Can a kid be dyslexic and a GOOD reader?

[Magpie]

I also wanted to add that i've always had a quiet personality too as well as overly anxious at times.

As a kid I was always asking if the doors were locked. If I thought my sister was being too dangerous I'd disipline her even though my parents were right there and knew she was just being her ususal dare devil self and all was fine, but to me, she was going to get hurt and so I worried. I always had friends, but was never someone's best friend, or if I was, they'd move on after a year or 2. I never could figure out why. In college that went away, but I just never totally fit in until then. It wasn't that i was shy or rude, but I was always the naive one, the quiet one, the careful one. Even today I hate being in meetings/groups where I don't know the people, I just don't tend to talk in those situations. Once I'm comfortable with people you can't shut me up.

Yes, he's very careful - and reliable and responsible. I can always count on him!

However, he confessed to me recently that he has recurring nightmares about one of his friends doing something dangerous and being unable to stop him, and then his friend gets hurt. I know the boy he's talking about - he's ADD, so he can sometimes get a bad case of the "Oh, shiny!", but he's not at all the kind of kid you normally worry about.

In my early 30's I was diagnosed with panic/anxiety disorder and depression. The dr's weren't surprised when I told them my childhood history and that I had learning disabilities. They say the 2 often go together. Don't panic, I'm not saying this will happen to your son, but I am saying you've mentioned his difficulty talking to strangers and making connections with people, so it reminded me of me. Turns out my anxiety was triggered by a medication I was given for a sleep disorder, otherwise it probably would have never triggered into a full blown disorder. I'm on 1 med for it now and don't have any problems anymore.

I am concerned about this... He's had issues with anxiety since he was very small. He used to freak out at loud noises. I ended up homeschooling him until Grade 5, because when he was in Kindy he started saying his brain was "bad" and making him think "bad things" and finally he began talking about wishing he was dead. So I thought, maybe this boy's brain just needs more peace and quiet. I'll teach him at home!

And it went pretty good, more or less... He was kind of mood-swingy until he was 9 and finally diagnosed as hypoglycemic. A proper diet to keep his blood sugar level made a HUGE difference and I was thinking, "Hurray, he's cured!"

But each year he's been back at school since then, he's gotten progressively more anxious. He sees a psychiatrist now, who has helped a lot this year. My husband worries that the boy could get suicidal down the road, which is frankly something I don't even want to think about. (*sticks fingers in ears and starts singing*)

I also have gone through vision training a few times because I go crossed eyed too easily and my depth perception is slightly off. Have your eye dr check for this. It helped with my reading as well.

Lastly, I have fibromyalagia and I believe I've had it my whole life. I always had terrible pains which were always said to be growing pains. I've always been overly sensitive to noise. I hate loud things, and by loud, I mean just above normal sounding to most people. My hearing tests show I have way above normal hearing on low and high pitched sounds. My whole life my parents wondered why sometimes I'd just stop what I was doing, sit down and just stare off into space, they thought I was just being lazy and would yell at me to get up and do something. I could never explain it, but it was just something I needed to do. When they diagnosed my problems they told me I was overly stimulated by noise at that moment and was just recentering myself and encouraged me to sit quietly when I need to. Sometimes noise can bother me so much I hear a conversation across a restaurant, but not the person at my table, I start to feel sick to my stomach. I'll just get up, go outside for a few minutes and let my brain reset.

The hearing thing is funny... the boy tested as having "borderline" hearing back in Kindy, but he hates loud noises. He can't sing worth a darn (he sounds hilariously bad), and yet he's an excellent instrumental musician! So I have no idea how all that works.

But the staring into space thing - he used to do that every now and then when he was a little guy. It was kind of freaky, especially when he'd suddenly snap out of it and either start crying or try to hit his sister. I'm glad he seems to have outgrown it!

Noise and light sensistivity are also common to people with fibro, as are learning disablities. No one knows why but when you start comparing notes with other fibromyalagia patients you often find these things. The only other person I know who see's the white lines has fibro too.

So that's something to consider for your son as well. Does he hurt alot? Do you have someone in your family with it? It's not a cure for the issues, but it's just another reason to keep fighting until he gets the help he needs.

He mostly hurts when he's under stress. He gets a lot of physical symptoms from anxiety like leg aches and rashes and stomach aches and head aches - or sometimes he just catches horrible versions of whatever's going around. When he's not stressed, he's perfectly healthy.

My mother has fibromyalgia, but I didn't think children could have it. Since his symptoms go away when he's happy and relaxed, I think I'd rather focus on finding a way for him to feel like that most of the time.

 

[Magpie]

Boy, you could be describing my Aspie (child with Asperger Syndrome).

DD13 is extremely social. She'll talk to amost anybody who will let her talk to them.

The thing with teachers is actually a big complaint of DD13's teachers. She's had a goal in her IEP for the last couple of years involving teaching her appropriate ways to converse with people of differnt social positions such as peers vs teachers. They haven't been overly successful with this and it drives her teachers nuts. They know she's not being disrespectful but it's hard for them to talk with a student to talks to them like they're peers. Thank goodness they're understanding.

DD13 has a few really good friends. They're all on the spectrum or have their own anxiety or social problems. They seem to just "get" each other even though they're all so different. When any one of them is melting down, they're great about either supporting them through the meltdown or else helping them get past it. They're such a great group of kids.

DD13 definitely does have trouble with people she doesn't know if she's not the one who initiates contact. Even at WDW she won't always answer CMs who talk to her. I've had to really drill into her what kinds of responses are expected by TSA because one time she wouldn't even talk to the agent asking her for her name. Yikes! That could have been bad. It's mostly adults that she doesn't know who elicit this response from her. Kids she seems to try to dominate (not intentionally I don't think but she just seems to think she's always supposed to be in charge; we're working on that too).

Does your dd have any issues at school, with the other kids?

My son's always gotten along very well, at least on the surface. He's never been ostracized or abused by the other kids - in fact, I suspect many more of them consider him a friend, than he does.

(Now me on the other hand, yikes! School was hell.)

 

[Singledad]

Yes, he's very careful - and reliable and responsible. I can always count on him!

However, he confessed to me recently that he has recurring nightmares about one of his friends doing something dangerous and being unable to stop him, and then his friend gets hurt. I know the boy he's talking about - he's ADD, so he can sometimes get a bad case of the "Oh, shiny!", but he's not at all the kind of kid you normally worry about.

Oh man, I hated those kind of dreams. The hardest part about it is that he is learning that you cannot control other people, only yourself. as much as he wants to protect him, in the end he can't. don't know what you can do to try to ease these dreams.. maybe by reminding him that he wouldn't be the one having to 'save' his friend, that is the adults jobs?


I am concerned about this... He's had issues with anxiety since he was very small. He used to freak out at loud noises. I ended up homeschooling him until Grade 5, because when he was in Kindy he started saying his brain was "bad" and making him think "bad things" and finally he began talking about wishing he was dead. So I thought, maybe this boy's brain just needs more peace and quiet. I'll teach him at home!

I wish i knew more about what those bad things where...

And it went pretty good, more or less... He was kind of mood-swingy until he was 9 and finally diagnosed as hypoglycemic. A proper diet to keep his blood sugar level made a HUGE difference and I was thinking, "Hurray, he's cured!"

But each year he's been back at school since then, he's gotten progressively more anxious. He sees a psychiatrist now, who has helped a lot this year. My husband worries that the boy could get suicidal down the road, which is frankly something I don't even want to think about. (*sticks fingers in ears and starts singing*)
You may not want to think about, but I am glad you are aware it is a possiblity. education yourself now, so you can make sure it never happens. Learn the subtle clues!


The hearing thing is funny... the boy tested as having "borderline" hearing back in Kindy, but he hates loud noises. He can't sing worth a darn (he sounds hilariously bad), and yet he's an excellent instrumental musician! So I have no idea how all that works.

has no one looked into sensory processing? (this goes the the audio processing already mentioned!) Not every kid has the same troubles, and they don't even have the same troubles every day!
Yes, that is right.. more links! (can you tell I like to pass on resources?) http://www.spdfoundation.net/library/checklist.html Has a very basic list of some possible signs of SPD. To give an example: my daughter has no troubles with eating, taste and texture is not a problem for her. Other children however cannot stand to eat, it is painful for them, or others couldn't care either way. My daughter however doesn't seem to understand 'body space' she craves contact with others, rough houses, and can't tell if she is too close to others. She doesn't process where her body is in space very well, and was scared to do things like walk up stairs for a long long time. She also has a lot of the early signs of Dysgraphia. Her fine motor skills are not on par for what they should be compared to her peers. She *can* do things, it just takes her longer and tires her out quickly. although she craves touch, in the form of full body hugs, and rubbing her face into other's arms, she dislikes most clothing, outside of pajamas as they are not 'soft' enough. sound wise? She can be the loudest kid in the block, but if she hears someone whispering, it bothers her. She enjoys fireworks, but the sound of thunder (even fake stuff) is 'too loud' and 'hurts my ears'. I could go on and on... the sheer unevenness of what you mentioned, about having been 'borderline' with hearing, but hating loud... just convinces me more that you do need a broader evalution done, including testing how he processes his senses...

But the staring into space thing - he used to do that every now and then when he was a little guy. It was kind of freaky, especially when he'd suddenly snap out of it and either start crying or try to hit his sister. I'm glad he seems to have outgrown it!

glad he has learned better coping!

He mostly hurts when he's under stress. He gets a lot of physical symptoms from anxiety like leg aches and rashes and stomach aches and head aches - or sometimes he just catches horrible versions of whatever's going around. When he's not stressed, he's perfectly healthy.

My mother has fibromyalgia, but I didn't think children could have it. Since his symptoms go away when he's happy and relaxed, I think I'd rather focus on finding a way for him to feel like that most of the time.

Yup, as I said before, They could call her (my DD) Cheese for all I care, so long as she gets the support and skills she needs to be successful.

I think no matter how much I link you, in the end, you need a fuller evaluation. Personally my daughter was evaluated by her school, but that wasn't a full enough evaluation for me. I now have her scheduled to be better evaluated with a larger team at the developmental center about an hour away. So rather having one OT, a school psyh, and the sp. ed teacher test a few things, DD will be also seen by a brain doctor (I can't spell nero, nerow, neuro... ), speech specialist, etc. so that a broader picture can be seen.

 

[clanmcculloch]

Does your dd have any issues at school, with the other kids?

My son's always gotten along very well, at least on the surface. He's never been ostracized or abused by the other kids - in fact, I suspect many more of them consider him a friend, than he does.

(Now me on the other hand, yikes! School was hell.)

She was a target of a few bullies a few years ago but between the school cracking down on them and us coming up with strategies (she no longer acknowledges their existence and won't even turn their direction if they speak to her; they've now lost interest in her) these girls are no longer a problem.

Otherwise, she gets along with almost everybody. She gets judgemental at times but I think because everybody knows that she's autistic they just walk away when she's in a mood. Kids seem to go out of their way to include her a lot of times. She's more likely to exclude herself than others are to exclude her. When we're out anywhere or at school functions, kids come up to her and say hi and start talking to her. Thank goodness. It is all on the surface though and she doesn't consider the majority to be friends but rather aquaintances (sp?) though some of them may consider her to be a friend.

ETA: The hearing thing with loud noises that you describe is VERY much a sensory issue. The shutting down is a coping strategy that the brain employs because the sounds can be physically painful.

 

[Magpie]

Yup, as I said before, They could call her (my DD) Cheese for all I care, so long as she gets the support and skills she needs to be successful.

I think no matter how much I link you, in the end, you need a fuller evaluation. Personally my daughter was evaluated by her school, but that wasn't a full enough evaluation for me. I now have her scheduled to be better evaluated with a larger team at the developmental center about an hour away. So rather having one OT, a school psyh, and the sp. ed teacher test a few things, DD will be also seen by a brain doctor (I can't spell nero, nerow, neuro... ), speech specialist, etc. so that a broader picture can be seen.

You're right - I've been going over who I can ask for referrals. His family doctor would be a good place to start, I guess. He can get the boy's hearing tested. Then maybe the eye doctor and the psychiatrist.

Thank you for the link to sensory processing disorders! I don't think anyone's ever thought about that where my son's concerned and I wouldn't have said he had many of the early symptoms. But he sure has a lot of the adolescent/adult ones!

And well, okay... thinking it over, we had a baby who choked on solids, wouldn't look anyone in the eye, cried when the wind was in his face, screamed when it was too noisy, barely slept, nursed for six hours at a stretch, and chewed non-stop for the better part of five years. I still have toothmarks in the upstairs bannister. So maybe he fit some of the traits... But he was still my EASY baby, compared to his colicky sister!

P.S. About "wishing you knew what those bad things are" - me, too! The boy was never able to explain it, and I didn't think it would be a good idea to push at the time. I doubt he remembers it now.

ETA: The hearing thing with loud noises that you describe is VERY much a sensory issue. The shutting down is a coping strategy that the brain employs because the sounds can be physically painful.

Oh... I had no idea!

I mean, I didn't know it hurt but I still used to feel awful when he was startled by loud noises.

I remember watching him up on stage during a kids' theatre production and just cringing because I knew everyone was about to clap. Sure enough, as soon as they began cheering, he startled and then started to bawl. He's got lots more control now, but he still flatly refuses to do solos in the band.

It's too bad... He'd sound great.

 

[Singledad]

You're right - I've been going over who I can ask for referrals. His family doctor would be a place to start, I guess. He can get the boy's hearing tested. Then maybe the eye doctor and the psychiatrist.

That is what I did with my DD. I went to her normal doctor and said I wanted a referrel for a broad developmental evaluation, and stated why, and my concerns. He did the referral no problem! Sometimes these groups/centers have all of those (hearing, eye, psychiatrist) at the same center and they do a true team evaluation. I think these are the most helpful as they are looking at the child from more than one 'side' if things, and seeing as kids have 'good' and 'off' days, and some of these appts maybe split between several days, you have a greater chance of all behaviors to be observed.

Thank you for the link to sensory processing disorders! I don't think anyone's ever thought about that where my son's concerned and I wouldn't have said he had many of the early symptoms. But he sure has a lot of the adolescent/adult ones!

And well, okay... thinking it over, we had a baby who choked on solids, wouldn't look anyone in the eye, cried when the wind was in his face, screamed when it was too noisy, barely slept, nursed for six hours at a stretch, and chewed non-stop for the better part of five years. I still have toothmarks in the upstairs bannister. So maybe he fit some of the traits... But he was still my EASY baby, compared to his colicky sister!

Yeah, I found this by pure luck. No one mentioned it to me, but in my 'studies' of the internet, looking at what maybe going on with my DD and what I can do to correct it... (esp the climbing all over people and hurting us. no doesn't cut it. it is a need you can see!) I came across that website I linked you. when her teacher mentioned wanting her evaluated through the school (focusing on fine motor skills and anxeity) I agree and spefically requested they evaluate for SPD as well. I am SO GLAD I made that request as I was right in that she does have need of OT for SPD. in just a few months of 30 min of OT 2x a week, and she is doing so much better about a lot of things. She still hurts us, but we now have ways to give her that touch and feel and pressure needed without hurting us. (weighted lap pad, weighted blankets. 'heavy work'.) so that we are not being chronically abused by my 5 year old.

P.S. About "wishing you knew what those bad things are" - me, too! The boy was never able to explain it, and I didn't think it would be a good idea to push at the time. I doubt he remembers it now.

Yeah, I wouldn't have wanted to push either, but knowing would give you more insight into what was/is happening. Just because the signs are not as loud, they are still there. He just has learned some coping skills on his own!


Oh... I had no idea!

I mean, I didn't know it hurt but I still used to feel awful when he was startled by loud noises.

How does it feel when you hear the nails on chalkboard noise? Isn't is physically painful? That 'feeling' could be connected to things most people never think about.. a seem in a sock, someone whispering.. the echo in a school gym....

I remember watching him up on stage during a kids' theatre production and just cringing because I knew everyone was about to clap. Sure enough, as soon as they began cheering, he startled and then started to bawl. He's got lots more control now, but he still flatly refuses to do solos in the band.

It's too bad... He'd sound great.

Something to think about is if he would be able to use something like hunters muffs. They dampen loud noises, but you can still hear speech. (and most likely his music.) I got a pair for 8 bucks at walmart, and they helped at disney world for the thunder parts (living with the land, the golf ball ride... (not mission space, but it is something space... spaceship earth?) another idea that wouldn't be as noticeable to others on a stage would be earplugs.

 

[Magpie]

Yeah, I found this by pure luck. No one mentioned it to me, but in my 'studies' of the internet, looking at what maybe going on with my DD and what I can do to correct it... (esp the climbing all over people and hurting us. no doesn't cut it. it is a need you can see!) I came across that website I linked you. when her teacher mentioned wanting her evaluated through the school (focusing on fine motor skills and anxeity) I agree and spefically requested they evaluate for SPD as well. I am SO GLAD I made that request as I was right in that she does have need of OT for SPD. in just a few months of 30 min of OT 2x a week, and she is doing so much better about a lot of things. She still hurts us, but we now have ways to give her that touch and feel and pressure needed without hurting us. (weighted lap pad, weighted blankets. 'heavy work'.) so that we are not being chronically abused by my 5 year old.

That's so funny!

My son never did that to us, but I used to joke that he was an "agent of destruction", because he kept breaking things without meaning to. Beloved toys, furniture, plates, cups... things just seemed to fall apart in his hands, and he couldn't explain what happened. He's not so bad now, but he still goes through at least three binders, two backpacks and a couple of lunch boxes every year. And his jeans end up ripped to shreds, despite him not being at all athletic!

Now my daughter did do the "fling herself bodily" at us and gave me some bruises. But then I remembered my mom telling me that I did the same thing at five. So what I practiced instead was catching her and hugging her until she struggled to get away. That seemed to fix the problem, despite being somewhat counter-intuitive! I think if she'd had a real issue, it wouldn't have been so easy to solve.

 

[Singledad]

That's so funny!

My son never did that to us, but I used to joke that he was an "agent of destruction", because he kept breaking things without meaning to. Beloved toys, furniture, plates, cups... things just seemed to fall apart in his hands, and he couldn't explain what happened. He's not so bad now, but he still goes through at least three binders, two backpacks and a couple of lunch boxes every year. And his jeans end up ripped to shreds, despite him not being at all athletic!

Now my daughter did do the "fling herself bodily" at us and gave me some bruises. But then I remembered my mom telling me that I did the same thing at five. So what I practiced instead was catching her and hugging her until she struggled to get away. That seemed to fix the problem, despite being somewhat counter-intuitive! I think if she'd had a real issue, it wouldn't have been so easy to solve.

yeah, he sounds like the sensory processing thing, doesn't process how hard/strong he is on things... learning to be better on his own, but I am sure OT would help greatly. It has with my daughter. she doesn't really fling, it is more of a full contact pushinghug... and literally climbing on us if we are sitting. somehow her rear ends up by our ears, but she is still full contact bear hugging us... she wiggles up, and knocks her head in your neck (taking your breath away), even just hugging the arm can be painful, as she cuts off circulation, and tugs and pulls with all 50lbs of her body... and twists because she wants to kiss you at the same time... Now we have come up with 'squishes' where she sits behind me on the couch, and I lean back . she ends up nearly choking me at times though as she pulls me closer/heavier on her, often by grabbing my neck, or the neck of my shirt. and refusing to let go. but that is far easier to tolerate that yanking and pulling and climbing... esp, when i say 'we' I mean me and my step dad (who has fybromialgia and turns 62 in a month.)

I too see some of the sensory things with me, as I too am to hard on things. I break pencils and pens by griping them too hard, until my mom started to buy my packs from the miltary surplus store I went through a bag every 3 months. folders were given up on, and I was lucky if the notebook wasn't in tatters within a few weeks. I am still that bad... thankfully this laptop is sturdy. has lasted a full year and still works, though it is cracked, and missing keys, and has had to be superglued back together...

either way, I wish you luck on this journey. Remember, if it doesn't seem right to you, it may not be right. don't take an answer just because you are tired of looking for one.

 

[Magpie]

either way, I wish you luck on this journey. Remember, if it doesn't seem right to you, it may not be right. don't take an answer just because you are tired of looking for one.

Thank you! I appreciate all the advice you've given me - and the others who've responded, too!

FWIW - I managed to solve my son's "snapping pencils" problem by only buying mechanical pencils. If he put any pressure on the lead at all it snapped immediately. It drove him crazy for awhile, and there were tears, but eventually he learned to use a lighter touch when he was writing.

 

[katrina1122]

Yep, kids can have fibro, but it's rarely diagnosed, it's usually attributed to something else. I didn't actually get a dx until I was 25, but having read up on it, I know I've always had it.

You are right, no need to worry about it if it isn't affecting his daily life. My point was just that if you are having a hard time with dr's listening to your concerns that if he does present some fibro symptoms it could be another piece of ammunition to keep fighting for help.

 

[bookmama]

I've been wondering about this for many years now, but another thread got me to thinking about it again.

My 13yo son has been diagnosed with a Non-Verbal Learning Disability (NVLD). But when I look up the symptoms of NVLD, he doesn't fit most of them at all. If anything some of the weaknesses they list are his greatest strengths (he's a big picture kid, with a lot of common sense).

I've always thought he might be dyslexic, but when I called the local association the woman on the other end of the phone said abruptly, "If he reads above grade level, then he's not dyslexic!" and that was the end of that conversation.

So I wonder... if I hadn't taught him to read when he was three, would he be diagnosed dyslexic now? Based on the list I've read, he has all of the verbal characteristics, and many of the mental and physicals ones. He just happens to be a very good reader, too. (Comprehension-wise, anyway - he does read slower than most other kids.)

It doesn't really matter, I guess, but I'm still curious. He definitely has a learning disability, I'm just not sure that they've slapped the correct label on him.

He could have dysgraphia. It is a disorder for writing, my son has it. For a long time I thought it was dyslexia too. have him tested for dsygraphia. Dev is a good reader, actually above grade level, but his writing is horrific.

 

[mackay_j]

The answer is yes, I'm dyslexic and an avid reader, I was at uni doing my Chemistry degree when I was diagnosed way back when they were just finding out about it. I had always baffled my teachers all the way through school I was A + at all maths/science subjets and great at reading comp but could not write well enough for most others read (the techers used to call me out and get me to read my answers so they could mark them!), but I failed any writting type stuff - eng, french, his etc- It didn't hold me back. I was very lucky to live in a smallish comunity and have the support of my parents and teachers who although stumped by my inability to write still made sure and tell me often that they knew I was bright, not to let it bother me and to keep telling me I was going to do well so not to panic about it- they also spent many many hours teaching me the spelling of words for 4-5 days before main science exams for me to use in order for me to get the A grades I needed for uni


Years later and I now have a very inteligent dd who is studing Civil Engeneering at Glasgow uni (one of the youngest to get in ever -aged 16- but we got her to prespone until she was 17 so she could join in with more of the social stuff). She started reading at 3 and was reading so well by 7 the school had to order her books from the middle school -HP was one of her readers at 8. But right from 4 when she started to write we knew she was dyslexic (other aspects were also showing clumsy/uncoordinated etc) - we didn't make abig deal of it- as she was doing so well anyway and didn't bother to get her tested until she was much older and at secondary school - kid of had too as she was in the top sets and sat a spelling test in english a was very very embaressed to get 4/60 at that piont we agreed with the school it was time to get her tested.

And now with the help that was available to her she even got an A for her higher Eng. Her written English was was transcribed before marking so that spelling errors removed She also gets an extra time in examines to try and check her spelling- this has been continued from school into uni.

 

[Celidh]

OP, this is a hard situation to be in. To know that your child needs help but to not know exactly what the problem is and how to help them.

My oldest ds is almost 14. He has adhd and non verbal learning disorder. I often wondered about dyslexia (when I mentioned it to the school when he was in gr. 4, I had a big argument with the teachers who told me there was no such thing as dyslexia - no help for ds there obviously) and more recently have changed my opinion to dysgraphia. I do know that the poor child struggles horribly with any written work and it is pretty much illegible! I keep after him though because as he gets older, the teachers will no longer struggle to make out his work. I tell him if they can't read it, he gets a "0"

Younger ds was diagnosed with Aspergers a little over a year ago. I had my suspicions from my own research. His teachers all said he was ADHD but it didn't quite fit. He wants to be social and wants to have friends. He just doesn't make friends very easily as he is sooo overwhelming to them. He is very "in your face" and often doesn't get physical boundaries and doesn't clue in when he is going on about things and not letting others get a word in or are not even paying attention. Aspies can be very social but don't get social clues as to what is the norm. He also has a bit of depression going on. He is 11.

The big thing is that so many of these disorders or conditions (not sure what the politically correct term is) have overlapping signs and symptoms it is hard for us or a professional to get a proper diagnosis that fits. All to often many of these children have more than one condition. I must say, your description of your son does fit many of the Asperger's traits. The other thing to remember is that one doesn't have to have all the traits to be diagnosed. My ds doesn't have all of the Aspie traits but enough that it fit with his behaviors.

I hope you get some help for your son.