Buying a House....can bad vibes remain?

[kristieuk]

I realise this thread may make me sound slightly mad, but I just wondered whether anyone else had a view on this....

We are looking to move, and have found a stunning house that suits our needs perfectly, and is just about within budget. We are in the process of making an offer, although whether it is accepted remains to be seen....

The problem is this : the people have two young children but are selling because they are separating.

Years ago, I had been with my then boyfriend for about 6 years. We had a fantastic relationship that had survived university, travelling abroad separately, and 2 years of living in London. We then rented a new flat in London where the previous occupiers had separated. But within 6 months, my boyfriend had a complete change of heart - all he could say was he still loved me but for reasons he couldn't explain, he didn't see us having a future. This was a complete bolt from the blue, and even 10 years later, I still don't understand what happened, and neither can he. I always remember him saying 'it's just like this flat is cursed', referring to the previous couple splitting up.

Anyway....from that point on, I vowed never to live in a house where the reason for me having it was two people separating. But I love this house! We've only been married a month, and I don't want to do anything to jinx us!

Like I say, I know this sounds crazy. What do you think?

 

[jen_uk]

Do you have a good feeling when you walk into the house? If you do then go for it but if you feel uneasy or for some reason uncomfortable and you don't know why then I would not buy it. A couple of years ago dh and I looked around a house and it was perfect for what we needed at the time yet for some reason I had a bad feeling, I ignored it and literally from the day we moved in we had nothing but problems, not just with the house but loads of other stuff that went wrong in our lives for no apparent reason. When we moved this year and walked into our new house it felt like a weight had been lifted!

I would trust your instincts.

 

[cleo]

I am absolutely 100% convinced that 'bad energy' can linger. I always do a 'cleansing' of anything that's got a previous attachment that might not be great energy.

The Native Americans burn sage sticks (smudge sticks, as they are sometimes called) to clear negative energy. You could try that if you buy the house. Just go room to room and don't forget to do the corners and the closets!

Yes, I know it sounds weird and new-agey and maybe it is. I do it anyway.

 

[jen_uk]

I am absolutely 100% convinced that 'bad energy' can linger. I always do a 'cleansing' of anything that's got a previous attachment that might not be great energy.

The Native Americans burn sage sticks (smudge sticks, as they are sometimes called) to clear negative energy. You could try that if you buy the house. Just go room to room and don't forget to do the corners and the closets!

Yes, I know it sounds weird and new-agey and maybe it is. I do it anyway.

Ive heard about that as well! It sounds bonkers but before I had my job interview I burned sage all over the house to get rid of bad luck and I got the job.....! I also had a clean out and cleaned all the drains and plug holes as if they are blocked then it is meant to keep negative energy in the house, now I really do sound barking mad!!

 

[ely3857]

Just be carefull if you do buy this house you dont obsess as that could do more damage to you and your relationship than any previous bad vibes that were there before.

Having said that, I can certainly see your point, with your historic circumstances I would be apprehensive aswell.

If you do move in, once you have made it your home I cant see any problems the previous occupants had been transferred.



Jodie

 

[Dimplenose]

We bought our first flat from a couple who were splitting up. 21 years later we're still happily married. I doubt whether there's a house in existence that hasn't had something "bad" happen - it doesn't mean all their owners will experience this. As JenUK said, trust your instincts, if you don't feel happy about it then don't buy it.

Libby

 

[kristieuk]

The house actually has a really good feeling about it. I was honestly really shocked when we got chatting to the owner and she told us why she was moving away. She was lovely, the kids were lovely, and the house felt 'happy'.

I really take on board the 'cleansing' thing. Even if it is on a psychological level, I really think might help. Thank you for the suggestions!

 

[cleo]

We have a second home that was bought at a great price because the previous owners were divorcing. But just as you are finding, we found the house did not have any 'bad vibes'. We've only been here a year, so I can't comment on long-term issues, but I do think there are some situations where even something bad happening doesn't mean the environment is bad.

Still....I'd smudge.

 

[carolfoy]

I think the smudging is a great idea, even if the problem is only psychological it'll still stop you from 'blaming' the houses 'curse' if and when you ever have an argument. Sometimes the idea that something else is to blame provides ammo to make a small problem bigger

 

[cleo]

When I was doing my internship we had a saying: We don't care HOW our patients get well, we only care that they DO get well.

Whatever it takes to make you feel your home is perfect for you.

 

[UKDEB]

When I was doing my internship we had a saying: We don't care HOW our patients get well, we only care that they DO get well.

Susan, do you have a qualification in psychiatry? Following my Dad's death in 2000, my Mum is a stranger. She was once an intelligent, articulate and opinionated individual, but now she just asks and answers questions. It's impossible to hold a conversation with her. As my daughters are fond of saying, they not only lost their lovely Grampy, but their lovely Granny, too. I'd love to even begin to understand what goes on inside her head. She's driven away all her friends and family - I'm the only one who sticks with her. I know she can't help it, but it's so hard at times (most of the time, in fact). My girls and husband would love to spend a 'normal' Christmas without her, but I can't bear to think of her all alone, even though I know they deserve happiness as much as she does.

 

[cleo]

Hi Deb,

I had 3 years of psychology in my Masters and PhD programs but my actual degree is in Bioenergetic Medicine (natural medicine). Email me at britsguide@yahoo.com and we can talk a bit if you're interested.

 

[UKDEB]

Thanks, Susan - that's very kind. I will take you up on that.