Can you "get over" being cheated on? #191 - I'm done.

[diznygirl]

You are definitely better off without him.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I'm sorry you had to go through this. I truly believe that this happened for a reason before you got Lilly. You and Lilly will be much better off.

 

[CEDmom]

First off I want to say how sorry I am for all you're going through. No one should be treated as you have especially by your spouse. Whatever decision you make regarding Lily's adoption I know you'll take her best interest to heart.

I do want to offer a piece of advise though, if you do decide to continue with the adoption (and I think you can do it if that's what you want) I'd recommend holding off on serving your DH with any papers or making any kind of seperation legal. If your agency finds out about a change in your marital situation they will most likely be obligated to suspend the adoption. China has set very restrictive policies on single parent adoptions and you'll be waiting so much longer than you already have. If my opinion is worth anything your DH at the very least owes you to continue forward on the adoption if that's what you want.

Take care of yourself. That little girl will have a happy life with a mom like you so don't worry about that.

 

[kmp1191]

you are a strong person.....knowing when to say when...i wish my sister were more like you. hang in there, you deserve so much better!

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

I am so sorry All my best to you in this trying time. You seem like a really strong person and your daughter will be lucky to have such a great mom like you. I hope everything works out for you

 

[NMAmy]

I'm so sorry! Please take care of yourself.
Unfortuantely, I've been there and done that. It does get better though, I promise.

Kristi is right--it does get better. to you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I am so sorry!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Now you can be set free....
Here is some strength on whatever you need to do now.

 

[punkin]

I do want to offer a piece of advise though, if you do decide to continue with the adoption (and I think you can do it if that's what you want) I'd recommend holding off on serving your DH with any papers or making any kind of seperation legal. If your agency finds out about a change in your marital situation they will most likely be obligated to suspend the adoption. China has set very restrictive policies on single parent adoptions and you'll be waiting so much longer than you already have. If my opinion is worth anything your DH at the very least owes you to continue forward on the adoption if that's what you want.

This would concern me too. Make sure you find out all the ramifications of your actions before you finalize anything. Good Luck. And I agree,if he's pathological, you're better off without him.

 

[kdibattista]

I'm so sorry

Just remember to keep focusing on what's to come into your life . You are going to make such an amazing mother. Lily will be very proud. You can PM me anytime you need to talk

 

[MsLeFever]

You may be feeling "numb" but you are sounding strong and sure - good for you!

 

[happybratpack]

Thank you. I'm not feeling strong, I feel so weak right now. She sent me all of their correspondence, it's just horrible. They had sex in my house, at the park by my house, etc etc. I don't want to read it but I can't stop myself and I'm so sick to my stomach.

The adoption is safe, I guess I knew something that I was blocking from myself because I covered myself legally completely with that.

My heart just hurts.

Thank you again.

 

[anut4disney]

 

[momrek06]

for you and your beautiful family as you go through such difficult times in your life.

 

[vettechick99]

I've been following your thread from afar. Your husband sounds very toxic and I'm glad you chose to put a great distance between you and him. Good luck with everything, including Lily.

 

[MerryPoppins]

I think you are making the right decision, as painful as it may be. I pray that someday he'll get himself straightened out, but it's not your responsibility to suffer while he strays repeatedly. You tried.

Try to look forward instead of back. Take it a day at a time. You have a lot to look forward to. Know that you have many people who care about you here. Don't ever feel ashamed to come and vent. Sometimes it's easier with cyber friends than with people closer to the situation.

 

[LaLa]

 

[CookieGVB]

I'm so sorry. You'll be much better off...believe me, I know!

 

[ckret01]

Oh My gosh, my heart is literally just breaking for you right now.

 

[Patty3]

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I feel so bad that you are going through this.