Can you believe our "friend" did this to us?

[MatterhornMiss]

This is similar to a case that was on Judge Judy yesterday.

 

[dwelty]

Has HE told you he is not going? You are working on third hand information. (I agree with the others, Invite the Ex wife and the girls if he does not want to go). Just make sure to get a final answer from him. Tell him that you are thinking of inviting someone else if he is going to bail on you. Since he has never told you a definite no, Make sure the girls are not mistaken about not going. Or the Ex wife is not trying to cause problems between you and him. He may have planned on suprising them at the last minuite. (unlikely, but you need to make sure before you take action)

 

[jimmacmn]

Several years ago, we had a GV reserved at OKW for us and two other couples. The day before we were to leave one of the couples cancelled on us. No time to get a sub so we had one BR empty for 5 days in a GV. Not real happy and the couple did nothing to compensate us for the last minute cancellation. They did pay for the Hoop De Do reservation and my brother and his girl friend (they live in Orlando) had a nice dinner on them. The positive side of the story is that the couple that went with us bought at SSR and we added on at SSR during their tour.

 

[moredisneyplease]

So many great points made from the other posters!

1) he is a jerk, I'm sorry he put you in this position, and yes your trip will be better without him

2) other people just dont "get" DVC and how it works even if you explain it over and over to them. As mentioned, vacation is OBVIOUSLY very important to all of us and thats why we made this investment

3) see if the ex wants to go and bring the kids! The saddest part of this whole thing is those two kiddos missing out on a trip to WDW

ON a completely different side note: Can you PM me with what exactly you did for the WDW countdown chart? Are those a few posters together? Are those Mickey heads from Home Depot? I love it and want to duplicate it for our next trip!

 

[canwegosoon]

I know how you feel. I would have your DH call tonight and confirm what you have heard. He still has time to drive-he can leave Friday and meet you there for Sunday or he needs to pay the difference in the $ value in points. (you need an answer immediatly and a payment via paypal) You have probally cursed him enough so ...I will just tell you -not to let it ruin your trip. Do you have any extended family members or friends that are able to drive or fly last minute? I am hoping this works out for the best.

 

[MEK]

I think this is an unfortunate consequence of owning DVC. I suspect that when any owner makes a reservation to include additional guests, those additional guests may not show (unless they have already paid the owner an agreed up amount).

First, I would verify that the man is not coming. I would make sure he knows that this has become an unnecessary expense for your family. He probably won't care, because I don't think he ever had any attention of going on the trip.

Secondly, I would chalk it up to one of life's lessons. Enjoy the giant point splurge and go have a great time!

Then

 

[PutnamDS]

Actually, I should look at it on the bright side, I won't have to deal with the SOB ever again.

This is exactly what I was thinking! You will have so much more fun if he stays home! Go and have an awesome time. The 2-bedroom experience will be fantastic.

Sorry about his DDs, though.

Deb

 

[swhall]

Another vote here to invite the ex wife!
Would love to see the look on his face

 

[WALTSAGOD]

I completely agree - invite his ex and hopefully she can bring the girls.

AWESOME idea!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[MrsNick]

Has HE told you he is not going? You are working on third hand information. (I agree with the others, Invite the Ex wife and the girls if he does not want to go). Just make sure to get a final answer from him. Tell him that you are thinking of inviting someone else if he is going to bail on you. Since he has never told you a definite no, Make sure the girls are not mistaken about not going. Or the Ex wife is not trying to cause problems between you and him. He may have planned on suprising them at the last minuite. (unlikely, but you need to make sure before you take action)

ITA.

Really, all you are getting is the ex wife's side of the story. You never know, she may actually be the party who won't allow the girls to go (doesn't want the girls to go with the father and have fun with him), and might want to put her ex husband in a less than favorable light.

Then again, maybe this guy is a jerk.

But, you can't assume anything until you talk to him.

Good luck, I hope you have a good trip anyway.

 

[Mama of Indybride]

Poor munchkins.

That bites, whomever has thrown a monkey wrench in it.

I would have cried like a baby!

And I'm 42.

 

[Cruelladeville]

Let us know what happens I know you feel abused, but this guy would be a real jerk on a vacation with you, assuming what you have heard is true.

Another vote for inviting the X wife if he has backed out of the trip. And another thing: you have a pretty good idea now why the wife divorced him, so you can feel good about distancing yourself from the jerk.

 

[aidansmommy]

That really stinks! But like others have said, have fun with the two bedroom......and some privacy!!!!

 

[larrytau]

This is similar to a case that was on Judge Judy yesterday.

So, how did Judge Judy handle the problem?

Tar and Feather??

 

[Coach81]

Wow.. what a great guy

 

[dianeschlicht]

I hope the OP has talked to the absent "guest" and confirmed his cancellation plans. If not, and if he doesn't show, I'd enjoy the trip anyway and send him a "bill" for your troubles. I'd say half the maintenance fees for the points required for the room would be about right. You can call it a "cancellation fee" or whatever you want, but it would make you feel better in the long run. Oh, and ENJOY the 2 bedroom with your family! We wouldn't do 3 or more people without a 2 bedroom.

 

[manning]

So OP, why haven't you talked to the father to see if it is true.

You know what the word assume does.

It makes the first 3 letters out of '-u-me'

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Is the 2 bdrm a dedicated, or a lock-off? Maybe you can use the 1 bdrm portion and rent the studio...there are always people that book short-notice, so any decent offer you got would be better than losing the points and having nothing. Aren't all the values and moderates fully booked thru CRO this month? However it turns out, I'm sorry you had to go through this.

 

[JsMom2]

Definitely speak to the friend, before assuming that what the ex-wife is saying is correct.

And if the guy is actually being a jerk, then yes you are better off without him in your lives.

Have a great vacation, and don't let him ruin it!

After reading a few threads like this, I think there's definitely something to be said for charging friends and relatives $6/pt for the difference in points between the unit you would've gotten without them. You can always give the money back to them, and it could save a relationship!

 

[Dizzy4Dizney]

So we finally heard from the SOB yesterday. He gave my DH a sob story on how broke the divorce left him. I don't buy it because he just spent $8000 on computer equipment two months ago. He's a lowlife in my eyes. I don't think he wants to take care of his two kids for a week. His exwife told me the girls come home dirty and with knots in their hair because he doesn't groom them. That's a whole other story! I digress.


My DH wanted to lay into him but decided against it. He said he will reimburse us for the room, but I'm not holding my breath.

We are going to have a FANTASTIC time!!!!! Thanks for all the advice from you guys! My DH will be trying to set up a live stream from our room (he's so geeky). Hope we get a good view!