Be nice to your spouse cause you never know.....

[Mishetta]

My cousin & his wife have had a very volatile relationship. They would have horrible fights (even in front of their daughter!) They have had an abusive marriage (verbally & physically). Very sad. They had both been in counseling & although both got "better", they still didn't have the ideal relationship.

My cousin has been off work due to a knee injury & had been home with his wife who suffered from emphazema & a heart condition (brought on by all her breathing problems). She had been doing so well lately & had stablized. Anyway, yesterday they had such a nice day together. They both made stuffed artichokes together to cook later on & sat laughing sharing good times. They ate a small lunch together but the day had tired his wife out. She went to rest on her recliner in the livingroom. He's had his knee injury & he was pooped out too after cleaning the kitchen from their artichoke stuffing & lunch. He packed his knee with ice & laid down on the sofa for a little rest next to his wife.

He dozed off & 20 mins later he woke up hearing a strange clicking sound on his wife's breathing machine. He jumped up because his wife looked pale & he found she was not breathing. He stumbled frantically to call 911 & started to perform CPR on her. Nothing. Ambulance got there & FD & police & she was pronounced dead.

I'm just so happy that their last day together was peaceful & they found time to just be nice to each other & laugh. I have to say that altho we knew this day would come, we didn't expect it just yet, especially since she had been doing so well.

Please keep my cousin & his 11 y/o daughter in your prayers if you will. He still hadn't told his daughter the last I spoke to him yesterday. He was leaving to go pick her up & break the news to her about her Mommie.

Please be nice to your family....you just never know. All I kept thinking about was how horrible he would have felt the rest of his life if their last day together they had been fighting. Even tho I think my cousin is an idiot, I feel so much pain for him now. He's fine one moment & crying the next & he was so angry with his wife for leaving them.

By the way, thanks for listening. I guess this is my way of dealing with her death.

 

[grinningghost]

That's so sad. I can't imagine your cousin having to tell his daughter, that's going to be so hard. I will keep them in my thoughts.

 

[Maleficent13]

to the DH and especially the daughter.

 

[SC Minnie]

It is a sad reminder to treat people everyday like it may be the last time you see them because tomorrow is promised to no one.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

How sad for the daughter, how sad for your cousin and how sad for the wife, on so many different levels.

 

[gradtchr]

My prayers are with the family and especially the 11 year old girl.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

now if feeel like a loser whining about my vacation
im so sorry

 

[MsDisney23]

 

[Mishetta]

now if feeel like a loser whining about my vacation
im so sorry

Oh! Please don't!! We all have ups & downs in life. Altho losing my cousin in law was horrible, losing my Mom was the absolute worst. I've also had bad vacations (well, none at WDW thankfully) but don't feel bad for "whining" as you put it! We all do it, it's allowed here, right!? Anyway, I never look at someone sharing their experiences as "whining" because I feel we all have a lot to learn from one another's experiences. Thank you for responding & I hope your vacation will be a better experience next time.

If this will make you feel any better, just last month my cousin was complaining at how miserable his life is because he's had to take on so many responsibilities once his wife took ill. He has not had a vacation in the past 2 years because she couldn't go anywhere, you know, all the stuff you sacrifice when you're caring for a sick family member. Now to me, that was whining because I felt he should have been grateful for every day he was granted with his wife. That's how I took on my responsibility of taking care of my Mom when she was ill. I was so grateful for each & every day until the end. Of course, my Mom was ill for only 1 year whereas my cousin's wife was ill for two. I guess you wear down after a lengthy illness.

Thank you all for showing compassion for my "niece" (that's how we refer to our cousin's children). She has been through so much & has basically been raising herself. Now we will need to have a family meeting to decide what will be in her best interest since her Dad (my cousin) works afternoons. We all live spread out so she may end up having to move in with one of us. None of us feel her Dad is capable of handling her alone but we could be wrong. Naturally, it will be her Dad's decision.

 

[simba928]

That is so sad. Hugs to your cousin and especially your niece.

 

[RitaZ.]

Rose, I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine having to tell a child that her mom is gone. {{hugs}} to you.

 

[4nana]

How very sad. Sending prayers to your family, specially your young niece, who is really going to miss her Mom.