Can someone completely change and last?

[Minnie Spouse]

Recently a member of my family met someone and is acting like a completely different person. I mean total opposite of the person they used to be. For example - never spent money to spending $$$ left and right - never ate out to eating in restaurants every other night - and many more personality changes in the past 2 months. I can understand a gradual change or little changes over time but this is a complete about face and seems to be related to the person they are dating. I always believed that you have to accept the other person for who they are as they are, that you cannot change someone to what you want them to be. Can a person completely change who they are???

 

[pfishgirl]

In my opinion.... NO !!! sorry !!

 

[ryan840]

I think a person can/will change only if THEY WANT TO... So if this person wanted to make the change, then sure it could last. If not, then it probably won't.

 

['Canes Fan]

not that radically

 

[Mysteria]

Not for good they can't. I know a person who does this with each new bf though. She is a wonderful person just as she is but when she is with someone she seems to change to suit who they want her to be.

Myst

 

[Jeff in BigD]

I think if someone wants to change, they will. People that have overcome addictions or have found religion for instance.

 

['Canes Fan]

the old saying 'change comes from within' is dead-on. not 'change comes from my new girlfriend who happens to have a nice rack.' I'll take responsibility for my own actions, if I ever have them.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

[QUOTE='Canes Fan]the old saying 'change comes from within' is dead-on. not 'change comes from my new girlfriend who happens to have a nice rack.' I'll take responsibility for my own actions, if I ever have them.[/QUOTE]
True (like the old cliche, "I love you, now change), but I think if someone already wants to change seeing a new person can be the catalyst to spark that change.