Way back in January, I started a thread about whwther or not I should tell my mother outright that I didn't think she would be able to travel to her granddaughter's wedding, or whether I should just let her think she was going, and tell her as the date approached.
I was chastised by for either lying to her, or for not making the effort to arrange the trip.
I gave things more thought, and spent a lot of time (and money, but mostly hers) to make it happen. So she has been planning and dreaming about this wedding, spending some time in her native state, visiting my dad's grave, seeing all of her grandchildren, etc for weeks and months.
We were due to leave next week, but her health has deteriorated to the point that she can't travel. She was just admitted to the hospital again today; she was discharged last week, and had been hospitalized at the end of June. So she, as DH would say, has entered the death spiral.
Although missing the trip is now breaking her heart, she at least had the pleasure of anticipating it. And since we had 1st class tickets, they're fully refundable, so I can purchase cheaper tickets and fly as many family members as possible down to see her ASAP. The money was already "spent" so it won't cause financial difficulties.
She actually took it better than I thought she would, probably because she feels so weak.
Again, thanks to those (especially Disney Doll) who gave me that extra push to at least try.
I was chastised by for either lying to her, or for not making the effort to arrange the trip.
I gave things more thought, and spent a lot of time (and money, but mostly hers) to make it happen. So she has been planning and dreaming about this wedding, spending some time in her native state, visiting my dad's grave, seeing all of her grandchildren, etc for weeks and months.
We were due to leave next week, but her health has deteriorated to the point that she can't travel. She was just admitted to the hospital again today; she was discharged last week, and had been hospitalized at the end of June. So she, as DH would say, has entered the death spiral.
Although missing the trip is now breaking her heart, she at least had the pleasure of anticipating it. And since we had 1st class tickets, they're fully refundable, so I can purchase cheaper tickets and fly as many family members as possible down to see her ASAP. The money was already "spent" so it won't cause financial difficulties.
She actually took it better than I thought she would, probably because she feels so weak.
Again, thanks to those (especially Disney Doll) who gave me that extra push to at least try.
It's really nice that you tried to make it work. You will always know that you did your best--no regrets--and she knows it, too. That's a comfort to all of you.
