before, whatever that ends up looking like

As you take your time to heal, Disney World will be going through major changes with entirely new lands in 3 parks- so maybe there is a silver lining for you in that they will all kinda feel and look different. And maybe CA will call in the meantime? Lots of Disney magic in that small area, can be done in a quick trip- and they slay Christmas if you like holidays. Nothing feels like Disneyland Park at night during Holiday Time.

 

[lmbcdb]

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. This will obviously take some time to get through. I believe you might come to the point somewhere down the road where you can use the idea of another trip to Disney, as a healing mechanism. It will be for you and however you’d like to plan it. Take care of yourself. You will get through this.

Thank you for your sweet thoughts. I am trying to take care of myself, but it's hard when all I want to do is hide under the covers.

 

[fla4fun]

I'm finding my support system slowly. The first week sucked because I was too embarrassed to tell anyone.
Thank you for your ideas about switching it up. If I do it the way we always did, all I would see/feel is him everywhere we go.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

[lmbcdb]

25 years? Even through covid- oof! I hope you're able to take him to the cleaners. And then may you rebuild stronger and happier than before, whatever that ends up looking like

As you take your time to heal, Disney World will be going through major changes with entirely new lands in 3 parks- so maybe there is a silver lining for you in that they will all kinda feel and look different. And maybe CA will call in the meantime? Lots of Disney magic in that small area, can be done in a quick trip- and they slay Christmas if you like holidays. Nothing feels like Disneyland Park at night during Holiday Time.

I think CA is a great idea. I think it will be a long time before I can go back to the World.
Yup, even through Covid. He's been working from home since March of 2020 - and I think that has a lot to do with it.

 

[lmbcdb]

You have nothing to be embarrassed about.

Yeah, I know, but that was my initial reaction. Especially after all we've talked about for 6 months is our 25th Anniversary trip. I'm starting to move away from that, as I need a support system.

 

[Skywatcher1206]

I am so sorry! You can get through this, I’m sure, and will come out stronger on the other side.

 

[AstroBlasters]

I never thought I’d be writing something like this. For 15 years I’ve been sharing our family trips to Disney here, and it’s always been such a huge part of our lives. We were supposed to be leaving in two weeks to celebrate our 25th anniversary at Disney World. Instead, I had to cancel the trip, because my husband has left me for someone else.

Right now, my heart is broken. Disney has always been our special place, but at the moment, I don’t know if I can ever go back. Every trip, every plan, every dream for retiring and working part-time at the parks—it all feels tied to him and the life I thought we had.

I know time will help, and maybe someday Disney will feel like my happy place again. For now, I just needed to share with the people who understand what Disney means. Thank you for letting me put this out there.

These boards have been part of my Disney story for years, and right now I could really use some encouragement. Even if I can’t see it clearly yet, I’d like to believe Disney will someday feel magical again. Thank you for being part of this community and for letting me lean on you during such a hard time.

May I be the little devil on your shoulder that reminds you that your idiot ex doesn’t deserve you and definitely doesn’t get to take away your “happy place”?

 

[ShaneDJ]

Thank you for your sweet thoughts. I am trying to take care of myself, but it's hard when all I want to do is hide under the covers.

Don't hide, don't be embarrassed. And get a good (mean) divorce lawyer.

This happens everyday to thousands of people. Be bold, protect yourself, and take the initiative.

Also, a good therapist is worth the money to help you navigate emotionally and to build up (confirm) your self-worth.

 

[mjmgsssp]

Give yourself time to feel what you're feeling. Find your support group(s), don't be afraid to seek counseling, and know that Mickey will be waiting for you when you're ready with a smile and a warm hug.