We have stayed at BWV, SSR and OKW with our little ones thus far. (And AKL before the villas). My girls are 2.5 and 5. We have been
DVC members for the last year.
DD loves SSR best because of the slide and zero entry pool. They also have a great comm. hall with lots of great activities.
BWV. The girls loved the activities of the BW at night. Loved riding the surrey bikes around the lake. Unfortunately they don't love EPCOT or DHS yet. We only spend about one morning per trip at EPCOT for TT with Crush and Soarin. We often skip DHS. So, getting to AK and MK is a little farther.
OKW has great rooms, a fun pool, a huge sand play area and overall great atmosphere. That said, dd thought it was just ok. We like it though, and will probably spend a week there most January's since I have a conference in Orlando every year and we bring my parents with for that trip. It's nice to have the extra space with that many people.
We are going to try to get into VWL next May for our next family trip. We will have three under 5 at that point, and will be spending most of our time at MK like we always do. It will be nice to have a quick bus trip or relaxing boat ride to MK or the Contemporary to be able to hop onto the monorail with the kids. I am a bit worried about not having a zero entry pool with 3 kids that may all need some help with swimming although my dd who is 5 does well with a life jacket on her own. Still the zero entry is so nice with little one.
AKV. We loved the lodge. It has a special place in our hearts as it set up our love for all things Disney. We actually didn't buy into DVC that year b/c we didn't like that it wasn't part of DVC yet and it is one of our favorite hotels. The animals are great. The pool is wonderful with the zero entry and nearby animal viewing areas. We love Boma for breakfast and dinner.
Lots of great kid activities and areas around the hotel to just walk and view the animals. It's such a unique and amazing experience without ever having to set foot in the parks. That said, we always hesitate to stay there since it is the farthest from MK where we spend most of our time. It's probably all in my head, but it seems like it takes forever to get to MK from there by bus.