Bridal shower

[aprilgail2]

So I decided to tell her today that I looked into it and the bridal shower is not supposed to be in the bride's home as it is poor ettiquette and since it would be unpractical due to space limitations and extremely difficult for me to do in her home I am going to have it in my house. She responded back with a nasty email said the shower is about her and said she was ending the friendship because of the stress this argument put on her and not to contact her anymore

Well hate to see you lose a "friend" but I think you got the better end of this deal- what a witch!

 

[ShootingStarMom2]

Wow, I am so sorry! She sounds like a very jealous and spiteful person. Someone you don't need bringing you down. Focus on the happiness of your new house and the fact that you won't have to worry about her drama.

If I got an invite to a shower at someone's own house, I would be surprised. Unless there were underlying circumstances that really mattered. It's really sad that she's choosing that over someone throwing her a nice shower.

I hope everything you've gotten so far is returnable. I was going to suggest telling her you already printed the invites but after I read the whole post I saw what she told you. Treat yourself to something nice instead.

 

[tower_of_terror_luvr]

So I decided to tell her today that I looked into it and the bridal shower is not supposed to be in the bride's home as it is poor ettiquette and since it would be unpractical due to space limitations and extremely difficult for me to do in her home I am going to have it in my house. She responded back with a nasty email said the shower is about her and said she was ending the friendship because of the stress this argument put on her and not to contact her anymore

I am sorry you lost a friend but wow for someone to end a friendship over this is just WOW! She probably thinks if she tells you this one of her BMs will be able to throw one togethor at her house exactly as she wants it but what she is gonna realize is that you were just doing it for the well being of the shower

 

[diznygirl]

So I decided to tell her today that I looked into it and the bridal shower is not supposed to be in the bride's home as it is poor ettiquette and since it would be unpractical due to space limitations and extremely difficult for me to do in her home I am going to have it in my house. She responded back with a nasty email said the shower is about her and said she was ending the friendship because of the stress this argument put on her and not to contact her anymore

All's well that ends well.

 

[Carys]

So I decided to tell her today that I looked into it and the bridal shower is not supposed to be in the bride's home as it is poor ettiquette and since it would be unpractical due to space limitations and extremely difficult for me to do in her home I am going to have it in my house. She responded back with a nasty email said the shower is about her and said she was ending the friendship because of the stress this argument put on her and not to contact her anymore

Sounds like you had a close shave with forking out money for a user. You were thoughtful to have offered to hold one in the first place, and practical about how it could be done, so stand tall and don't look back.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So I decided to tell her today that I looked into it and the bridal shower is not supposed to be in the bride's home as it is poor ettiquette and since it would be unpractical due to space limitations and extremely difficult for me to do in her home I am going to have it in my house. She responded back with a nasty email said the shower is about her and said she was ending the friendship because of the stress this argument put on her and not to contact her anymore

Well isn't that special? I guess she was not much of a friend to begin with.

Good news here is that you don't have to buy anything for her.

 

[Magic Mom]

So I decided to tell her today that I looked into it and the bridal shower is not supposed to be in the bride's home as it is poor ettiquette and since it would be unpractical due to space limitations and extremely difficult for me to do in her home I am going to have it in my house. She responded back with a nasty email said the shower is about her and said she was ending the friendship because of the stress this argument put on her and not to contact her anymore

AWI'm sorry your "friend" treated you that way. But she showed her true colors, and luckily you saw her real self before you spent any more time or money on her. If I were you, I wouldn't try to contact her to smooth things over. She is wrong here, not you, and you don't deserve to be treated like that.

 

[Bren's Mom]

Halleluiah! You're off the hook...and thank goodness it happened before you put all that time, effort and energy into the shower. Bridezilla is no friend, she's just a user...or a really misguided and selfish person. Either way. Don't you feel guilty one bit, you've done nothing wrong!

 

[sms]

Friends are suppose to support eachother and be happy for eachother. She does not do that for you. No one needs people like that in their life! People like that are miserable with themselves and only want to bring someone else down with them. You are much better off without her

 

[focusondisney]

Sorry you are losing your best friend over this. Doesn't sound like you were her best friiend, tho. Hope you didn't already buy or order the dress for the wedding. Wonder if she'll get her mind back after the wedding & try to apoligize? Let us know of further drama!!

 

[Disney Doll]

Well good! Money saved. Hopefully you haven't paid for your bridesmaid gown yet.

OP, I am sure you are upset at your "friend's" behavior, but I am here to tell you that being a bride does not change someone that much. This girl was not a perfectly normal, unselfish, un-self-centered person before her engagement...maybe the behaviro wasn't as over-the-top, so it was easy to chalk up to other things, but it was there. I have known many brides (most recently my own 24 year old niece) who have been both gracious and grateful for everything people did for them and their wedding.

Your "friend" has shown you who she is, so pay attention and when she comes crawling back after the wedding (and she will), don't be so quick to allow her to become your BFF again.

 

[wendyt_ca]

Thanks for the support everyone. I am sad but I agree I feel it's for the best she has been becoming too much for me to handle and far too demanding. The selfishness was there before just never as strong so you are def right disney doll. If she can treat me this way and end a friendship over this it is not worth it. I definetely feel like she was using me because no one else would fork out the money I was going to. She didn't even have anyone who was willing to throw her a rehearsal dinner so I had offered so I guess now she will have to figure something else out. I know no one will give her the shower I was going to give her. No we hadn't ordered the dresses yet those were going to be ordered Thursday.....phew this happened just in time....I had spent prob a couple hundred on her cause I bought her shower gifts and some supplies for that and her bachelorette but I will cut my losses lol. I am still going to save approx $600+ from all the expenses I had left so that is a nice chunk of change to have for myself. Our house will be finished in April so there is something nice for that

 

[Disney Doll]

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Thanks for the support everyone. I am sad but I agree I feel it's for the best she has been becoming too much for me to handle and far too demanding. The selfishness was there before just never as strong so you are def right disney doll. If she can treat me this way and end a friendship over this it is not worth it. I definetely feel like she was using me because no one else would fork out the money I was going to. That's cuz she's a "witch". She didn't even have anyone who was willing to throw her a rehearsal dinner that's cuz she's a "witch" so I had offered so I guess now she will have to figure something else out. I know no one will give her the shower I was going to give her. No we hadn't ordered the dresses yet those were going to be ordered Thursday.....phew this happened just in time....I had spent prob a couple hundred on her cause I bought her shower gifts and some supplies for that and her bachelorette but I will cut my losses lol. I am still going to save approx $600+ from all the expenses I had left so that is a nice chunk of change to have for myself. Our house will be finished in April so there is something nice for that

I'd see if you could return what you already bought. Often stores or even online stores will allow returns as long as packages haven't been opened etc.

 

[ckret01]

WOW.....I feel so bad that you even had to deal with any of that! I wonder if after a day or two when she realizes all that you did for her (offering to pay for the rehearsal dinner etc) that she will make amends with you. Heck...she shouldn't have even known about the bridal shower...isn't that supposed to be a complete surprise! Ugh I think I am mad for you! LOL

Oh and I agree I would see what you can get your money back for anything you purchased for her or even better ....can you keep any of the things for yourself and use them?

She certainly doesn't deserve your friendship...because if I had a friend like you I would treasure it! Good luck to you

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Thanks for the support everyone. I am sad but I agree I feel it's for the best she has been becoming too much for me to handle and far too demanding. The selfishness was there before just never as strong so you are def right disney doll. If she can treat me this way and end a friendship over this it is not worth it. I definetely feel like she was using me because no one else would fork out the money I was going to. She didn't even have anyone who was willing to throw her a rehearsal dinner so I had offered so I guess now she will have to figure something else out. I know no one will give her the shower I was going to give her. No we hadn't ordered the dresses yet those were going to be ordered Thursday.....phew this happened just in time....I had spent prob a couple hundred on her cause I bought her shower gifts and some supplies for that and her bachelorette but I will cut my losses lol. I am still going to save approx $600+ from all the expenses I had left so that is a nice chunk of change to have for myself. Our house will be finished in April so there is something nice for that

You are now joining "the others" in bold.

And anyway, the rehearsal dinner is paid for by the groom. She probably should not be getting married if there is no one wanting a rehearsal dinner including the groom.

 

[GirTheGecko]

Wow. I'm so sorry you lost a friend over something like that.

I would be thankful that someone took the time to pull together a bridal shower for me. I'd just ask they not stress themselves out over it and let me know the date (I make my schedule, I know it ruins the surprise).

 

[luvmy3]

I'm sorry that someone who referred to as your best friend ended up treating you that way. She sounds like a selfish little witch and you are better off without her "friendship".

 

[wendyt_ca]

You are now joining "the others" in bold.

And anyway, the rehearsal dinner is paid for by the groom. She probably should not be getting married if there is no one wanting a rehearsal dinner including the groom.

Lol the last part of this made me life...thanks for that. If you knew the history of this that is even funnier. She was the one who decided they are getting married and told everyone then him...then they have been together so long he just didn't care. She bought her own engagement ring off ebay. I took her to a bridal show 3 weeks ago and she started talking about her 2nd wedding and what she would do for it "because she knows divorce is a very big possibility".

Even if she comes back I have decided I have had enough and I am done. I would rather spend my time with mature friends who care about me. Her wedding was falling apart because they don't have much money and it was 4mths away and she hadnt paid for any major things and she couldn't get in touch with the best man either. So now after losing the moh she has put on her fb after everything falling apart and losing her moh she is now going to get married in Cuba.

 

[pigletgirl]

Well good for her. That is probably best.

I can't believe the way she has been acting! She needs to just RELAX!!!!!!!

 

[Cindy's Mom]

"throw her a rehearsal dinner" Oh lord....I've never ever heard of such a thing. As a PP has said - its paid for by the groom, the grooms family or even (gasp) the bride and groom, sorta as a "thank you for all your troubles and expense"

The rehearsal dinner is where the bride and groom will give their bridal party their gifts/tokens of appreciation.....I bet this heffer thinks that SHE will be getting gifts from her bridal party.

OP - you dodged a bullet with this one. Count your blessings