brief brag about my son

[robsmom]

If you will indulge me for a moment. Names changed to protect the innocent. I am home today with my DS and I both a bit under the weather. a few moments ago the father of one of my sons daycare/pre-school classmates called to RSVP to my son's birthday party. I am not exactly sure what the situation with Matt is but he seems to have a speech impediment - I am not sure if he has other development issues as well. He lives with his father who from what I can tell should win a dad of the year award. I hung up and said, Robert guess what Matt is coming to your party and gave him a high-five. Robert said to me, "gregory, shane, paul and dakota don't like Matt and they won't play with him but I do". I said, Robert that is very nice, I am sure that Matt feels bad when kids don't play with him". Robert said, "i know, so when they are mean to him and he is said, I go over to him and say 'Matt do you want to play blocks with me' and then we play together." I hugged my son and told him that he is a good person and that I am really proud of him

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

How heart warming! You do need to put out a tissue alert. You must be very proud.

Lori

 

[poohbears5]

Big high five to you and Robert ! What a nice boy you are raising!

 

[TINKTWINS]

Ive got tears in my eyes! We all wish our kids to be so kind to others in those situations

 

[Pam]

You have a very wonderful and caring son. No wonder you are so proud of him!

 

[floridafam]

 

[dizneenut]

That is so sweet. What a wonderful son you have.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[hockeymom7691]

You should be very very proud of your son! You definitely are raising a great son!

I can understand what that other little boy must feel like. My DS is hearing impaired and wears hearing aides in both ears. He really hasn't had any problems in school as far as teasing until this year (he's 12). Now he's gone to school with these kids since kindergarten but I guess they're at the age now to make fun of him.

He has always been an outcast because the other kids get frustrated that they have to repeat things to him or don't understand him (his speech is good but hard to understand occaisonally).

I have raised him to never make fun of anyone for any reason and to realize that kids who do make fun of him may be "afraid" of him because of his impairment.

Give your son a big high five from me!!

 

[piglet too]

Kudos to you and your son. It is wonderful to hear about great kids like that.

HockeyMom ~ I too have an hearing impairment, should wear two aides but can only afford the one. I was always tesed in school but it got really bad at the same age your son is now. Even though it may not seem like it, it does get better. For me it was much worse first, but then those other kids finally grew up. I actually ran into a former classmate from 8th grade (we went to differant high schools) the other night at work. He rememberd me, I knew him as one of my worst tormentors on the spot. He told me that he was so sorry for the way he had treated me back then. He went on to tell me that no matter what he said, he knew he could not undo the harm he did back then. He ended by telling me that his DD age 4 just got her first hearing aide. He actually teared up in the middle of Toys R Us when he talked about her. How he hopes she never will have to put up with someone like he was. Just keep telling your son that those kids that tease him are the ones that are missing out. He may not believe it, I know I didn't, but it does help.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Originally posted by robsmom
........I go over to him and say 'Matt do you want to play blocks with me' and then we play together." I hugged my son and told him that he is a good person and that I am really proud of him

That is so nice, robsmom, Robert is one nice little guy. Very nice read here, thanks so much for sharing.

 

[grinningghost]

You have every reason to brag. The world could use alot more Roberts.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Originally posted by piglet too
Kudos to you and your son. It is wonderful to hear about great kids like that.

HockeyMom ~ I too have an hearing impairment, should wear two aides but can only afford the one. I was always tesed in school but it got really bad at the same age your son is now. Even though it may not seem like it, it does get better. For me it was much worse first, but then those other kids finally grew up. I actually ran into a former classmate from 8th grade (we went to differant high schools) the other night at work. He rememberd me, I knew him as one of my worst tormentors on the spot. He told me that he was so sorry for the way he had treated me back then. He went on to tell me that no matter what he said, he knew he could not undo the harm he did back then. He ended by telling me that his DD age 4 just got her first hearing aide. He actually teared up in the middle of Toys R Us when he talked about her. How he hopes she never will have to put up with someone like he was. Just keep telling your son that those kids that tease him are the ones that are missing out. He may not believe it, I know I didn't, but it does help.

That's the neatest story I've heard in a while. Not long ago the mother of one of the girls who taunted my daughter in school pulled me aside at one of my garage sales to tell me how sorry she was that her daughter behaved that way! Sometimes people DO wake up and apologize for the hurts they've caused.

To the OP, what a compassionate young man you are raising. Keep up the good work. The world needs more compassion, hope and love than it ever has!

 

[cheeringmom]

I agree. Kudos to you!! You've raised your son well. It is so important to teach children empathy. We roll play all the time with my 4 yr old so she will know how to handle situations. There are so many children out there with difficulties (mine included) and need a friendly face, someone who won't judge them for what is on the outside but for what is on the inside. We need more kids like your son! Give him a big hug and squeeze from me!!

 

[Disney Doll]

You are raising a wondeful, compassionate son. Maybe those other kids will learn something from his good example.

 

[LisaF]

What a wonderful outlook your son has! And you are the reason he has such a good attitude toward children who are different. Kudos to you for being such a wonderful mother!

I have always stressed tolerance to my children - be tolerant of other people's differences - you may someday walk in their shoes. Both of our twins have Tourette Syndrome, but the oldest of the them suffers the most. Both boys are advocates for each other which helps immensely, but the taunting is still evident. The most important thing is to educate the children and adults around you about your differences - whether it's hearing impairment or TS.

A big hug to you and your son!! You are both very deserving of a "brag".

LisaF

 

[hockeymom7691]

Originally posted by piglet too
Kudos to you and your son. It is wonderful to hear about great kids like that.

HockeyMom ~ I too have an hearing impairment, should wear two aides but can only afford the one. I was always tesed in school but it got really bad at the same age your son is now. Even though it may not seem like it, it does get better. For me it was much worse first, but then those other kids finally grew up. I actually ran into a former classmate from 8th grade (we went to differant high schools) the other night at work. He rememberd me, I knew him as one of my worst tormentors on the spot. He told me that he was so sorry for the way he had treated me back then. He went on to tell me that no matter what he said, he knew he could not undo the harm he did back then. He ended by telling me that his DD age 4 just got her first hearing aide. He actually teared up in the middle of Toys R Us when he talked about her. How he hopes she never will have to put up with someone like he was. Just keep telling your son that those kids that tease him are the ones that are missing out. He may not believe it, I know I didn't, but it does help.

Kirsten,

I'm glad to hear from someone else who understands what my son is going through. Luckily, he is a pretty confident young man (I think being such a good hockey player helps).

I'm going to show my son your story and that should help too!

Thanks for sharing!

 

[robsmom]

Thank you all for letting me indulge my proud moment and for your kind notes. Your responses actually made me cry.

 

[doxdogy]

What a wonderful little boy you are raising. As the victim of many a tormentor in school, he is doing his friend a world of good by being so nice to him.

 

[nativetxn]

You have a very sweet son and I would be proud of him too. <i>In fact</i>, I <i>am</i> proud of him.

Mother loves his photo. It is on the wall of her room. She thinks that Rob is a very handsome young man