Can I have a hug please

[EROS]

Laura, I'm sorry that this is such a painful time for you and your son. Here's hoping that you both find some peace through each other .

That said, I just don't understand why people here request "hugs" for vaguely worded troubles in their lives. Why tantalize or tease people with obfuscations????? It's like EROS posting: " I'm on the edge with my wife." or " My son is in quicksand".

If members wish to share their lives with others and seek support, then do it. Don't reach out from the shadows..........

 

[glo]

Whatever you need a hug for......here it comes.

{{{HUGS}}}

I know how badly one can need a hug, but need to keep what is wrong inside. Hope you both get through this....

 

[dianeschlicht]

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))

Some times words aren't what kids really need from parents. Just being there for a hug can be best. My DS had a best friend who committed suicide in school his senior year. Words only made our son more distant.

 

[CarolG]

{{{Hugs}}} for both of you.

 

[SuiteDisney]

Thank you all.... so very much. I don't know what I'd do without you. (((hugs)))


EROS, I asked for hugs because I was hurting and needed some support. I did not go into details for several reasons, among them being....

1. It hurt too much to talk about.
2. While I might tell some of the people that I'm close to, there are 50,000+ people with access to this post that I don't know and I don't want to share the details.

I don't know about you, but it's possible for me to comfort a friend and not demand to know what's wrong.

 

[oldkicker]

{{{{hugs}}}} for both of you, Laura....

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by ***********

I don't know about you, but it's possible for me to comfort a friend and not demand to know what's wrong.

Thanks, Laura . I guess that we approach friendship differently. When I'm having a hard time I don't simply say to friends: " My life is a mess. Wish me luck". Either I choose to share my problems with them OR I choose to keep my pain confidential . I don't think that I'm "off the chart" here. In turn, I don't have any friends who have ever come to me and said simply, "I'm sinking; please give me a hug".

Good Luck,

 

[browneyes]

EROS, maybe that's where men and women are different. If I'm sad, depressed or just need a hug, I rarely say anything to anyone unless I'm real close to them. I deal with my conflicts internally. I'm a very private person (despite my huge post count ). Face to face friends can tell something is wrong just by looking at me. They know not to pry. I'm more than willing to offer a blind hug if it's needed without knowing why the person needs a hug, because that's how I want to be treated.

LOL! I figured you'd be happy to give a hug-regardless of why though.

 

[newmousecateer]

Lots of {{{HUGS}}} for you Laura, and lots {{{HUGS}}} for DS.

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by browneyes
EROS, maybe that's where men and women are different.

Perhaps you're right. Men are much more oriented towards "problem-solving". Women relate on a more affective plane.

Browneyes, we'd never make it as friends . If I saw that you were sad, I wouldn't let you "off the hook" with a simple hug. I'd definitely pry............. and hound you ...............

 

[Serena]

Laura, more {{{hugs}}}. How are things today? Somewhat better I hope?



I guess I can do both. To friends who wish to keep the problem to themselves, I can offer support without knowing why.
However, if it is a close friend or family, I want to help and usually find out what's the problem is. My family and friends know this. They know if they come to me, they will talk about it.

Sometimes my help is just listening, other times it's some blunt truth and not so nice. They still come to me, so I guess I do a pretty good job.

I tend to be pretty private too. My usual answer is "fine". However, if I had a friend that did care enough to notice things weren't fine and did care enough to hound me about it, I would appreciate it, eventually.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by EROS
Perhaps you're right. Men are much more oriented towards "problem-solving". Women relate on a more affective plane.

Browneyes, we'd never make it as friends . If I saw that you were sad, I wouldn't let you "off the hook" with a simple hug. I'd definitely pry............. and hound you ...............

LOL! I'm a problem solver too. My mind likes to take the analytical plane. But in personal matters, I don't believe in rushing emotions too much (I hate to see tears ).

I'm not one to be hounded. I'm a little on the stubborn side. I would think it would be sweet that you'd want to pry, but my stubborn side wouldn't back down much. I try not to let people see much of my sad side (IRL, if I'm sad, I never make eye contact).

I'm always willing to help others if they need a hug or an ear to listen.

 

[MerryPoppins]

Hoping things are better. I'm here if you need a shoulder, but my best wishes, prayers and hugs come without need of knowing what they are for. Hope today is a better day.