Broodiness......

[torsie24]

I've got it bad!!

Honestly I do not know where it's come from, but the last couple of weeks I'm thinking about babies like I think about Disney - non stop!

It's madness. No way on earth am I having a baby for at least 2 years. I know this and am very happy with it.

But why wont my brain leave it alone?

Is it a chemical thing? I always thought people were just being a bit funny saying about biological clocks etc. But if this is an actualy physical thing then I hope it will go away again!

 

[jen_uk]

I know exactly how you feel!!

 

[joolz1910]

I think it is a condition that afflicts all habitual planners.
I think it means that deep down you know you are ready for it but that you want it to be perfect, so it will probably take two years' of planning and research!

 

[natalielongstaff]

feel free to borrow my kids your broodiness will soon disapear

 

[jamjar84]

Just find someone with a youngish baby and offer to babysit for a day, that will soon cure your broodiness.

I think that it might be a hormonal thing, I think someone once told me that your body is programmed to want to have a baby at certain times of the month or lifetime, it must be something to do with the survival instinct. If you know you definately don't want to have a baby for two years, just try to put the broodiness to one side, make the most of your freedom whilst you can and do everything you want to do first, my husband and I went on some good holidays, had a fast car and went for spur of the moment trips places etc before we had children, and I'm glad we did now, as it will be a long time before we can do that again (I think it's impossible to get a child seat into a Levin :lol: ) we love our daughter to bits and wouldn't change her for the world, but we certainly didn't realise just how different our lives would be with a baby to consider, it's been more than a year since we've even gone to the cinema together. :L

That said, you should still look forward to when you do have kids, as they are brilliant worth all of the nights in and sensible cars etc.

 

[torsie24]

I think it is a condition that afflicts all habitual planners.
I think it means that deep down you know you are ready for it but that you want it to be perfect, so it will probably take two years' of planning and research!

This is what I've said to Jack (I didn't want him to catch me on pregnancy sites/mothercare and think I had some wierd Ronnie Mitchell thing going on)

He always admits our over-planned holidays are worth my hours of research. So he agrees that me looking into the best bottles, buggies, nappies etc will mean we're very knowledgable when the time comes!

 

[joolz1910]

This is what I've said to Jack (I didn't want him to catch me on pregnancy sites/mothercare and think I had some wierd Ronnie Mitchell thing going on)

He always admits our over-planned holidays are worth my hours of research. So he agrees that me looking into the best bottles, buggies, nappies etc will mean we're very knowledgable when the time comes!

Indulge your obsession and call it planning/research. Have fun.

 

[Head_in_the_clouds]

I totally know what you mean! I'm 25, and have been getting bouts of broodiness since I was 15, and its only getting worse. I work with children (drama teacher) and I have just started working with a pro-life charity helping mums in crisis pregnancies and women suffering after abortions so I am surrounded by little ones and pregnant women alot which doesn't help my broodiness at all! Like you, now is SOOOOOOOO not the right time. I've been single for yonks and honestly feel like I'm never going to find the right guy. I don't have much money. And there are things I want to do to make me happy and fulfilled before I bring children into the world. But I totally feel my biological clock ticking and I'm petrified that I might never have children. I get really depressed about it at times. It also doesn't help that my mum is always making it clear that she wants grandkids asap and everyone who knows me is always saying how I'm a natural with kids and babies and I'll be a great mum. I keep telling myself I can adopt if I never meet the right man. But I really want to get married and carry my own children as well as adopting. It sounds so daft, but I really do get wound up about it. Going to Disney every year just makes me even broodier as it is a huge dream of mine to take my children and family to WDW one day - that is what I wish for at Wishes!

I know its hard, but 2 years is not a long time and you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Spend the next two years doing all the things you won't be able to do when you are a mum! One day you will be taking your babies to Disney!

 

[CustardTart]

I've got it bad!!

Honestly I do not know where it's come from, but the last couple of weeks I'm thinking about babies like I think about Disney - non stop!

It's madness. No way on earth am I having a baby for at least 2 years. I know this and am very happy with it.

But why wont my brain leave it alone?

Is it a chemical thing? I always thought people were just being a bit funny saying about biological clocks etc. But if this is an actualy physical thing then I hope it will go away again!

Aww hun, I'm 46 with 3 fab and extremely ancient offspring but I've got it badly at the moment too!!! And I remember mine started when I was around 12 years old - I didn't even understand what sex was all about but I just wanted babies...

I don't think it ever goes away...

 

[orlandothebeagle]

feel free to borrow my kids your broodiness will soon disapear

Thats funny.

You know I watched a tv programme once and it said that when a female wants a baby, it is like a need to eat or sleep
I can only nearly imagine that feeling!
I have been happily with Len now for 20 years nearly, I am 39 nearly, I have never had the broody thing ever. I wont have kids now(were too old) everybody kept saying ah, just wait, Glad I never held my breath

Good luck and happy sorting out your broodiness.

 

[jamjar84]

I think once your kids grow up your broodiness can transfer to them and you want grandchildren.

My mum didn't think she wanted to be a granny until she was at least 60, but as soon as I told her we were having a baby, she went into broodiness over-drive, and is completely and totally obsessed with my little girl, she says it's even better than having her own children as she didn't have to go through the birth and she doesn't have to get up in the night. :lol:

Your children may not be too forthcoming though.

 

[Cyrano]

feel free to borrow my kids your broodiness will soon disapear

I'll see your 2 and raise to 3

 

[Pinky166]

I don't think it ever goes away...

I was about to say that too.

I've had it since I was about 15 and sometimes it is worse than others but it's never gone away for me.

 

[higgy66]

I've never had it!

I have two wonderful daughters but I've never felt that urge that people have. I wanted children and they took a while to arrive but when the doctor suggested we could have tests I was shocked. I just said "oh no - if I can't have them that's fine!" He was really suprised!

I think I lack those hormones as I also knew I would never breastfeed my own baby and had the bottle ready and waiting - the thought now still turns my stomach yet I think it's a wonderful sight to see on other mothers

I also had epidurals for both births and had an amazing time as my SIL was my midwife, however I have friends who feel failures because they had c sections or were drugged up and they hadn't planned it that way. It wouldn't have bothered me?

Good job we're all different or life would be boring!

 

[torsie24]

Haha, thanks for the reassurance guys.

I know that having my nephews for an afternoon exhausts me! (They are 4 and 2) and I can admit I don't want a toddler right now. Which is how I know in reality I'm not ready.

Give me a couple of years of doing what I want, until then I am happy planning.

 

[Pinky166]

......until then I am happy planning.

....and practising!!!! Thats the best bit.

 

[PoppyAnna]

Ahhh.... I do feel for you and although I have two little girls I've never really had many bouts of broodiness. I was hardly ever broody until I had my girls as I was never around babies.

My best friend and I had our children at roughly the same time but then she went on to have a third. When she was pregnant the last time I was naturally a bit broody right up until I held baby Grace, I looked down at her and knew I was happy with my family and what I had.

I don't know what to suggest to cure it, if you're happy looking at mothercare brochures then go for it and be happy!

 

[higgy66]

mmmmm just noticed your ticker. If you want babies in 2 years time you're going to have a very busy honeymoon!

 

[torsie24]

....and practising!!!! Thats the best bit.

I'm sure Jack would like that suggestion.

I think I agree with you guys, and have definitely had other bouts of it, probably from around 13/14. Luckily I always had babies around to babysit, dress up, etc.

I think maybe this bout has hit me harder as I could pheasibly have a baby and be totally capable, and it'd have its own room and we'd all be perfectly happy.

But then I can't have my wedding dress! So I will wait until after the wedding!

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

I was the most unmaternal person ever, I was never ever interested in having children. I always used to feel akward around little babies, if someone gave me one to hold I would be scared i would break them etc.

I remember panicking when I had Kyra as I was the most clueless person on babies, I had read every book possible and still had no idea.

It was weird that as soon as Kyra popped out it all came naturally.

Not sure if I would have anymore though.