Calgon, take me away! Long Rant

[SnowAngel]

I’m having a real bad day so far! Ugh.. ever have one of days, you want to go and hide? Long ramble so bear with me. I need to vent.

First, last night dh’s father calls. He tells us he’s going to dictate our lives and if move near him, we will pay him our paychecks and he will pay our bills. Exactly what in the bleep is he thinking?!? I don’t think so. This morning, I sent him a two page e-mail signed in dh and I’s name. We will no longer be accepting any help from him. All remember when getting assistance with some it is not a good idea. As someone said it comes with barb wire strings attached.

Okay those issues completed. Work is going bad. I get in trouble for something I had already dealt with. My supervisor is in the shop all day and I just hate even hearing his voice. And it’s going crazy around here and tensions are running high.

Then, I run home real quick to find something I needed for work. There is 3yo in just a t-shirt.. no pants or underwear in the front yard. She tells me she’s hungry and where’s Daddy! I go into house and find him upstairs asleep. He gets defensive when I go off on him saying he stayed up all night the night before to wash clothes. He did wash clothes but he really stayed up to play computer games. I understand him being tired but you can’t be that irresponsible with a child. I tell him I can’t trust him with the baby. I ask my mom to watch her as I had to get back to work.

This while going through some major work this week at my job and trying to plan our future. And the phone has been cut off today. They have been paid so now I need to call and see what is up.

Now my chest is starting to hurt, feel sick to my stomach and blurry eyesight. Likely because my blood pressure is up. And I can’t call in sick due to too much going on at work.

I can’t take anymore. Calgon, Calgon where are you? Take me away please

Okay rant over.
I hope everyone else is having a great day.

 

[poohandwendy]

Stand strong sister! I hear you!


PS: sounds like you are doing really well with the FIL problems...give yourself a hug, buy a candy bar, take a long bath, drink a bottle of wine ...

Oops, edited to add, if you have blood pressure problems disregard any of my unhealthy advice, but do something fun for you!

 

[SnowAngel]

Thanks! I don't know I heard wine was good for the heart.

And Bah Humbug,, no time for fun

 

[Mimi Q]

Sorry you are having a bad day.

 

[Beauty]

I'm so sorry! I would have been terrified if I had found my 3 year old outside alone!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I think you did the right thing with your FIL. Good for you. Just do your best to stay strong and stick to what you wrote.

As for the little one running around outside, you need to have someone responsible who can watch her and apparently he can not.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but the man needs to grow up. A father can not be up all night playing computer games when he knows he has to take care of his child all day the next day.

If he chooses to be a SAHF (I presume he is, though I might be wrong) he needs to accept the responsiblities that go along with that. SAHMs don't stay up all night and sleep all day. My mom was a SAHM and she worked her butt off day in and day out to take care of my brother and I when we were growing up. SAHFs should be no different than SAHMs.

If he can't handle the responsibilty than you need to find someone who can, whether that means he works and you stay home, or you both work and hire a nanny or whatever solution works best for the safety of your child.

I'm so glad your little one was not hurt outside.

We frequently come home to our neighbors toddler wandering around in nothing but diapers in the front yard (not fence or gate either) and it is just one of my biggest worries. We usually collect her and bring her back to the them.

Please, please don't let your DH be like my neighbors.

 

[SnowAngel]

EsmeraldaX, I agree. It's been a big issue with us. He does not make a good SAHF. Yet, we don't have the money for childcare at the moment and he goes to classes at night.

I was so angry, I just went off on him. It scared me to death seeing her out there. Proably said a few things I shouldn't have. I tend to be overprotective of my children. The baby is not allowed outside without an adult even in the fenced backyard. I don't like that he'll go upstairs to watch tv and let the baby wander around downstairs by herslef. Too much to go in there but lets says he makes a horrid sahf. He loves them to death but not really responsible. My work has problems with me leaving work due to problems him and my mom could take care. They can't seem to though.

This is me today I'm waiting for the people with the funny coats and white jackets to come and take me away. ahh heeheee hoohoo "They coming to take me away!"

 

[kimmy-man]

Hang in there!!!
When we moves last year, my husband became a SAHD. While he seems to be a bit more responsible than yours, there are still issues. It's hard to have to be both Mom and Dad. So, I understand your stress. They just don't seem to naturally know what to do and how to handle things.
But, please know you are not in it alone!

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I'm feelin ya!! I just posted my own 'bad day' vent!! My hubby was a SAHD for awhile, and they would always be in the 'day before' clothes and have cheetos for dinner. He said those were the hardest 3 months he had dealt with, but when I did it for a year each birth, of course 'that' wasn't hard to him. It's a guy thing, and just being a mom, no man can take as good of care as our kids as their mom.
Take a deep breath, and just try to make it to crash into bed tonight! That's what I'm waitin on!!