This is a pretty good one
I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict
by Roni Cohen, Phd Sandler, Michelle Sliver, Roni Cohen-Sandler, Michelle Silver
(I imagine it would also apply for father/daughter conflicts)
Amazon.com
If you are a mother and many of your conversations with your teenage daughter begin with a rolling of eyes, move into shrieked insults, and end with a door slam, I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You! could save you both. As Roni Cohen-Sandler and Michelle Silver illustrate, even if you often seem to be living on two different planets, conflict does not have to define your relationship.
another good one is
Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall
by Anthony E. Wolf (Author)
Amazon.com
This is a survival guide for parents who find themselves marooned among volatile and incomprehensible aliens on Planet Teen. Area maps cover the obvious ground--there are chapters on school, sex, suicide, and so on--but it's the title of Chapter 2, "What They Do and Why," that best captures the book's spirit and technique. Anthony Wolf's modus operandi is not so much to make pronouncements about what parents should do, as to explain adolescent behavior in a way that's bound to leave parents with a changed view of the plausible options. Wolf is a clinical psychologist, and his writing is clear--even witty--and he doesn't resort to jargon.
