Boy/Girl Siblings Sharing a Room? Opinions needed!

[shortbun]

Three bedrooms is much better EVEN if the two are small. Why? Read the other posts - space, closets, gender issues, resale....and on and on.

 

[minkydog]

You're buying based on the unknown.

What if you have two kids.
What if they are of different genders.
What if you have twins.
Etc.

Never think of it as your forever home as a PP said.
Things in life change and in 5 years the dynamics of your family could be totally not what you mapped out.Buy this house but with the thought that if someday you outgrow it then you evaluate again and maybe move.

Boy, did you say a mouthful! We bought our house in 1991 when we had one child. We have 1500sq ft, 3BR, 2BA, with a basement. Plenty of room for 3 people and a small dog. We considered ourselves on the 5yr plan--trade up in 5yrs. Well, 2 more kids and one large dog later, we were bursting at the seems. Add a fully grown foster son and that brought us up to 6 people. But we kept the house anyway and now we are back down to 2 teens and stil have the big dog. Our house is once again the right size for us. In fact, we anticipate downsizing within the next 3 years.

I'm glad we stuck it out in our smallish home. We have been able to afford it on one income, which was important when the extra kids came along. We had the option of me staying home with the kids and homeschooling them all. The mortgage is nearly paid off and we haven't had the hassle of selling and moving n 19 years. We had considered going down to 2BR/1Ba but after reading these posts I think we might have to go with a 3BR to protect our resale.

 

[LJRJR]

It really depends on your personality and what you want. But just because McMansions are the American "norm" doesn't make them a necessity, nor even the norm in most of the rest of the world. Just another perspective.[/QUOTE]

I completely agree with you on this statement.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

LOVE the term McMansion.

We have 3 girls. DD#3 is in a crib in our room (3 bedroom house). When she is out of a crib she'll have to share with DD#2. Someday when we aren't paying for daycare we may move.

 

[kirstenb1]

Our starter home was 3 br. There's no way I would have considered a 2 br. It's not even that I accumulate "stuff". It's just nice to have a computer room/spare bedroom/place to store Christmas and birthday gifts, etc.

And suppose you do go with a 2 br, and your kids start wanting to have friends over for sleepovers. I don't see how you could do that. I know it's far away in your future, but dd started going to sleepovers in 2nd grade.

Finally, moving is expensive and time-consuming. Suppose you had a 2 br you were trying to sell in this current market? It's just always smart to keep your options open, kwim?

 

[lovepurple]

I had to share a room with my brother and sister for several years as a child and I hated it. We would fight all the time. I could never have friends over. Now that was three kids in one room so it is a bit different than two. But siblings don't always get along and sometimes they need separate space. It would probably work out okay up until they school age.

 

[DawnM]

I knew folks with boy/girl sharing who just found a way to separate the room.....tall dressers in the middle (one facing towards the g area and one next to it facing the b area) and sheets hanging from the ceiling.

It can be done, but it isn't idea for sure.

And forget twins, sometimes people who anticipate 2 kids get an oops later on.

Is there a way this house can be added onto later? If so, then I might consider it.

Dawn

 

[bookgirl]

DH and I are looking to move to a new home. We're currently living in an old (scary) house and we're ready to buy our "family home".

Currently, children aren't happening anytime soon. Probably 3-5 years. HOWEVER, we do want to plan accordingly. We're looking at a house that has 2 bedrooms and a family room. We're very happy with the size of the house (we don't want anything bigger) and the price.

I just have one concern.. we clearly can't know what gender our children will be. The plan right now is to have 2 kids. What happens if we have one boy and one girl? Would it be acceptable for them to live in the same room? If yes, is it up until a certain age?

We could turn the family room into another bedroom if need be, but I was really hoping to leave it a family room. Of course, if it needs to be converted, it will be.

I'm just looking for some opinions. Thanks!

My brother and I shared until I was 6 and he was 9. We got dressed in the bathroom. My parents built on a new master and we then got seperate rooms.

Really until they begin to have a problem with it, it's not a problem. But I would say until the oldest reaches 10 or so should not be a problem. If I was sure I wanted to try for two I would probably look at a 3 bedroom. Let the 3rd be a guest room or playroom till you need it.

 

[Rora]

Thank you all so much for the responses! You have given me a lot to think about. We are going to look at some 3 bedroom houses today!

I still love that house but I'm a bit wary. Again, thank you all so much!!!!