Behavior Challenge Thread

[pudge the fish]

ATTENTION
We are all going to Flor e da and visit Pudge and have us a mom/kid/spouse free vacation.

As long as I can get a little red flag on a stick and pretend to be a tour guide I know all the super secret special places like where to stand to see Tinkerbell fly over and all kinds of cool Dinsey trivia thingys to find


I have ben MIA from lovely Kidney stones- such nice happy PAINFUL kidney stones- hubby says do ya REALLY hurt?
Note : when the Dr says stop drinking Diet Cherry Pepsi- I need to stop drinking it.

my DD goes into total melt down mode if I even look at her
tsts results should come in tomorrow ( crossing fingers)

Laurie- for the fast scooter ya need flames painted on the side
I always said I would bling out a WC when I will finally need one with all Disney and add flames on the sides..

No advice on ABA but from me too and so glad people like Bookwormde can help!

 

[mechurchlady]

Hugs Pudge and goes to Flor e da with a long pole with a flag on it.

Love my new bed, mom is simmering down and was told to stay out of the neurotypical gift exchange as some people are offended by moi. The best thing about being neurovariant is that it give you compassion. When you are disabled or have someone close to you that is disabled then you change inside and are more tolerant of others.

I so want to get my scooter out of my car. I need instructions for the Lark 3 which is discontinued, lol.

Everyone on board the bus to visit Pudge. Bring peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and lots of Dole Whips. Hugs everyone and coffee too.

 

[mechurchlady]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnmbJzH93NU
Something special that you all must see and hear.
Beauty sometimes comes in not so pretty packages.
I am amazed by this singer.

 

[DisDreaminMom]

I saw it, too. Cried right there in my chair. Imagine if everyone in the world had guts like this woman. Imagine if everyone in the world could look past the first impression of people and see everyone's hidden talents? It makes me sad that a lot of people are saying, "Wow, how amazing that someone so ugly and homely could be such a great singer!" As if your face makes one bit of difference in the quality of your voice. That's why they invented the voice over. That's why Julie Andrews is such a freak.

Have a great weekend. Most likely won't get to check back here till Monday. Pudge, will take you up on the tour offer, for sure. You have to lead the way, only so I can follow! Mechurchlady, hope you get some quality time with the scooter and the bed. Think of all the endorphins flowing for you now! You must feel pretty good.

 

[mechurchlady]

Lark of America went bankrupt 6 years ago. It is one of the kind that cannot be taken apart. I may be able to take the batteries out and make it about 50 pounds lighter.

Hugs and chocolates and dole whips.
Laurie

I cried and could not believe that either, wow.

Hugs DisDreminMom tight then handcuffs her to chat, no leaving.

 

[C&G'sMama]

We leave this coming Friday and will arrive at WDW on Sunday. Don't know where we're staying Sunday night. Our package starts Monday and we decided to leave a day earlier than planned. I think I mentioned before we are renting the Liberty Push chair from Orlando Stroller Rental. The McLaren would have been nice as it is so much lighter but I just felt better about renting from OSR than the place I found that had the McLarens. We'll see how that goes for him. We want him to walk some but we're hoping having a home base will help for potential melt downs and if we are waiting for a show or something. We have decided not to bring the laptop with us. So except for a couple of days on the Road when we stay at Hampton Inns with Business Centers we will be without internet for 12 days. No email either. (We don't use our phones for email). We think it will be a good thing for all us (especially mommies) to be disconnected for a couple of days. I have a wonderful boss. I told him I'd take the computer so I could hook in and he said "no". They have my cell phone number.

We've never tried touring plans before so we thought we'd give it a shot (obviously with lots of flexibility).

 

[pudge the fish]

YAY! even tho we go A LOT, I love staying onsite and we haven't been able to stay as much as we used to AP's discounts are now Sun- thursday and we have things called jobs & school where we can't take off during the week get a great rate like in the past


You are going to have SOOO much fun- it's hot but not too hot yet
Don't forget the sun screen!!
we will be looking forward to a trip report!!

 

[C&G'sMama]

Don't forget the sun screen!!
we will be looking forward to a trip report!!

We already have the SPF 50 packed. DP and DS are very pale. DD and I will use it too but I especially worry about the other 2. We're a little worried about the heat (DP has a very limited range, basically between 67 to 75, I on the other hand am always turn the heat down when no one is looking but the summer doesn't bother me as much as her) but we don't try to kill ourselves, always have water with us and take breaks when needed. We can't wait. This will be the first time at CBR as we've always stayed at All Stars in the past.

We'll definitely report back when we get home. Of course tonight we went to the playground and DS had a 15 minute melt down because I wouldn't let him go on the "high" swing. It's one some older kids had linked around the top bar to raise it up, so I didn't feel it was safe. So I'm thinking, Oh yay, how's it going to go next week, but we'll take it a day at a time.

 

[bookwormde]

Have a great time; I have always wanted to try CBR so I am looking forward to your report.

We are still 50 days out until our trip and GG. I did get my final room reservation this week (moved it from offsite to a 2br Kidani SV for the weekend) so just 1 dining reservation to do now (waiting for the rest of our party to make the final choice, probably Hoop Dee Revue). 3 birthdays during the vacation including Older DS

Still following our “transitions” format from last year (3 resorts/4 room changes in 11 days, 3 days Jambo studio SV, 2 days Kidani 2br SV, 3 days OKW HH GV and 2 days BCV 2br). It is funny that we really enjoyed WDW this way but probably would never have tried it is not for DS. This year we will also be working on “hosting” with the 7 days of the GG.

Did you try the engineering analysis of the structural integrity of the modified swing, that always works for me with My DSs.

bookwormde

 

[C&G'sMama]

Bookwormde.
50 days, it will be here before you know it. I didn't think about that with the swing. That type of explanation definitely works with him. Especially if I say we can research it on the internet.

Our kids have off from school this week so they will be in "mommy school". This week they are going to study some of the countries that are represented in EPCOT and then when we go to EPCOT we'll point out some of the features they learned about.

How's everybody else doing?

 

[saveaquarter]

Our kids have off from school this week so they will be in "mommy school". This week they are going to study some of the countries that are represented in EPCOT and then when we go to EPCOT we'll point out some of the features they learned about.

I love that idea! I'll have to keep that in mind for when we bring my stepsons. I'm looking forward to your report. I can't wait for our trip this summer! J tossed out the idea of a short trip with just the two of us in October for MNSSHP, I hope he wasn't teasing. Twice in one year!

I've had all the signs of early labor since Thursday but I'm not progressing at all. I'm going to see my doctor Tuesday if nothing happens by then. For now I'm just suffering through intermittent backaches and making J absolutely miserable with the anticipation.

 

[mechurchlady]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2152173&page=23

I am hysterically crying and worn down. Over and over they challenge me about my neurovariation, who is this bookwormde and what are his credentials. I am so far gone into the darkness and am rocking and crying despite my many blessings. They welcomed me and in time all I do is fear being banned from this site and crying.

I do not understand hwo people could not be happy that I have put the bookcase to gether, cleaned the garage, did not cheat on the diet, am fre at lat with my ECV, and will be able to finally get out of the house. How could people not care about mom being affected by the heat.

I should stay here and be loved for the neurovariant I am. I just over and over am told I am a know it all, braggart and incompetent. I gave up on WDW because I knwo nothing it seems. One remark too many and I quit disabilities as I know nothing. No more self esteem. I almost walked away form Disboards tonight but there is a love here in this little haven of rests and friends here like BillSears who was very nice to me and Nicloe and Bok Choy Mama, and Becky and especially bookworm and Becky and oh so many names.

I am hot, worn out emotionally and so deep in the darkness and rocking. At least I have my old matress in place and should lie down but I am so strung out worn out exhausted and cannot sleep.

Thank you for the memories and helping me realize what I am and that I am a DIVA, Princess, neurovariant and most important loved for who I am despite my flaws. I was a bit shocked when on lady wrote me and said she could read me and see when I was in trouble or down or tired. She is NT but a rarity like most of the NT on this board who are very nice people who are compassionate and understanding. I hope you all get lots of health, wealth and small steps.

Hugs and Bok Choy and Coffee
Laurie

 

[pudge the fish]

dole whip being sent

 

[BeckyScott]

Well it was bound to happen eventually...

the MIL's mouth opened. I have basically only one thing that will trigger me but she managed to find it. She snapped. I fired off a "warning shot". She snapped back. And off I went.

Details not so important, as I suspect several of us have had variations on the same "discussion".

I mean, where do you draw the line? When do you say oh, she's really old, she says stuff she doesn't mean, give her some slack... and when do you say NO, she just opened a can and we're going to settle this right now.

I'm not still upset, so don't be sending me Dole Whips and margaritas. Well, okay, you can still send 'em if you want, but I'm not upset. It was bound to happen eventually and I didn't say anything that I regret saying. I need one of those t-shirts from CafePress that says "Parenting Advice Not Welcome", not like she'd pay attention, along with one child's t-shirt that says "What? Is my autism showing?"

I think you get the idea. Ugh.

 

[bookwormde]

Mechurchlady

Rough crowd over there, One thing I always remember when I venture into the “real world” is that most people do not know that there is any other existence that there immediate world and a often frightened by anything different and draw upon there sociologic defenses to avoid having to consider the possibility.

I went ahead a posted on the thread in the hopes that there might be someone who really wanted to “learn”.

Hang in there and try to only venture into areas where people lack the basic understanding when you are strong and adventurous, and do not blame them to much because to a great extent it comes from their innate “clannish” genetics combined with a lack of knowledge.

bookwormde

 

[mechurchlady]

dole whip being sent

Where is the bok choy? Thanks to you and Bok Choy Momma for caring

Well it was bound to happen eventually...

the MIL's mouth opened. I have basically only one thing that will trigger me but she managed to find it. She snapped. I fired off a "warning shot". She snapped back. And off I went.

Details not so important, as I suspect several of us have had variations on the same "discussion".

I mean, where do you draw the line? When do you say oh, she's really old, she says stuff she doesn't mean, give her some slack... and when do you say NO, she just opened a can and we're going to settle this right now.

I'm not still upset, so don't be sending me Dole Whips and margaritas. Well, okay, you can still send 'em if you want, but I'm not upset. It was bound to happen eventually and I didn't say anything that I regret saying. I need one of those t-shirts from CafePress that says "Parenting Advice Not Welcome", not like she'd pay attention, along with one child's t-shirt that says "What? Is my autism showing?"

I think you get the idea. Ugh.

People try to help even when they are wrong. They tell us fat people to exercise and diet for example. They often do not realize that their help is not wanted. Not sure how she angered you but maybe that is where the not so nice genes in your kids come from. It takes two to make a kid and thus it takes two apple trees to make an apple if you get my point, lol.

Some of it may be the way she was taught. She may have preconceived notions on things like child rearing. What would you tell me to do? what would you tell your kids to do? Just smile and try to teach her and if she don't get it then each time you just repeat.
coffee or other drink of choice

Mechurchlady

Rough crowd over there, One thing I always remember when I venture into the “real world” is that most people do not know that there is any other existence that there immediate world and a often frightened by anything different and draw upon there sociologic defenses to avoid having to consider the possibility.

I went ahead a posted on the thread in the hopes that there might be someone who really wanted to “learn”.

Hang in there and try to only venture into areas where people lack the basic understanding when you are strong and adventurous, and do not blame them to much because to a great extent it comes from their innate “clannish” genetics combined with a lack of knowledge.

bookwormde

My hero and you know they are going to be really mad whena man dared to post on their thread. I could not find anything because I could not remember the term neurological variant. When I am going into the darkness I expect someone nice to say something but you are such a brave soul and I thank you over and over.

I too often know things but cannot explain how or why. Thank you for explaining for me. I know I am not autistic or aspergers but so many times I can relate to the autistic kids that moms post here. I do know my mother is hypersensitive and that I have it. How do I explain my irrational thinking patterns to a neurotypical? You are so wise bookworm and brave.

Hugs and chocolated for all of you and for bookworm I give a medal for bravery and lots of hugs and thanks.

 

[pudge the fish]

But I don't like Bok Choy Unless it's in chinese food - that I normally can't eat
Thats why I would never send it I like spinach much better
I like to say BOK CHOY though -it sounds pretty cool

BeckyScott- I can still send margaritas... those ones from Epcot - frozen and lime or strawberry are very good
MIL's make me shudder and hide- mine is pretty good but she has her moments.

I read posts and go HMM thats how I act sometimes or DD acts sometimes and think to myself that's not normal ???? when people post about behaviors.
DD has issues with some things like stuffed animals must be lined up a certain way or certain toys/books/ pencils have to be in a special spot..the bookbag MUST be checked EVERY night before bed to make sure to has the CORRECT number of pencils. )then again I check the freezer 3 or 4 times to make sure it's shut)
if not mini melts happen. she is a NT - just likes things HER way- thats why I don't think certain behaviors are strange.

she does have some issues with her sugar - tests results came back - gotta go see an endo and get more tests done

to all my break is over- back to phones and typing and filing and fussing for people to get stuff DONE-

my motto for today- There can not be a crisis today- my schedule is already FULL.

 

[BeckyScott]

pudge, a while ago I was at work talking to someone... we were discussing ADHD... kinda joking around as people do when you're all in the loop... I had opened a piece of candy and was absentmindedly folding the empty wrapper into a little square... and he said something about how I must be a little OCD myself, as he looked at this very tidy piece of trash I'd made for myself... Caught me off-guard. I said something like "hmm I don't think so" and he just kinda raised his eyebrow...

 

[DisDreaminMom]

Ok, couple of things. Becky, I fold my small wrappers into tiny pieces. I think it's soothing. I also tear my straw wrappers into tiny squares. You're not OCD. (Or, maybe we both are! ) Second, MIL's job is to make you miserable. And to make you defend your parenting skills. Nothing better than the Socratic method of parenting, "Know thyself". Reason #458 why I married a man from another country. In Laws are thousands of miles away. Yes, I did plan for that.

Now, Mechurchlady, not to open a can of tacky and let it spill all over the place, but I did read a few pages of the thread you are in and I have to point out a few things. Are you really going to be upset by someone who has, for lack of a better term, a woman simulating a pole dance with a broom as a signature? And in that same vein, are you going to let people who's primary discussion involves jello shots be the deciding factor in what kind of experience you have? Seriously? Sister, I say life is just like High School- it's just that the kids are all older and fatter, and in most cases, much more angry. So if those Divas are cheerleaders, then come hang out with us nerds, because chances are none of us did that crap in high school and we certainly are too busy for it now. When you are trying to relive the Glory days, you tend to miss the beauty of Now. Booyah! (If some of my tacky leaked, please clean it up. I'm closing the can.)

By being an observer of Group Think, I can tell you that unless you are adding on to the topic or pumping up the others, then stay away, because really perky people turn nasty right quick when they see "weakness". Like a lowly worm in a yard full of crows, they'll cut your head clean off. Lay low when you are feeling vulnerable. They'll see something shiny and get distracted soon enough.

OK, now on to Now. I took DS to a Brass concert yesterday. There was also a choral group singing. It was broken up into chunks with four Brass numbers, three songs and so on. So DS is sort of tired on the way there because he had been so excited all weekend about going, plus it was 4:00pm and he didn't take a nap. We sit in the third row, front and center. No one sits in front of us. DS is happy through the Brass parts. Then they start singing. He's yawning. He falls completely asleep by the third song. He wakes with a start at the clapping. He stays awake for the next Brass group of songs. Then they start singing Southern Folk Hymns. Midway through the first song, he's snoring. I'm trying to wake him up. The singers are about 15 feet in front of us, and passing out is So Rude! For three songs, every time the crowd starts clapping, DS leaps out of his chair and starts clapping. One member of the Brass band, a cute red headed man, sees this from his chair and starts laughing. So I start laughing, covering my face. By the end of it, several women in the choral group are laughing, too.

Yet another day of the crazy lady and her strange son, making memories and living life the way it was mean to be lived. Good news, though. One of the band members is a French Horn teacher and said he would try to give DS lessons. He said he has one Aspie student, who is the best student he has because he picks up everything so fast.

 

[mechurchlady]

Thank you Becky adn I was never really one of the cheerleader types so I really have never been around certain types of women. I just need to wake up I guess but I think when I get around to it I am going to set back and wait for my time to come.

Becky see what happens when people do not get enough rest, lol. Bad Momma for your son not getting a nap. At least there was no meltdown and you got to talk to the dude iwth the French horn lessons.

Becky off to the time out corner for you. No not that corner, this corner here with the mini fridge, popcorn maker and big screen television. You deserve it. You used your skills as a mom of a neurovariant to help me. You are mightily blessed and do not know it. You are a wonderful person and thank you.

Hugs
Laurie