Bedding question for couples......

[Pomlover2586]

DH and I have always had separate comforters, and no sheets -except for a fitted sheet- on our bed. We both like to snuggle up in our own comforter and not have to share. So far it's worked for us, and whenever we have company over we just lay one comforter on top of the other so it looks like a nicely made bed.

Both of our comforters are starting to show their wear and need replacing soon........and I'm starting to wonder if we should do the "grown up thing" and get just 1 bedding set........1 comforter and sheet/blanket and share. DH and I are 24/26 if that makes a difference.

So I'm wondering.....do any of you "grown ups" have separate comforters? Or do you have a standard bed set and share?

 

[usnuzuloose]

We have sheets, and blanket and comforter. No one steels from one another so no worrys there. Jo

 

[book_junkie]

If having separate bedding works, stay separated! The secret is to know which one of you is going to steal the covers! My hubby has ALWAYS been a burrito man- wraps himself up in the covers from mid chest to feet, and stays that way throughout the night.... If he gets un-tucked somehow, he's freezing... Me, feet and arms and face need out or I'm roasting- yet he'll think I'm cold and try and tuck me in during the night the few times I've thrown off shared bedding.

We've been married for 12 years now, and have ALWAYS had separate bedding- even when traveling. We'll call to housekeeping (mousekeeping) for an extra blanket and sheet set so that we're comfortable... much better than not being able to sleep.

 

[bumbershoot]

....do any of you "grown ups" have separate comforters? Or do you have a standard bed set and share?

The key to being grownup is to knowing what you and your spouse need and want, what works for you guys, and not caring one little bit about what others think.

Your situation sounds great! Though you might want to get sheets, if you want the comforters to last a bit longer...you could still get one sheet for each, though! Or maybe just comforter covers.

 

[Pomlover2586]

LOL Ok I'm glad to know DH and I are not the only ones who have separate bedding! It works for us.....as we both have a tendency to "burrito up" and have both been known to steal the covers.

So far the comforters have been similar in colors, but not matching.....I'm considering getting matching ones this time if I purchase 2 new ones.

 

[SandrA9810]

I'm a cover stealer. So if I'm sleeping next to any one, they better not like having a blanket on top of them.

You could always get duvet covers. They wash separately from the inside, and seems more easily replaced.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

The key to being grownup is to knowing what you and your spouse need and want, what works for you guys, and not caring one little bit about what others think.

Could not agree more! If the dual comforters work for you, keep doing it!

 

[Disneylover79]

I am not that much more grown up then you , but DF likes just the comforter and I like the flat sheet and comforter....drives me crazy because I have to have the bed neat before I get in it....

 

[mkymouse1928]

Absolutely do what is best for you! DH and I had many an argument the first year of our marriage over bedding. I finally wised up and bought us both our own comforter/quilt, sheet, and blanket. We have been very happy bed mates ever since!

 

[Pooh67_68]

We have been doing seprate bedding since our 5th year and we are married 24.

 

[SaraJayne]

We have sheets, and blanket and comforter. No one steels from one another so no worrys there. Jo

Same here. Fitted sheet (no flat), thermal blanket and then quilt on top.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

We have one fulls et of matching sheets comforter etc. And the bed is made up in that set. However on the end of the bed we have an additional comforter that matches the original set. folded neatly so yes we have 2.

 

[Mermaid02]

If that works for you guys- stick with it! DH steals the comforter, but I snore so I guess it evens out! LOL

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

We only have one comforter, but we each have our own blanket that we use on our side of he bed, underneath the "shared" comforter. Works for us,and I see no problems with having seperate bedding.

 

[gregokdisney]

My husband and I have been married 19 years and have ALWAYS done the separate comforter thing with no sheets. It works out perfectly for us. Just get two new comforters! Whenever I buy a sheet set, I use the flat sheet to make extra pillowcases, since we both also like lots of pillows.

 

[ORMom2Four]

Seperate comforters for us too. For the first few years we shared one and constanly fought over it in our sleep. We've been married 18 years now and have had seperate comforters for 16 of it

 

[tigercat]

We have only one set of sheets and comforter. He sometimes steals them but I just pull away until I get enough to cover me. He just likes covers on though and doesn't wrap himself in it. I do like it colder though so a lot of the time I really don't care. We have been married almost 36 years and it has worked for us. Now saying that if it didn't I wouldn't hesitate on having seperate sheets and comforters. Things always depend on the people who are most involved. Whatever works for them is the grown-up thing to do.
tigercat

 

[Handbag Lady]

DH and I have always had separate comforters, and no sheets -except for a fitted sheet- on our bed. We both like to snuggle up in our own comforter and not have to share. So far it's worked for us, and whenever we have company over we just lay one comforter on top of the other so it looks like a nicely made bed.

Both of our comforters are starting to show their wear and need replacing soon........and I'm starting to wonder if we should do the "grown up thing" and get just 1 bedding set........1 comforter and sheet/blanket and share. DH and I are 24/26 if that makes a difference.

So I'm wondering.....do any of you "grown ups" have separate comforters? Or do you have a standard bed set and share?

I am 41 and my husband is 47. We have the same set-up you do right down the to "lay one over both" when company is over!

i can't stand sharing and neither can he. He also likes to be very cold and I prefer warm. So, we have different strength comforters.

I wouldn't change.

 

[Disney Doll]

We have one, but it works for us. DH occasionally steals covers, but I steal them back! However, I wouldn't hesitate to get a 2nd comforter if DH constantly stole the covers and I was constantly cold. I'd probably get 2 matching ones though.

Perhaps you could get one in a smaller size for yourself if a smaller size would be enough for you? Like, if your bed is a king, get a queen and a king that match. You use the queen, he uses the king and when you make the bed you put the queen on and the king over it. Then no one really knows you have a 2nd comforter if that bothers you to have people know.

 

[palmtreegirl]

We do the same thing as you. I have a thick warm comforter since I'm always cold and DH has a lightweight one.