JacksLilWench
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For a few years I had very little support from DH. He was overweight and eating poorly himself, but didn't seem at all motivated by my success. I was very worried about his health. But after his accident in 11/10 and his weight loss from that and then going forward from that, he has been MUCH MORE supportive, since he is on his own weight loss journey! It is a bit hard because he is totally sold on the Atkins lifestyle and I have my concerns about some of it, but just the fact that we are ALL trying to eat healthier makes life a bit easier! It is just hard to enjoy my carbs when he cannot.... and it is hard to watch him dig into a three egg omelet with real cheese while I am eating my egg whites with veggies. Oh well... we all have our own crosses to bear! Best of all, no matter WHICH "eating plan" we concentrate on, we are teaching our children about eating healthy and maintaining a healthy weight! We are both at a healthy weight with healthy cholesterol and blood pressure numbers. Can't beat that at our ages!
My Mom has always been a GREAT supporter and advisor, although she is frustrated with her own weight. But she is really knowledgeable about health and nutrition and is a helpful confidante when I am feeling frustrated.
DD has always been as supportive as she can be. She knows when I am frustrated with my weight or my exercise. She is a super fit girl and LOVES her swim and dryland workouts and encourages me to get moving when I am needing that motivation.
DS.... well... he is a boy.... a teenage boy. He loves his Mom... nuf said.
Thanks for this GREAT QOTD and the super pictures! I LOVE World Showcase!
Obviously I'm at work now and do have some computer access, but in looking at the schedule I don't get much of a break today. I get a 20 minute lunch at 11 am, and then a 45 minute break at the end of the day when they go to library. Otherwise I am "on duty"! So I won't be able to pop on until later to do read and reply. So TTYL.............P
Pamela, that is great about you and DH's cholesterol numbers! That can be one of the biggest detriments to someone's health- and it's awesome the two of you have a united front on teaching your kids healthy eating habits. I didn't always have that growing up, and it got me to where I am today!
Hi Kaiti- thanks for coaching this week and thanks to Lisa for the encouragement last week
My support system is pretty strong- I have a friend at work who is on WW and started way before me. I dragged my husband along to WW back in May kicking and screamingbut he's doing awesome on it and it's been so great that we're both on the same page. I have extended family members who sometimes sabotage with the things they say, but because I've got my husband, we're able to battle them together
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LOL, that is so funny about your husband! My DM joined WW about 9 months before I did and I sooooo did not want to go with her. But the day she hit 100 lbs lost, I went with her to support her, and I signed up right then! It had to be my idea to do it, I guess

Gosh! I didn't get to post for a couple of days and now I'm way behind. I'll just pick up with today's question.
My family hasn't really been a big support system. No one is really worried about exercise or healthy eating or anything. Nobody is trying to sabatoge me or anything, they're just more apathetic. They do watch my kids while I run though which is helpful. My dad actually rolled his eyes at me when I told him I'd signed up for a 5k next month.
My husband was commenting on the changes he noticed (stomach getting flatter, legs and waist getting smaller) and said maybe he should start running too. I don't know if he will, but it would be great.
I'm only down half a pound this week, but I'm seeing a big change in how my clothes fit so that is what's really important to me. Hopefully next week will be a bit better on the scale though.
Wow, I don't know how I would react if someone rolled their eyes at me when I told them I would run a 5k. But it is awesome that you have so much help to watch your kids and having your husband make those supportive comments. Just ignore the eye-rolling all the way to the finish line

QOTD 9/14: Is your family part of your support system? Or do you have a support system at work, or with friends? How do you make it work for you?
I kind of touched on this along with another member in a previous post when we were talking about teams and such. I am my own motivator. I did this to myself and no one but me can get me out of this. If I choose to eat something bad and someone says something to me, I'm going to get ticked. That isn't support. Now I know this weekend many people are going to be shocked to see how much smaller I am and that is great but I do this for me. I was always told I was fat and ugly and it has taken me a long time to love who I am and want to keep "me" healthy for me and for my hubby. As to how I make it work, I can't explain it.....something in me just clicked one day and literally said "enough.......". I am here for anyone who has yet to reach that point because when you think you have failed, it is easy to self-loathe and set yourself up on a vicious cycle. Failure to me is not trying at all. Every day each of us wakes up with the intent of trying and that is far more than most.
Hope everyone has a wonderful day and if I don't make it in over the weekend, I hope your weekends are wonderful too. Enjoy the blessings of family, life, and all that is around us because sometimes we take it all too for granted!![]()
That's a great way to look at the situation, to do it for yourself and no one else! I am one of those validation-seeking people, so that would be hard for me to get into that mindset. But it is something I probably need to try!
Lisa, that skirt is so cool, I love it!! Are you doing the ToT?!
Yes! My husband and I are doing this together! He goes to the gym with some of his buddies before work (Which I think is great!!! They have been instrumental in getting him moving!) and then I go after I drop my DD6 off at school.
We try to eat together at almost every meal except lunch. Well...we don't typically eat breakfast together, but he gets up and cooks some bacon and eggs for us all and leaves them for me and my DD6 to enjoy when we get up!
He also has been trying to go grocery shopping about once a week with me so he can have more input in what we eat.
So far, it's working well!
That's so sweet your husband cooks breakfast for you and your DD

mskayjay said:QOTD 9/14: Is your family part of your support system? Or do you have a support system at work, or with friends? How do you make it work for you?
IAs to how I make it work, I can't explain it.....something in me just clicked one day and literally said "enough.......". I am here for anyone who has yet to reach that point because when you think you have failed, it is easy to self-loathe and set yourself up on a vicious cycle. Failure to me is not trying at all. Every day each of us wakes up with the intent of trying and that is far more than most.
I love and envy the fact that you are at this place mentally. I have tried so many times to lose weight and failed that it gets so discouraging and to the point off why bother. I know this is self defeating. I just need to take this one day at a time and know that I'm not perfect and will have set backs but I am worth the effort. I need to be kinder to myself. Thanks for the encouraging words!
You and my both, sister! Everyone has to do this at their own pace, and the fact that you're even on a plan says a lot for you. You can do this!!
QOTD Thursday, September 13, 2012: Is there something that you dream of doing just for you? If you feel comfortable, please share or just share how you feel at the end of the first week of the challenge.
i dream of going on a whirlwind shopping trip in NYC ... something akin to What Not to Wear. Stacy and Clinton would be a bonus
QOTD 9/14: Is your family part of your support system? Or do you have a support system at work, or with friends? How do you make it work for you?
In the past, my husband, while supportive, was also my "cheating" partner.
This time, he has his own health issues and we are both walking the straight and narrow. His path isn't quite as narrow as mine, but he does his indulging at work so as not to lead me into temptation.
I know that feelingBut that's awesome your husband does the indulging away from you to help you stay on plan. If only I could stop indulging for myself...!
JacksLilWench said:Good morning everyone!!! My name is Kaiti and I am lucky enough to be your coach this week! I'm so excited, so let's get started
QOTD 9/14: Is your family part of your support system? Or do you have a support system at work, or with friends? How do you make it work for you?
First off thanks Kaiti for coaching this week! In response to the QOTD I do have great support from both my hubby and my daughter. My daughter is the one who encouraged me to join this challenge and I thank her for not giving up and cont. to gently mention it, not being pushy. And for her patience in showing me how to post as I am not tech savvy at all. My hubby supports me even when he does some proud the cooking trying to keep it healthy and considering that also when we go out for dinner. He has never really had a weight problem.
I have been walking 2 miles per day for at least 7 years now. My neighbor/girlfriend and I started back then and since both our hubbys and another neighbor walk Mon. thru Fri. We count on each other to be out there so out keeps me accountable. The time goes so fast and once the years we have solved many world problems! lol. This has been one program in my life that I have stuck with due to the support of hubby and friends.
That is awesome!! Good for you for sticking to the program and doing so well! And kudos to your DD for gently prodding you along on the boardIt's incredible that you've gotten two walking partners too!!
QOTD 9/14: Is your family part of your support system? Or do you have a support system at work, or with friends? How do you make it work for you?
I actually dont and that is ok with me. Weight loss is really personal to me for some reason. I dont feel comfortable confiding in anyone but my dh and that doesnt work so well. Dh tries, but he is just so clueless. If I tell him I have had a good day (eating wise) he makes reservations at a restaurant. When I tell him this is not conducive to staying on plan, he tells me I have earned it!I love the sentiment, but he is impossible!
My favorite example is from a few months back. I was having an "on" day so although there was temptation everywhere, I wasnt truly tempted. We passed a homemade ice cream shop and dh wanted some. Since I was having an "on" day it was not hard to say no thank you even though ice cream is my favorite thing. As he ate his ice cream he was making "yum yum" noises and didnt even realize. My poor dear sweet man!
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It's so funny how with each different person, there is a different method of how to do it. That's what I love about these challenges, is finding out all the new strategies and hints on how to make it work. But no one should have to listen to yummy noises on an On day!!
QUOTD:
This morning, my husband got up at 3:45 and walked seven miles with me because he knew I was bummed that running has been put on hold for the moment (I tweaked an old knee injury yesterday). Having him there meant I felt safe leaving the neighborhood at that hour which made the seven miles much more enjoyable.
So yes, he's pretty supportive. There's no way I would have lost 103 pounds without him.
That is incredible- both that your DH got up at such an early hour to walk with you AND that you've lost 103 pounds!!!
Yep my family is a great support system. My sister eats the same way I do, she is losing weight with me. We can be good motivators for each other... but if one of us slips up, usually both of us do. Not always though! We usually are okay to have a treat now and then anyway. She's been running and training with me too, and we're doing the Tower of Terror race together along with another friend.
What start corral are you in for the ToT?! I'm so itching to meet some Dis Wishers in the race!!! I'm in Corral D...I'm not a quick runner, yet!
Hi, Kaiti! Thanks for coaching! I LOVE the World Showcase too! Can't wait to be there in 8 weeks!
I don't feel unsupported in my healthy living, but I'm not part of a big support system either. I am glad I don't have many negative influences. My sister and parents are concerned with healthy eating and exercise, so we sometimes talk about recipes or working out. At extended family gatherings, we have the food pushers, but those aren't frequent events. I wish my spouse would eat more healthy foods and didn't have such a love for dining out. But he is very supportive of my running/walking. Like others here, my motivation comes primarily from inside of me. And I joined this challenge to have a little more external support.
After the weigh in, I can say for certain I had a great first week of the challenge!
Sometimes all you need is no negative influences to succeed, how funny is that?? And it's working if you've just had a great first week!!
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The last couple days have been rough for me! I worked from 6:30a to 4:30p yesterday, and then 6:00a to 5:00p todaySo when I came home from work today, I crashed big time! It was such an awesome nap, lol! I got a call from my mom, who is up in DC this week. She's acting as an advocate for American Cancer Society and went to speak as a lobbyist to Congressmen on Capitol Hill!! She comes back tomorrow and I can't wait to hear all about it
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