Belly Buttons!

[SLK1]

My DD14 has come up with the brilliant idea of getting her belly button pierced. DH and I said NO. I don't want to offend anyone, so won't list why we said no, but it's not something we want her to do, especially at the age of 14. Granted, we live in Florida, and she honestly thinks "it's just a piece of jewelry", but we are dead set against it. You would not believe the number of girls whose parents have recently given the "ok" to have it done to their 14-year-old daughters! And, I have checked...they really did say yes. Kind of baffles my mind why you would allow your 14-year-old to get her belly button pierced...I always like to keep "the eyes up", so to speak, and not draw attention to my daughter's lower "areas"!!! Some are using the age old argument (cop out in my opinion), "You gotta pick your battles" (translation: I don't have it in me to fight anymore). Any opinions?

 

[mamaLori05]

a big definate NO WAY!!! I do agree with picking your battles, but in my book that one is definately worth fighting. No one needs to see my dd's belly button at 14.

 

[livndisney]

My DD14 has come up with the brilliant idea of getting her belly button pierced. DH and I said NO. I don't want to offend anyone, so won't list why we said no, but it's not something we want her to do, especially at the age of 14. Granted, we live in Florida, and she honestly thinks "it's just a piece of jewelry", but we are dead set against it. You would not believe the number of girls whose parents have recently given the "ok" to have it done to their 14-year-old daughters! And, I have checked...they really did say yes. Kind of baffles my mind why you would allow your 14-year-old to get her belly button pierced...I always like to keep "the eyes up", so to speak, and not draw attention to my daughter's lower "areas"!!! Some are using the age old argument (cop out in my opinion), "You gotta pick your battles" (translation: I don't have it in me to fight anymore). Any opinions?

My answer is NO as well. You do have to pick your battles and this is a good battle.

 

[quentina]

Go with your gut feeling, I would say no also.

I am 39 and about 2 weeks ago, got a tattoo....I have always been against them...not sure what happened, mid-life crisis or something.

Anyway, tattoo's/piercings all done at the same place. As I was there, I would say atleast 20 minors came in for some sort of piercing (tongue, eye, lip and belly button..all with Mom, I did not see one Dad anywhere!). I was completley shocked by what I was seeing. Now, my daughter is 8 so, I got a few years before I need to worry!

 

[runnergrl]

I'd say no way.
I used to have my belly-button pierced, and I really do think it can be quite nice. HOWEVER, I got mine done when I was 20/21 (right around my b-day) and am VERY glad that I waited. I too had begged my mother when I was younger for a piercing and she continuously said no.
The reason I was happy I waited was because not all piercing turn out wonderful, I unfortunately changed the jewelry after a few months and had an allergic reaction. Now, instead of a pretty piercing I have a not-so-pretty scar, but because I had waited I was aware that this was a possible consequence and accepted that risk.
Had I gotten the piercing at a younger age, and had the same reaction, I would have been very upset.
Tell her when she's 18 it's her body, her choice, until then... mom's rules.

 

[staceyhzoo]

I am on the no train as well. That being said, I am a big fat hypocrite! I wanted my nose pierced at 15. My parents told me know and I proceeded to sneak out and have it done anyway. This was quite a few years ago (btw I'm now 34). After the nose fiasco-it hurt like ****. My parents told me I could get my ears pierced again. It satisfied my desire to be different and was more acceptable. Of course, by age 21 I had 3 tattoos, multiple piercings...I have no regrets. Most of my ink is hidden by clothes and I don't wear any of my piercings. I have plans to add more ink but no more piercings. Once again I'm a hypocrite-dd wants her ears pierced. We won't let her until she is old enough to take care of them on her own-she has the attention span of gnatso no ear holes for her yet!!
Don't piercing/tattoo places have to have a parent with them if you're under 18 now? One more thing to look forward to as my kiddos get older

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

I'd say go with your gut, too. Yowza, while I think teens are fun in a lot of ways, I'm so not looking forward to some of the issues of the teen years!

 

[RMulieri]

Nope.No way in hell at age 14. I got both a tattoo and my belly button pierced at age18 and have to say that I regret both at age 35, except I took out the bellybutton ring years ago and I am stuck with the tattoo

 

[livvylivvie]

I'm a ~No~ aswell. She is 14.... I agree with the other poster who said untill your 18, when you are legally an adult, untill then moms rules... haha Side note... some people keloid.... I keloid, and it is NOT pretty!! A Keloid is when you get a big lumpy scar! My mom Keloids as well. Keloids also Are very irritating! they itch for years. Any type of piercing can produce this effect. Which is why I will not be taking my daughter to get pierced... When she is 18 and if she decides to do it herself, then I will make sure she is fully informed.

 

[nchulka]

While I would not have a problem with my child getting it done as an adult, I would say no while she is a child / teen. At that age they are only doing it because everyone else has one and they want to be cool. I have no problem with going along with other fads, ugly weird hair, crazy make-up or strange clothing, because those are temporary. When the fad is gone they can change. However my kids will not be allowed to make any permanent changes to their bodies, tattoos, piercings other than ears, until they are an adult and not so easily swayed by trying to fit into the popular crowd. Also they can't come back at me and say "Mom why did you let me do something so stupid, I was just a dumb kid?"

 

[weswife]

First I want to make it very clear each parent must decide what is right for their child!!!!!!! Being a parent is the most important job out there! I love my 3 children! That said, here is what we decided!

My DD was 14 when she had her belly button done! She asked and we talked it over! We decided it was not a life changing decision so it was ok! One condition was she had to go with a parent it was her Dad that went with her! My DH checked out the shop and made sure it was 100% safe! He was present the entire time! We all thought she would chicken out but nope! Today she is 22 and has upper and lower done! Also her upper ear and targus. No tatts. we discussed this over the years and I feel thats life changing because you have a tatt. forever! She now agrees tatts. are forever! Its funny to hear her repeat "the talk" to soemone! As a side not a piercing can be removed and forgotten! My DD is a special education teacher now! I am very proud of her!

In the end its your decision as a parent!

Just my thoughts! Different choices for each family! No right or wrong!!!!!

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

My parents always had this rule:

YOU WILL NOT RETURN TO THIS HOUSE WITH ANYMORE HOLES IN YOUR BODY THAN YOU LEFT WITH (as long as you are living at home...).

No need to question that.

 

[danielephant]

agre with you 100%!!!!

 

[MrsGoofyMitchell]

Heck no! I totally agree with you!

 

[mousebymarriage]

DD13 has 2 friends both are 13 years old and both got their belly buttons pierced over the summer. I asked DD what she thought and she just said "ewwww"! DD13 does have 2 holes in each ear and her cartiledge(top of ear) pierced and she is happy with that.

 

[mickeylove2]

My DDs are only 9 & 7 so I have a few years (hopefully) before I have to make that decision as a parent! That being said, I was pierced and tatted before the age of 18 and I have no regrets. None of them have had any negative effect on my life so for and I'm 28. So, I say, heck it's just a belly button. If the place is sanitary and professional and you help her take care of it while it's healing, I say take her and get yours done right alongside her!!! I was 14 when I got my 1st piercing (other than my ears) and it was on my face, at least the belly button can be covered with her shirt. At 1 point I had 8 holes in each ear, my tongue, labret and eye brow pierced.

 

[marcemc]

DS7 has a good friend a school that has an earring, he is also 7. Of course, he came home asking if he could also get one ear pierced.

Rule: You can not get anything pierce or tattoed until you are 18 years or older and you can pay it for yourself.

In my opinion, you did the right thing.

 

[nchulka]

That's funny. When I took my DS to kindergarten orientation last year there was a boy in his class with his ears pierced and a very long braid all the way down his back! Luckily DS thought it was weird and didn't want to look like that

 

[princessmom29]

I don't understand the problem. She's right. It is just a piece of jewlery, and very, very common here. I was never interested in having it done, but my parents signed for my sister at 14. My DD is only 6, but if she asks as a teen it wouldn't be a problem.

 

[mufasa0505]

My answer would be "hell no."

I got mine done when I was 16. I am now 32. I pulled the ring out 5 years ago before my wedding (you could see the outline through the dress). I have never put it back in. Both holes are still there and get gunky. I've even had a baby. Those holes have not closed!

My husband and I won't pierce our daughter's ears because we want her to be old enough to remember the pain so she doesn't get anything else pierced!

Part of the reason I won't wear mine again is because my mom got her navel pierced. It doesn't seem right to wear mine if my mother has one! So maybe if you got yours pierced she'd find it "uncool" and change her mind.