bring a dish to a baby shower?

[LovinPooh]

So I get invited to a baby shower on facebook. The person who is having the baby is having the shower and begging and reminding people to bring a dish. Even asking people to 'sign up'. Is it just me or does this seem a bit... odd??? I just cant find the right word to describe it lol
The way I see it, if I am bringing a gift, then you supply the food!?!?!

Just had to throw that out there lol

 

[ORMom2Four]

So I get invited to a baby shower on facebook. The person who is having the baby is having the shower and begging and reminding people to bring a dish. Even asking people to 'sign up'. Is it just me or does this seem a bit... odd??? I just cant find the right word to describe it lol
The way I see it, if I am bringing a gift, then you supply the food!?!?!

Just had to throw that out there lol

I agree, that is strange. If it is a party where you are expected to bring a gift you should not be asked to bring a dish.

 

[Jeafl]

Unless you are hosting the shower you should not be expected to bring any food.

That reminds me of a shower I attended recently where we were handed envelopes and a piece of paper as we were leaving. We were asked to address the envelope to ourselves for the thank you note, and we were asked to write on the paper what we brought as a gift and stick it in the envelope as a reminder to the bride. Crazy!

Why bother hosting a shower if you cannot provide even the basic necessities? If you can't afford to feed people, just have cake and punch or appetizers.

I am not a huge fan of Facebook invitations either. I know quite a few people who either do not have a Facebook account, or who don't check it regularly.

 

[Hannathy]

I just cant find the right word to describe it

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Try:
Greedy
Tacky
Classless
Ignorant


Any of those will work.

 

[Scurvy]

So I get invited to a baby shower on facebook. The person who is having the baby is having the shower and begging and reminding people to bring a dish. Even asking people to 'sign up'. Is it just me or does this seem a bit... odd??? I just cant find the right word to describe it lol
The way I see it, if I am bringing a gift, then you supply the food!?!?!

Just had to throw that out there lol

So the guest of honor is throwing her own shower and wants her guests to bring the food? I can think of the right word to describe it: tacky! That is one shower I definitely would not be attending.

 

[DebbieB]

Unless you are hosting the shower you should not be expected to bring any food.

That reminds me of a shower I attended recently where we were handed envelopes and a piece of paper as we were leaving. We were asked to address the envelope to ourselves for the thank you note, and we were asked to write on the paper what we brought as a gift and stick it in the envelope as a reminder to the bride. Crazy!

Why bother hosting a shower if you cannot provide even the basic necessities? If you can't afford to feed people, just have cake and punch or appetizers.

I am not a huge fan of Facebook invitations either. I know quite a few people who either do not have a Facebook account, or who don't check it regularly.

I've seen the envelope thing at showers before. Sometimes they are used to pull for a prize to make it a little more tactful.

 

[Gigi22]

I'm sorry--I thought I misread the original post. The woman is giving herself a baby shower? Can you possibly get any tackier? Oh, yes you can, you can then tell your guests that they have to bring food!

OP, I think I would find somewhere else to be that evening. Or, you could use the old standby excuse for an absence, "I have to wash my hair."

 

[LovinPooh]

Yup. The mother to be is throwing the shower. All those words describe it perfectly. I dont think I will be attending. The mom has plenty of money for baby essentials. Its not like shes depending on the gifts for basic needs of the child. It feels greedy. I mean, put out some chips and cake and punch, and call it good. But this girl is asking for crock pot dishes and pasta salads. I think my crock pot is broke lol.
I am all about potluck lunches, but if I gotta brign a gift, then feed me not the other way around lol.
And no, I wont be checking out her Target gift registry LOL
I am having the hardest time not commenting on fb on the page lol

 

[LovinPooh]

Thinking my hair is going to be dirty that day LOL

 

[nmmom95]

That is really tacky. I think I'd miss that one.

 

[Jeafl]

Yup. The mother to be is throwing the shower. All those words describe it perfectly. I dont think I will be attending. The mom has plenty of money for baby essentials. Its not like shes depending on the gifts for basic needs of the child. It feels greedy. I mean, put out some chips and cake and punch, and call it good. But this girl is asking for crock pot dishes and pasta salads. I think my crock pot is broke lol.
I am all about potluck lunches, but if I gotta brign a gift, then feed me not the other way around lol.
And no, I wont be checking out her Target gift registry LOL
I am having the hardest time not commenting on fb on the page lol

OMG! I missed the part about the mom to be giving herself the shower! That is even tackier! I would not attend.

 

[BlovesC]

I'm going to a 'potluck' baby shower for a coworker in a few weeks. I never thought anything was weird about it. Granted, it's my...fifth or sixth baby shower in the past year, so at this point I may just be so burnt out nothing can faze me, but it hardly seems like a horrific offense.

 

[daisyduck123]

I can honestly say I would skip that shower, and no, would not be sending a gift at a later date.

 

[Art 1]

Very common it seems in the US to be asked to bring food to a party.

 

[cheekypoppins]

I've heard of this way..... someone i know was having their second child and instead of having a baby shower they had a gathering where the person hosting the event asked that guests not bring a gift but instead make a dish that could be frozen for the family to re-heat for when the expectant mother would be in the hospital or just after brining baby home.

 

[Janepod]

No. What a tacky person.

 

[Jeafl]

Very common it seems in the US to be asked to bring food to a party.

I wouldn't mind bringing food to a party, but to an event where you ar already expected to bring a gift, it is a little much.

 

[RitaZ.]

Very common it seems in the US to be asked to bring food to a party.

Really? Maybe in your social circle. That's not common among our friends and acquaintances.

To me, it's fairly simple. If you can't afford to feed your guests, then don't have a party.

OP, I'd pass on that shower.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I can honestly say I would skip that shower, and no, would not be sending a gift at a later date.

Yep.

 

[Art 1]

Really? Maybe in your social circle. That's not common among our friends and acquaintances.

To me, it's fairly simple. If you can't afford to feed your guests, then don't have a party.

OP, I'd pass on that shower.

I agree. But by reading the dis it seems to be a common thing. I have never heard of asking guests to bring food.