I can see in your future a really great vacation...I wish that I could get to the House of Mouse now - because YOU need it.
When DH and I were in counseling, his father and his repeated interferrance and manipulating behavior were a constant in our relationship problems. Our counselor dubbed DH's father an "emotional hostage taker". Somehow having the label made us both take a step back and put his behavior into perspective. When DH could see that his father wasn't acting out of love but out of control, it was much easier for him to set boundaries to protect our own relationship.
Beth, you are a care taker...and a darn good one. But it also means that you take care of people at your own expense. I'm proud of your hard work and success in becoming a healthier size and your willingness to take a stand on keeping PG from interferring in your family's life. But this stress isn't good for you. I hope that Won can see through the drama and recognize what precious gems he has right at home. Protecting you and Katie should be his first priority.
I'm just now starting to feel like my recent bout of pnemonia is lifting (infection is gone but my stamina has not returned completely). Don't let yours come back on you...once it takes a hold, it just doesn't want to disapear. Please put yourself first for at least a few moments this week.
-Laurie
When DH and I were in counseling, his father and his repeated interferrance and manipulating behavior were a constant in our relationship problems. Our counselor dubbed DH's father an "emotional hostage taker". Somehow having the label made us both take a step back and put his behavior into perspective. When DH could see that his father wasn't acting out of love but out of control, it was much easier for him to set boundaries to protect our own relationship.
Beth, you are a care taker...and a darn good one. But it also means that you take care of people at your own expense. I'm proud of your hard work and success in becoming a healthier size and your willingness to take a stand on keeping PG from interferring in your family's life. But this stress isn't good for you. I hope that Won can see through the drama and recognize what precious gems he has right at home. Protecting you and Katie should be his first priority.
I'm just now starting to feel like my recent bout of pnemonia is lifting (infection is gone but my stamina has not returned completely). Don't let yours come back on you...once it takes a hold, it just doesn't want to disapear. Please put yourself first for at least a few moments this week.
-Laurie
