Bedding question for couples......

[grafxgirl]

Do what you feel is most comfortable! If you want separate blankets, then so be it. My hubby and I have been married 10 years, and 3 nights out of the week we sleep in separate bedrooms! Our schedules conflict once in awhile so if we want a good night's sleep, we need to occasionally sleep apart.

 

[momrek06]

DH & I will be married 30 years in October! And I have to say I had no idea people had separate bedding. This is the first I have heard of this. DH & I have a King bed and we have sheets, one King blanket and one King comforter and really that does give us allot of extra room with the size and length of the bedding. We have rarely had an issue with 'stealing' covers.

But to the OP, as others have posted, if it works for you, go for it.

My DS' (28&24yo) both with their own apartments have never liked a top sheet. I used to think that was odd ... but I do realize allot of people do not like the top sheet. DH & I tried it and we did not like the 'no' top sheet feeling.

 

[wdwiala]

Queen bed, king sized bedding. Extra room for rolling up. Works for us.

 

[beatlesblonde]

You're not the only one. DH and I have our own bedding. I use the flat sheet and comforter that's part of the set and DH uses his own blanket with no sheet. I like to be bundled up while he's fine with just a quilt.

 

[mousebymarriage]

DH and I have always had separate comforters, and no sheets -except for a fitted sheet- on our bed. We both like to snuggle up in our own comforter and not have to share. So far it's worked for us, and whenever we have company over we just lay one comforter on top of the other so it looks like a nicely made bed.

Both of our comforters are starting to show their wear and need replacing soon........and I'm starting to wonder if we should do the "grown up thing" and get just 1 bedding set........1 comforter and sheet/blanket and share. DH and I are 24/26 if that makes a difference.

So I'm wondering.....do any of you "grown ups" have separate comforters? Or do you have a standard bed set and share?

DH and I have seperate comforters too. We have a nice bedding set (which is the comforter I use) and a seperate matching comforter (similar colors) folded at the bottom of the bed and that's DH's comforter. When we first got married we tried the comforter sharing thing but, it just didn't work for us. DH tends to wrap himself up in the comforter during the night and I would have to try and wrestle it out from under him, not a fun night! We have been married almost 17 years (dec. 4, 1993) and the seperate comforter thing works great for us.

 

[PrincessHeather'sMom]

Do what works for you! And what you do is exactly what works for us. We don't use a top sheet all. I'm the hot one and only use a light quilt. He's the cold one and uses a heavy fleece blanket and a heavy quilt on top of that. And in the winter a comforter on top of that! And yes, when we make the bed we just put one over the other and everything appears as its 'supposed to be'.

 

[tlbwriter]

Queen bed, king sized bedding. Extra room for rolling up. Works for us.

We do this too. But I think separate covers is a great idea, and if that works for you, go for it!

 

[epcotprincess]

Hi there, fellow June 2008 bride here. I'm also in my 20s and married to a covers-stealer!

We had separate comforters until about a year ago when we got a new bedroom outfit with a queen sized bed. So, as others have suggested, we have a queen sized bed with a king sized duvet/ comforter, and it works perfectly. It doesn't look too large on the bed, either. You could always try it, and if it doesn't work out, purchase another comforter for the other person and let someone have the big one. No matter what, just do what works for you!

 

[mickeysgal]

DH & I will be married 30 years in October! And I have to say I had no idea people had separate bedding. This is the first I have heard of this. DH& I have a King bed and we have sheets, one King blanket and one King comforter and really that does give us allot of extra room with the size and length of the bedding. We have rarely had an issue with 'stealing' covers.

But to the OP, as others have posted, if it works for you, go for it.

My DS' (28&24yo) both with their own apartments have never liked a top sheet. I used to think that was odd ... but I do realize allot of people do not like the top sheet. DH & I tried it and we did not like the 'no' top sheet feeling.

Count me in on this one as well. Been married 26 years and never heard o this. What you learn on the DIS....

Same here. King fitted, top sheet, blanket, comforter. Have to have the top sheet - it doesn't feel right otherwise.

OP - whatever works for you, keep doing it.

 

[rodeo65]

Separate bedding on separate beds in separate rooms. But we visit.

We started the sleeping apart bit when the babies were born and he was getting a business off the ground. He spent so many nights in his basement office until 2 or 3 or 4 and I was up and down nursing and changing etc. He just got a pull out sofa in his office and made it his permanent home.

Once we got past the babies up in the night, round the clock work schedule we tried to move back into the same bed, but he had learned to snore, and I had learned to sleep sideways across the king size bed.

Everyone is happier this way getting a full night sleep.

 

[tvguy]

DH & I will be married 30 years in October! And I have to say I had no idea people had separate bedding. This is the first I have heard of this. DH & I have a King bed and we have sheets, one King blanket and one King comforter and really that does give us allot of extra room with the size and length of the bedding. We have rarely had an issue with 'stealing' covers.
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Married 28 years here, never heard of separate covers either.
DW does have a comforter on her side, we both START with sheet, blanket and bed spread over us, but I tend to kick them off in my sleep, so DW ends up with sheet, blanket, bed spread, comforter, with my sheet, blanket bed spread on top .f it.
We have a Queen sized bed, and we get lost in it, including the cat. (and I'm 6'2 and 250 pounds) ..when we go to a hotel that has a King, I feel like my wife is in a whole other hotel room.

 

[mom2d&b]

We are in our 40's and have been married 12 years. Seperate covers for us. I have the top sheet, the blanket and comforter, he has a fleece blanket he has had since b4 we met. No sharing.

 

[mrsstats]

We only have one comforter, but we each have our own blanket that we use on our side of he bed, underneath the "shared" comforter. Works for us,and I see no problems with having seperate bedding.

We do the same and we have been married 40 years. I agree with others - if it works for you, leave it that way.

 

[Aristomommy]

We are about to celebrate 15 years and I have never even thought of separate comforters. What I mean by that is that it's a brilliant idea, but I never thought that as a solution to our nightly "cover wars". I am a burrito woman and usually go to bed first. The DH has to unwrap me to have any covers when he comes to bed and rest of the night is usually a tug of war. I am going to suggest this to DH because we are finally getting a king size bed!!!

 

[HsvTeacher]

12 years of separate bedding here!

We're both blanket stealers, and we have different temperature preferences. During the summer, I only use a flat sheet, and DH uses a flat sheet and a blanket. In the winter, I add a fleece blanket, and we both share a comforter.

It works for us, and we're both happy!

 

[Catira]

We have a king size bed and we each get our own blanket. My husband tends to roll himself in the blanket, sometimes all that peeks out are his eyes Myself, I like to have my feet covered, but only cover my body up to my chest. Early in our marriage, we were usually playing "tug of war" with the blanket. Finally, had the idea of two blankets! As of matter of fact, my two kiddos when they have to share a bed on vacation, will both insist on having their own blankets.

As others have said, "do what works for both of you".

 

[Becky2005]

If having separate bedding works, stay separated!

Do whatever works for you! Don't worry about the "grown up" thing to do. Who cares! However, I'm a fairly laid back person and it never occurred to me to be worried about how many blankets, comfortors, beds other people have.

 

[*BTMRR*]

The key to being grownup is to knowing what you and your spouse need and want, what works for you guys, and not caring one little bit about what others think.
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Very well said!

 

[disneydreamersx4]

OP thanks for the idea of 2 comforters!! Now there will be no stealing the comforters here

 

[pixiewings71]

We do separate bedding, we each have our own blankets but only 1 comforter so if it's really cold we will cuddle but that rarely happens. lol We like having our own blankets, it works better for us so that's what we do.