Broodiness......

[Tammy Stringer]

Thanks for the positive feedback everyone, and Lynne I didnt take your post personally at all xx My good friend Tam is desperate to knit for me and has disussed the name Pilton lol

Jules I have my knitting needles at the ready and plenty more names in the mix for you!!!!! Seriously I think you and Ian would make great parents and you are definitely not too old - go on give it a go

I must confess I am another that has felt broody pretty much from being a teenager. Kev was never bothered about babies but knew they would be part of the package if we got together. Thank goodness it all worked out and we can't imagine life without the girls.

I loved being pregnant and even now wistfully think about it - but the sleepness nights and labour mean even if I could have another there is no way on earth I would contemplate it now. I am another that will just wait to be a Granny (although hopefully not too soon) or wait for my good friend Jules to produce a baby for me to cuddle.

Tammy

 

[gemmybear83]

You're so sensible Gemma. And that's a great idea leaving it to talk about when you're 30.

I have always made it know to most people that know me from the age of about 16 that I can't wait to have kids. And so Jack has always been very aware that that's one of my main motivations for life and work.

Luckily it's his too, I'm pretty certain that had he not been 100% certain he wanted a family with me then I couldn't marry him.

It' funny though, when he says things like "Maybe we'll have a baby with us while we watch the next olympics, or in 2 christmases time" I'm like "That's a bit soon isn't it!"

There's no pleasing me!

I think your very sensible too - very prepared

We have those type of conversations too! After were married we may well change our minds (this seems to be the case often!).

Oh and we have names picked too

 

[torsie24]

Haha, we have our names picked too Gemma!!!

And I almost bought these in Debenahms last year as Jack's surname is Baker. But I didn't want to Jinx myself or anything!

 

[scottish mum]

I have always been broody and have been lucky enough to have 3 great kids and know that my family is complete. Even now though when I hear one of my friends is pregnant or I get a cuddle with a newborn, my broodiness comes rushing back, although it doesn't last long as there is NO WAY i can go back to having little sleep.
I think its good to know that you don't want to be pregnant at the moment as when the times comes you will be super prepared and enjoy the special time that it is. I was only 19 when I was pregnant with my 1st and soooo unprepared that I didn't overly enjoy being pregnant. With the other 2 I felt more in control of my life and felt more confident.

 

[jen_uk]

I was not broody at all during my twenties and did wonder whether I would ever want children. Since I turned 30 last year though I am super broody, I am just dying to get pregnant and even though I know 30 isn't old I am now very aware of my biological clock and I feel like time is running out. The problem is that we said we would wait until we own a house which is not likely for a while as dh was made redundant a few months ago.

 

[disney_princess_85]

I'm not in the least bit broody, I've always thought I'll be in my 30s when I have babies.

 

[joolz1910]

I wasn't broody at all until I got pregnant with my honeymoon baby. I became a baby obsessive after that and I'm a bit of a mother-hen. I have 3 daughters and part of me would love another but there are too many factors against it - one of them being DH's reluctance.

My comment about 39 not being 'too old' was meant generally, as a biological observation. I would never be so rude as to comment on/criticise anyone's choice about family planning.

 

[florida sun]

Ive never ever been broody, dont get me wrong I love babys, and only have one daughter who I wouldnt be without, but never felt the urge to have another one.

 

[Pinky166]

I am just dying to get pregnant and even though I know 30 isn't old I am now very aware of my biological clock and I feel like time is running out.

 

[wishspirit]

I know how you feel! I have been broody on and off since I was 14. I am now 21, in a long term relationship, and although I am going through a broody patch, I know that I don't want one 'till I am closer to 30.

I think working with kids makes it easier, I transfer the caring on to them. My boyfriend loves my broodiness, he thinks its funny especially when the pampers adverts come on and I get all gooey and gushy. He also wants kids about then too, so we know we have a while!

 

[higgy66]

BTW my Mum had me at 39 and she is perfect!

Oh I'm really pleased to hear that. I was 36 and 37 when I had mine and I do wonder what they will think when they're older. I'll always be young at heart but what I look like is another matter!

 

[CustardTart]

This is such an interesting thread! You know, I always thought most females felt like me but clearly not. I'm not one for making assumptions but this is a huge one I've carried around for years - I really appreciate this insight, guys... As far as my broodiness goes, I'm really not interested in OPK (other peoples kids) at all and never feel gooey about babies in general - it's just my own I crave TBH...

 

[torsie24]

This is such an interesting thread! You know, I always thought most females felt like me but clearly not. I'm not one for making assumptions but this is a huge one I've carried around for years - I really appreciate this insight, guys... As far as my broodiness goes, I'm really not interested in OPK (other peoples kids) at all and never feel gooey about babies in general - it's just my own I crave TBH...

I'm glad it's helped you too!

I was nervous to start it TBH, so I'm glad it's let lots of us share!

 

[disney_princess_85]

I agree, great thread. It's interesting to see other people's perspectives.

 

[BRobson]

What a lovely thread

I am always broody - my heart says yeah, my head says nah and DH says NO WAY I think it is worse at the moment because my DS has just turned 8 and my baby is so grown up

 

[orlandothebeagle]

I'm not in the least bit broody, I've always thought I'll be in my 30s when I have babies.

Thats what I though, but it just never happened.
I know this is terrible thing to say, but Len knows what I am like, I cant stand to be in the same room as a crying baby.It makes me feel like my head is going to explode.
I feel mean saying that and I dont know why I am even admitting it to you guys, I love interacting with toddlers, I adore them, I always want to snatch them when I see there Mums and they are shouting and being mean to them,I want to wipe there noses and give them a cuddle and take them to disney world.. My neice pretty much moved in since she was 7 years, I took her on every single hol with me from 3 to present(13), maybe she was my focus( she never cried as a baby lol)

Very very interesting thread peeps.

 

[joolz1910]

Thats what I though, but it just never happened.
I know this is terrible thing to say, but Len knows what I am like, I cant stand to be in the same room as a crying baby.It makes me feel like my head is going to explode.
I feel mean saying that and I dont know why I am even admitting it to you guys, I love interacting with toddlers, I adore them, I always want to snatch them when I see there Mums and they are shouting and being mean to them,I want to wipe there noses and give them a cuddle and take them to disney world.. My neice pretty much moved in since she was 7 years, I took her on every single hol with me from 3 to present(13), maybe she was my focus( she never cried as a baby lol)

Very very interesting thread peeps.

I think that's perfectly normal for most people. A baby's cry is designed to provoke a reaction and it certainly grates on most people. You are obviously very maternal towards your niece - I wish you were my auntie.

 

[PoppyAnna]

What a lovely thread

I am always broody - my heart says yeah, my head says nah and DH says NO WAY I think it is worse at the moment because my DS has just turned 8 and my baby is so grown up

This just about sums it up for me, I pop in and out of broodiness but like I said before I know deep down I have had my babies. I was told after having my youngest DD that I can't (or shouldn't ) have anymore, although I can still get pregnant. I was miserable for ages but I knew deep down that two was enough for us and that was all the children we wanted.
I think my broodiness is more about "I wonder what our third, fourth and fifth child would be like......"

 

[jamjar84]

I get broody all the time.. I even have my names for future children picked out however I had DD young when I was 19 so wanted some time to do some things for me like go to uni. I was very sick with DD and was in hospital most of the time so couldn't go through that with DD being small.

This is interesting, We've decided to have our second child right away because of similar reasons, I had a difficult pregnancy (and this one isn't much better) and I am planning to go back to uni to get my teaching qualifications, but I decided to have babies first so that I wouldn't have to take a break in my career in the future. Plus I had such a difficult time with my first, that my husband knew that it was a now or never situation, he knew if we left it a few years, we would be reluctant to go back to the sleepless nights and stuff, plus I was very ill with anxiety when my little girl was born and was always petrified something would happen to her, all of that including a really tough pregnancy last time, and in the end I had to have an emergency section which led me to get a DVT which I am still being treated for now. DH knew that if we got a few years down the line I definately wouldn't be willing to have another, so after a lot of discussion we decided just to have number two right away and then we can say enough is enough. He didn't want DD to be an only child, and I think he secretly wants a son. I am actually worried that if we don't get a boy this time he's going to be pressuring me to have another one, but I know in my heart that two is enough for me. I know you should never say never, but I, like a lot of you have never been maternal, we weren't particularly planning on having DD, it just sort of happened, don't get me wrong she is the single best thing in my life, and I believe that fate made the decision for us, but had we lived the rest of our lives never having had any children, I am pretty sure that I would never have felt an instinct to have a baby. Plus I really want to do something with my degree, I don't have a job right now, but my husband has a pretty good job, and yes it will be a struggle to go through uni with two young children, but in a few years time I will be qualified and have a decent job, which I won't have to take a break from to have babies. My husband always says that he is really glad that things have worked out this way, I am 26 this year and he is 27, so by the time all our friends who at the moment are concentrating on their careers at the moment are settling down to have babies, we will have all the hard years of child rearing behind us, and by the time we're in our 40's our kids will be pretty much grown up and we will have the rest of our lives ahead of us to enjoy things like travelling and a bit of freedom, whereas all our friends will be busy changing nappies.

I guess it's different for everyone though, what suits us, might seem like someone else's idea of hell, and starting a family later might suit them better.

I think it's great for women that do feel 'broody' but it's not a feeling that I can even imagine, I don't know what it must feel like. Right up until the day my little girl was born, I don't think I realised that I was going to be a mum, I know that sounds strange, but when I went into the labour suite it suddenly hit me I'd be leaving with a baby.

 

[saratogagirl]

I agree it really is a great thread, and interesting to see everyone elses perspectives. I have really enjoyed reading everyones opinions - thanks for starting this one..

Jen - 30, you are positively a pup xx