Broken Promise

[grumpy101]

Tomorrow is mine and my Fiancee's 9 month Anniverseary he told me a couple of weeks ago that he was gonna take me to see Lion King in 3D 2day to celebrate. So a couple of days ago while I was working sent me a text saying that he didnt have enough money to take me to see Lion King. The only reason he didnt have enough money is because he has been fishing the whole week with one of his buddies. Im very upset because he promised me we were gonna go see it 2day.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Tomorrow is mine and my Fiancee's 9 month Anniverseary he told me a couple of weeks ago that he was gonna take me to see Lion King in 3D 2day to celebrate. So a couple of days ago while I was working sent me a text saying that he didnt have enough money to take me to see Lion King. The only reason he didnt have enough money is because he has been fishing the whole week with one of his buddies. Im very upset because he promised me we were gonna go see it 2day.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I know you are disappointed, but can you afford to take him? You would still be spending time together doing something you wanted and it would be a nice surprise for him.

 

[DebIreland]

Aw, I'm sure you'll be able to go out soon. Perhaps he simply under-estimated how much the fishing trip would cost. Was the trip planned for a while? I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you. If he makes a habit of cancelling your plans, then it's probably something you need to be concerned about, but if he's usually reliable then I'd let it go. Plan something else and tell him he'd better get his butt in gear this time and make it happen.

 

[Gigi22]

Well, I would be bummed too. It is not nice to be promised a special celebration and have it fall through because the person who made the promise decided to spend all their money on him/herself. And letting you know by texting you is just plain cowardly and immature.
Is he usually dependable, or is this the way he behaves most of the time? And, how is he at budgeting money?
You need to sit down with him pronto and find out what he was thinking, and then decide what to do. It could be a wake up call in disguise.

 

[Tink888]

I know you are disappointed, but can you afford to take him? You would still be spending time together doing something you wanted and it would be a nice surprise for him.

This. I'd be disappointed too but if you really want to see it and can afford it, just treat him this time. Maybe it's just because I'm married but if you two are engaged, what's his is going to be yours and what's yours will be his once you're married. I wouldn't let his lack of funds at the moment ruin the night.

 

[grumpy101]

Yes it would be a nice surprise to take him but I can't afford to do it. Money is kinda tight for me I have to watch what I spend.

 

[SaraJayne]

Yes it would be a nice surprise to take him but I can't afford to do it. Money is kinda tight for me I have to watch what I spend.

Since you say he's your fiancee, and you'll be getting married, chalk it up as a lesson.

When you're first married, you don't always have the money to do what you want to do.

Spend the night at home, together, watching a movie. I guess I don't see it as a big deal.

 

[dzorn]

Tomorrow is mine and my Fiancee's 9 month Anniverseary he told me a couple of weeks ago that he was gonna take me to see Lion King in 3D 2day to celebrate. So a couple of days ago while I was working sent me a text saying that he didnt have enough money to take me to see Lion King. The only reason he didnt have enough money is because he has been fishing the whole week with one of his buddies. Im very upset because he promised me we were gonna go see it 2day.

Well did you ask him how he had money to spend fishing with is buddies but not take you to the movies?

But given this is a 9 month anniversary not exactly a huge life celebration.

Of course not sure what a 9 month anniversary is.

Denise in MI

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Since you say he's your fiancee, and you'll be getting married, chalk it up as a lesson.

When you're first married, you don't always have the money to do what you want to do.

Spend the night at home, together, watching a movie. I guess I don't see it as a big deal.

It is only as big a deal as you make it. Make the most of what you have and don't sweat the small stuff.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

At least he told you two days ago instead of waiting until the last minute like most guys would.

Do either one of you own the movie? It's not the same but maybe you can pop some popcorn and snuggle up on the couch.

 

[npmommie]

Since you say he's your fiancee, and you'll be getting married, chalk it up as a lesson.

When you're first married, you don't always have the money to do what you want to do.

Spend the night at home, together, watching a movie. I guess I don't see it as a big deal.

It is only as big a deal as you make it. Make the most of what you have and don't sweat the small stuff.

agree with both of the above.
do not sweat the small stuff.
make the most of the situation, being together is the most important thing, shouldn't matter where you are or what you are doing

 

[Nolcrest]

My first thought was...Stop counting monthly anniverisaries and you'll less likely be disappointed in the future.

then...

Maybe he's gonna surprise you w/something tomorrow and he's just trying to throw you off.

if not...

just let it go since I'm sure you understand him not having the money since it's tight with you too. Resort to plan B and do something together that isn't a budget buster.

Enjoy your anniversary and from an old married person...don't sweat the small stuff.

 

[mjkacmom]

But given this is a 9 month anniversary not exactly a huge life celebration.

Of course not sure what a 9 month anniversary is.

Denise in MI

How old are you guys? I just made fun of dd15 and her boyfriend for celebrating their 3 month anniversary. DH and I dated 6 years before getting engaged, and a little thing like him not taking me to the movies for our 9 month anniversary (not that we celebrated monthly anniversaries) wouldn't be a blip on my radar. What would be a HUGE blip was being engaged to a man who couldn't afford a $25 night out.

 

[DebIreland]

Do either one of you own the movie? It's not the same but maybe you can pop some popcorn and snuggle up on the couch.

Yeah I agree with this. Watch the dvd version - yes it's one dimension less but still wonderful. Better yet, have a nice home cooked meal while watching the movie and insist that your DF cooks.

And I cannot believe we got to post no. 15 without someone saying HAKUNA MATATA!

 

[Nature Mom]

I'm sorry you are disappointed, but like others have said, snuggle on the couch and watch it on DVD. If you don't have it, I am sure someone you know does and would let you borrow it, especially if they know you are trying to have special time together while being frugal.

Also, like others, don't sweat the small stuff (and don't pet the sweaty stuff).

Lastly, one piece of advice before you get married: Stop the month anniversary stuff. Quit making every first thing you do together an anniversary event as well. Guys hate that. They don't remember things that way, and like to just keep things (and dates to remember) simple. The day you wore your favorite blouse and he said your eyes were so pretty might be an event to you, but to him, it is not. Don't expect him to always remember the little things, but when in the end HE DOES remember (that I was wearing a pink skirt and standing at the copier trying to get a jam out for the receptionist ), it will blow your mind that he paid attention and remembers things that matter to him.

I don't mean to offend, just my .02 before you are a Mrs. yourself.

 

[Christine]

What would be a HUGE blip was being engaged to a man who couldn't afford a $25 night out.

Oh, now this is just priceless.

 

[CurlyGirl]

If this is the biggest issue you have as a couple, consider yourself very lucky. There are couples out there struggling with far bigger issues than not having enough money to see a movie when promised.

 

[MrsDuck]

What would be a HUGE blip was being engaged to a man who couldn't afford a $25 night out.

Not very nice...

OP, I'm sorry you're disappointed. I'd be a little upset that DFi didn't think twice about spending his money on fishing but as others have said, chalk it up to experience. I hope you can find something fun to do to celebrate! The Lion King DVD suggestion is a good one, IMO.

 

[dzorn]

How old are you guys? I just made fun of dd15 and her boyfriend for celebrating their 3 month anniversary. DH and I dated 6 years before getting engaged, and a little thing like him not taking me to the movies for our 9 month anniversary (not that we celebrated monthly anniversaries) wouldn't be a blip on my radar. What would be a HUGE blip was being engaged to a man who couldn't afford a $25 night out.

I was wondering what a 9 month anniversary because I cannot imagine being engaged to someone I had dated only 9 months, let alone someone that cannot afford a night out.

Guess us old married folks just don't get it. I've been with DH over 27 years.

Denise in MI