Bridzilla Disney Style?

[Forum Jumper]

Whatever you decide to do about this situation, you and DH should talk about what to tell your children about your decisions. No matter how old they are, guidance from you will help them with life skills. Short of death, this is one of the worst family situations to have to face. Since it is such an emotional situation, it can be so hard to explain to others, children or no. I hope things get better in time.

 

[SleepyatDVC]

I just spent hours reading though this entire thread. Every. Single. Post!

I certainly have my own opinion. And can see the many sides that previous posters have taken and expressed and why they thought one way or other.

But at the end of the day, there are no winners in this drama, no matter who was more right or who was more wrong; not for Rose, not for her DD, for her DH, her sister, not even for her DB, her Mom or for the bride. And I am sad for them, esp. for Rose. And esp. for her DD who didn't have a voice here but more than likely was devastated by being rejected by a "friend."

No matter what you decide to do, it will be the right thing for you and your family and you will know it on that day, Rose,

Count your blessings. Things are bad but they could always be much worse. I only wish you and your family the best.

 

[CanBeGrumpy]

Even though the bride brought this on herself with her actions, I can't help but feel sorry for her (and the OP's brother) that their wedding day has this "shadow" over it. I know the OP has done all she can to smooth things over without success, so it is not her fault, but it still has to stink to have this type of worry on your wedding day.

The repercussions as to future family relationships have yet to be seen, but if my experience is any indicator, this situation will live on forever and have an affect on all family gatherings from here on out. I'm sad for everyone involved, especially the OP who was only trying to do something nice.

 

[sunshinehighway]

Even though the bride brought this on herself with her actions, I can't help but feel sorry for her (and the OP's brother) that their wedding day has this "shadow" over it. I know the OP has done all she can to smooth things over without success, so it is not her fault, but it still has to stink to have this type of worry on your wedding day.

The repercussions as to future family relationships have yet to be seen, but if my experience is any indicator, this situation will live on forever and have an affect on all family gatherings from here on out. I'm sad for everyone involved, especially the OP who was only trying to do something nice.

In my experience people like the bride have no thought about anyone's feelings but their own. She won't care about any repercussions in regards to the future with this family because she likely absolutely believes she did nothing wrong and the op is the problem.

 

[cleverclovers]

Avoid the wedding. Plan on doing something fun with the family instead. Tell sis what you will be doing and where. Maybe she will duck out after the ceremony and join you. Hey, it's an option! The bride is going to put on quite a show and heaven help anyone who doesn't bow down to her every whim. So why not go elsewhere and enjoy the day?

What has happened and what was said cannot be undone. Things will never be the same again. So it's time to start living for yourself and forget what other select members of the family say on the matter. They made their choices. Let them live with them.

 

[EMom]

So OP, did your brother marry her or did he run? It's hard to even feel sorry for him, since he's going into this with his eyes wide open. Did you find something fun to do that weekend?

 

[JanaDee]

So OP, did your brother marry her or did he run? It's hard to even feel sorry for him, since he's going into this with his eyes wide open. Did you find something fun to do that weekend?

I forgot the wedding was supposed to be Saturday! OP, what did you do? What happened?

 

[tigercat]

I would love to know what happened as well.
tigercat

 

[Brier Rose]

They are honeymooning as we speak! :/
We did not go. It bothered me MUCH more than I thought it would, and I'm having a hard time getting passed it. I'm just very sad about the whole thing.

My sister said at the rehearsal dinner my brother was very quiet, and she felt like he regretted us not being there.

Of course without him saying so there's no way to tell if that's true or not. It definitely would not make me happy for him to feel that way. My heart aches for him to be honest.

If he had just said one thing, anything, to let me know he wanted me there..this being settled or not, I would have been there in a heartbeat.

I've seen a few pictures..he looked really happy. I hope he is. I love him very much. I know he told lies in an effort to make her not look like a crazy witch. I get him having her back. I WANT him to take her side over ALL others. I just can't get passed the way he decided to go about it.

I believe my mother has seriously just lost it. Dsis said she spent the day pretending we weren't there because we were sick. Apparently she's having a hard time dealing with the guilt she has for her part in this. (Her words) I want to forgive her, but I'm just too hurt right now. This is the longest I have EVER not spoken to her in my WHOLE life. We used to talk everyday. She hasn't made one attempt. I gave up after not getting anywhere with either of them.

Dsis also said that bride got visibly angry during the best mans speech. He was just joking around, but she didn't like it. Glad it wasn't me this time. Lol

We didn't really go and do anything, but several of my best friends made it their mission to ply me with alcohol and keep me distracted. It helped..until the next morning anyway! Haha

 

[momabaarjo]

Big hugs!!!!

 

[HM]

Thank you for responding with the outcome. I am so sorry it ended up with so many people hurt.

 

[Hrhpd]

They are honeymooning as we speak! :/
We did not go. It bothered me MUCH more than I thought it would, and I'm having a hard time getting passed it. I'm just very sad about the whole thing.

My sister said at the rehearsal dinner my brother was very quiet, and she felt like he regretted us not being there.

Of course without him saying so there's no way to tell if that's true or not. It definitely would not make me happy for him to feel that way. My heart aches for him to be honest.

If he had just said one thing, anything, to let me know he wanted me there..this being settled or not, I would have been there in a heartbeat.

I've seen a few pictures..he looked really happy. I hope he is. I love him very much. I know he told lies in an effort to make her not look like a crazy witch. I get him having her back. I WANT him to take her side over ALL others. I just can't get passed the way he decided to go about it.

I believe my mother has seriously just lost it. Dsis said she spent the day pretending we weren't there because we were sick. Apparently she's having a hard time dealing with the guilt she has for her part in this. (Her words) I want to forgive her, but I'm just too hurt right now. This is the longest I have EVER not spoken to her in my WHOLE life. We used to talk everyday. She hasn't made one attempt. I gave up after not getting anywhere with either of them.

Dsis also said that bride got visibly angry during the best mans speech. He was just joking around, but she didn't like it. Glad it wasn't me this time. Lol

We didn't really go and do anything, but several of my best friends made it their mission to ply me with alcohol and keep me distracted. It helped..until the next morning anyway! Haha

Is this the same sister reporting back who was with you on the trip?

 

[EMom]

Oooh....The best man's head s now on the chopping block. WHACK!

 

[Brier Rose]

Is this the same sister repprtinb back who was with you on the trip?

Yeah, it is. She asked my mom why she wasn't getting the same treatment as DD and myself, and all she was told was that she didn't SAY anything. So because she just put up with the hateful behavior she's all good. Lol

It was also confirmed that the reason DD was out as the MOH was because DD and I are so close, that they "feel" like we both share the same opinion expressed in my "vile" text message. So basically that is getting blamed on me as well. I guess they had to come up with some excuse since DD did absolutely NOTHING!

I have ZERO problem with Dsis going. She said she was torn. She doesn't feel like we were done right..she was there..so she KNOWS the truth. At the same time she loves our brother, and my nephew was in the wedding, soo..

The only thing I asked of her was to just keep sticking to the truth about everything that happened. She absolutely has. My mother got mad at her at the wedding because she didn't want to take "family" pics with half of the family (us) not there.

My mom said she couldn't understand why she couldn't just be happy for her brother...

 

[Brier Rose]

Oooh....The best man's head s now on the chopping block. WHACK!

Anybody wanna place bets on how much longer he'll be around??
Lol

 

[Pixiedustaway]

Oooh....The best man's head s now on the chopping block. WHACK!

Fwiw, it seems now the spotlight is off you.

The while situation sucks, and I don't see this marriage lasting too long.

 

[Brier Rose]

Fwiw, it seems now the spotlight is off you. The while situation sucks, and I don't see this marriage lasting too long.

You know, I actually hope that's not the case tho. I admit she has always been a bit neurotic, but that is something my bro knows full well and has accepted. He understands her, and if he thinks the trade off is worth it more power to him.

We HAD always gotten along. I mean, I admit there have been times I haven't liked the way I've seen her treat my brother, but still, none of my business.

We've had wonderful times together, and I WAS happy and truly felt like I was gaining a sister. Then THIS craziness!!

Whatever the future holds is a guess for sure, but my HOPE is that they can have a long and happy life together. Hopefully that will one day include us as well. :/

 

[Pixiedustaway]

You know, I actually hope that's not the case tho. I admit she has always been a bit neurotic, but that is something my bro knows full well and has accepted. He understands her, and if he thinks the trade off is worth it more power to him.

We HAD always gotten along. I mean, I admit there have been times I haven't liked the way I've seen her treat my brother, but still, none of my business.

We've had wonderful times together, and I WAS happy and truly felt like I was gaining a sister. Then THIS craziness!!

Whatever the future holds is a guess for sure, but my HOPE is that they can have a long and happy life together. Hopefully that will one day include us as well. :/

I hear you. I don't wish for the marriage to end. I hope it all works out for everyone.

 

[Brier Rose]

I hear you. I don't wish for the marriage to end. I hope it all works out for everyone.

Thanks

 

[wishes114]

This really is a sad situation. I got into an argument with a sibling and my mom got involved. I didn't talk to certain family for almost a year. It broke my dads heart. It was a situation similar to yours but not involving a bachelorette party. Just similar attitudes. You want to know what brought us back together? My dads death. Sad but true. It wasn't worth it. Let this calm down some and please reAch out to your brother. Life is too short.