I posted here 2 years ago when DD had an issue with a boy in her 4th grade class. Short story, just before Thanksgiving break, in a 4 hour time period the boy went from threaten to break my DD's fingers to taking the gun from his house, stealing their car, running her over, then shooting her dead. We made the school put restrictions on this boy for the rest of that year as well as the following year. We had no further issues with him.
Until the last month. When DD started middle school, I told her that I didn't know if we would be able to have the restrictions put on him that we did at the old school. Told her, that with luck, she wouldn't have any classes with him or only one. Start of the year, she didn't have him in any. Yea!! But half way thru Sept, due to the over crowded classes for the 6th grade, the school was able to add two teachers and move kids. Well, she went from zero classes to 4 classes with him. I didn't say anything to the school, as we truly hoped that during the last 2 years he had matured and learned that what he did is not acceptable.
Sadly it is becoming very clear, that the boy was just waiting and testing the waters. Since the first of Oct, he has started to make rude comments to her and negative comments about her to classmates. When they are working in quads, he will leave his and go to hers and take stuff away from her. He threw his used tissues at her. He has now, pushed me to my limit - he physically touched her.
He was walking behind her, when he "sneezed" into his hands. He then turned and wiped his hands up and down her arms, starting at her shoulders. She doesn't know if he faked the sneeze or not, the 2 kids who sit facing her, said it sure looked like he really sneezed, but nobody knows for sure. As he was wiping his hands on her, he said here you can get really sick now.
The teacher didn't see any of the touching happen, so nothing was done at the time. The teachers who's class this took place in, if she saw it, she would have taken care of it. Lucky for DD, this teacher makes me feel old, as I use to change her diapers, that is how long I have known her. She was so glad to get DD assigned to her room.
I talked to the principal. And this really upsets both DH and I, the middle school had NO NOTIFICATION of what occurred back in the 4th grade. There is nothing in either DD's file or the boys. The principal assured me, that if they had been aware of if, DD and he would not have been placed in the same class. And as no real surprise, all I had to do was supply the principal with the boys first name and he knew exactly who I was talking about, as they are having major issues with him not including what I just brought to the forefront.
In the classroom, they moved the boys seat closer to the teachers and they are to keep a closer eye on him. And this is where I am at a lose as to what to do. DD says hes still making comments and kids who dont know what occurred two years ago are now giving her grief. One of her friends, did pull one of the kids aside and told them would you want to be around someone who threatened to shoot you?? The school said if it keeps up, they will move the boy out of her classes. But while that makes it better for my DD, it just moves trouble from one room to another.
DH talked to the boys mom. Hes on 4 different meds and hes still outta control her words. Both the boy and his mom were told by DH, that if he keeps up with his verbal attacks on our daughter, we will push to have restrictions placed back on him. And if he touches her again, the police will be called and another police report will be filed. If we have to, we will make it so that he cant be anywhere near her. The school did talk to all the kids who saw him touch her the last time and its in their files at school and we have a copy of what was said while talking with the kids.
I dont think it got thru to the boy that we arent playing a game with him. Since the talk, hes flipped our house off when he walks by, didnt see me standing at the window or DS outside with the dog and he yelled witch at the car when DD and I drove by him last night.
The boy needs help and while it seems like mom is trying, either its all talk or he is just that defiant and nothing short of sending him to a facility/school for wayward kids is going to make a difference.
If you read all this, thanks. This was more of a I need to talk to someone, other than DH on this, because he just sees red as soon as you mention the boys name, then looking for suggestions. But if you have any, please feel free.
Until the last month. When DD started middle school, I told her that I didn't know if we would be able to have the restrictions put on him that we did at the old school. Told her, that with luck, she wouldn't have any classes with him or only one. Start of the year, she didn't have him in any. Yea!! But half way thru Sept, due to the over crowded classes for the 6th grade, the school was able to add two teachers and move kids. Well, she went from zero classes to 4 classes with him. I didn't say anything to the school, as we truly hoped that during the last 2 years he had matured and learned that what he did is not acceptable.
Sadly it is becoming very clear, that the boy was just waiting and testing the waters. Since the first of Oct, he has started to make rude comments to her and negative comments about her to classmates. When they are working in quads, he will leave his and go to hers and take stuff away from her. He threw his used tissues at her. He has now, pushed me to my limit - he physically touched her.
He was walking behind her, when he "sneezed" into his hands. He then turned and wiped his hands up and down her arms, starting at her shoulders. She doesn't know if he faked the sneeze or not, the 2 kids who sit facing her, said it sure looked like he really sneezed, but nobody knows for sure. As he was wiping his hands on her, he said here you can get really sick now.
The teacher didn't see any of the touching happen, so nothing was done at the time. The teachers who's class this took place in, if she saw it, she would have taken care of it. Lucky for DD, this teacher makes me feel old, as I use to change her diapers, that is how long I have known her. She was so glad to get DD assigned to her room.
I talked to the principal. And this really upsets both DH and I, the middle school had NO NOTIFICATION of what occurred back in the 4th grade. There is nothing in either DD's file or the boys. The principal assured me, that if they had been aware of if, DD and he would not have been placed in the same class. And as no real surprise, all I had to do was supply the principal with the boys first name and he knew exactly who I was talking about, as they are having major issues with him not including what I just brought to the forefront.
In the classroom, they moved the boys seat closer to the teachers and they are to keep a closer eye on him. And this is where I am at a lose as to what to do. DD says hes still making comments and kids who dont know what occurred two years ago are now giving her grief. One of her friends, did pull one of the kids aside and told them would you want to be around someone who threatened to shoot you?? The school said if it keeps up, they will move the boy out of her classes. But while that makes it better for my DD, it just moves trouble from one room to another.
DH talked to the boys mom. Hes on 4 different meds and hes still outta control her words. Both the boy and his mom were told by DH, that if he keeps up with his verbal attacks on our daughter, we will push to have restrictions placed back on him. And if he touches her again, the police will be called and another police report will be filed. If we have to, we will make it so that he cant be anywhere near her. The school did talk to all the kids who saw him touch her the last time and its in their files at school and we have a copy of what was said while talking with the kids.
I dont think it got thru to the boy that we arent playing a game with him. Since the talk, hes flipped our house off when he walks by, didnt see me standing at the window or DS outside with the dog and he yelled witch at the car when DD and I drove by him last night.
The boy needs help and while it seems like mom is trying, either its all talk or he is just that defiant and nothing short of sending him to a facility/school for wayward kids is going to make a difference.
If you read all this, thanks. This was more of a I need to talk to someone, other than DH on this, because he just sees red as soon as you mention the boys name, then looking for suggestions. But if you have any, please feel free.
