Be careful when inviting guests

[Goofball]

That is just wrong! I would not recommend ever trying to take this person anywhere again!

 

[coachv]

Thanks Mousgroupy. My sentiments exactly!!!!!!!!! Don't worry, Goofball. She won't travel with me as far as the next street corner again!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[*Fantasia*]

I only read your post, and here is my say...say hello to your ex-friend!

You are very right, you and your family does not deserve to be treated that way. She is inconsiderate for not telling you that she is moving out of the room and especially for not telling you that she already had left for home.

A friend can talk to a friend no matter what. If there is a problem, she should have confronted you and fixed the problem, instead she gave you an "attitude" through out the entire trip. I know the trip was not a happy one, not if someone is a "grouch".

She didn't even bother to say thank you for inviting her to the trip. What is her problem? Anyway...If she doesn't call for an apology, then don't worry about it. She must realize that she has a problem and it sure is not your problem

I' sorry that your friend has to be like this towards you, especially that she has been your friend for so many years. Don't worry, it's will be alright. If she doesn't come around, then don't worry about it, maybe it's for the best.

 

[WorknFires]

DH & I are going to WDW and the Disney Wonder in Oct and taking my mom because she's never been to either WDW or on a cruise. I know my mom is like me and loves riding everything and seeing everything and I'm positive that she will have the best time! BUT... my mom smokes and is occassionally a social drinker and DH & I are neither, so I also invited my aunt who is both. She's much more laid back than mom or me but I'm really hoping she'll enjoy herself too (all she has to buy is her LOS pass) I don't want the fact that she may not want to ride something keep my mom from riding out of politeness. I'm inviting her so that they can do their own things too -and that isn't a problem- as well as things together. I think the biggest problem is gonna be that DH, mom and I are pretty good eaters and she eats like a bird so doing the charactor buffets may be "offensive" to her. I don't know, I hope it all works out because I'm doing it again next year with DH's parents. LOL

Cheryl

 

[DISFANS3]

WE will be going to WDW in Aug, Going on vacation with friends or Family is most difficult, always end up doing what the want to do.. I have a lot better time with just my wife and daughter. We go and do what we feal like doing?? I am not one to cause trouble, just tired of baby sitting and putting out the bucks why everbody else has the fun... WDW for us- no Family-or Friends, CBR99, Allstar Movies Feb 2001, Allstar music Aug 2001........

 

[Sawyer]

I can't believe I'm saying this but we actually regretted including my stepdaughter on our trip to WDW this year. Me and DH were taking our 2 sons to WDW and planned everything around taking my 13 year old stepdaughter with us. She lives in another state with her mother and we went through alot of extra expense and planning to make sure we could include her. We flew her down to our house, planned lots of activities just for her, arranged for her to get out of school a week early, etc. Apparently we were alot more excited about her going to WDW than she was, because, as soon as we got there, she started saying she wanted to go home!! We did everything we could think of to help her enjoy herself, but there we were, day after day, standing in the middle of the happiest place on earth, and she was crying for her mother and asking when we could leave!! Our little ones were having such a good time, but her homesickness really put a damper on things. As much as we had wanted her to have the vacation of a lifetime, DH and me found ourselves regretting bringing her.

 

[D L and K's Mom]

Our first trip to Disney we took my mother-in-law (whom I love ) and my sister-in-law along with us. They each got their own rom (Spoiled) and the 4 of us me, dd, ds , and dh, shared a room. The first day was nice eveyone had fun...it went downhill from there.....Grandma was tired alot and didnt want to walk in the parks. Sis, who we 25 and single at the time wanted to go to Pleasure Island etc. The big problem was that we had never discussed before how we would handle the trip. We sort of felt like we had to "Stick Togeather" it didnt work. The next trip we had friends of ours from Texas meet us there along with Sis again. This was the best trip we ever had to Disney. Before we left we all made a short list of things we wanted to see and do. The first day everyone was on their own to go where they pleased and we met at night for dinner at a restaurnat we had all put on our list (Ohana). The next day we all went to MK togeather but then split up around noon and did our own thing. We met at the hotel pool later that night around 8. This worked great. The couple from Texas even took our kids one night so we could have a nice romantic dinner. My advice is.......make plans before you go ...plan out if you want to do things togeather or on your own . We all had a blast at Chef Mickeys and the picture we had taken of the group is one of my favorite!!! Another thought be careful if you take along another person whom you are responsible for. On another trip we took along our neighboe who was 16 at the time she was a joy to have with us and we really enjoyed her company. Unfortunatly she was leaving 5 days before we were. DH was going to bring her to the airport and wait til her plane took off. The day she was to leave she got terribley ill (fever, vomiting etc). We called our neighbors and told them that we didnt feel comfortable putting her on the plane in that condition so we paid extra for her to change her ticket and leave the next day. Unfortunatly she was no better the next day and when we called our neighbors they said, "Just put her on the plane".They were leaving for a family vacation the next day . We felt awful doing this but we did and she flew home with the "little bag" in her lap the whole way home. I was a wreck until we heard that she was home safe and sound. I will think twice about taking someone elses child on vacation again.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Boy, that broke my heart to see that someone regretted taking their stepdaughter.

She must not travel far from home or without her mom.

DH and I took my stepdaughter (9) and stepson (8) to Disneyland and DCA and had a wonderful time. Of course, we spend lots of time together so homesickness was not an issue. I mean we had our Noon moods, as we liked to call them, when we knew it was time to break and go back to the hotel for naps (including the adults). Other than that, it was the vacation of our lives.

It's still so sad. maybe she just needs some extra TLC.

 

[wmears13]

I am leaving July 6th with 9 other family members!!!!

2 ds, bil and dn & dns. And my DH.


Will either return full of "bliss"; completely white headed or completely bald headed.



Can 3 sisters coexist for a week without bloodshed?!

Stay tuned: Enquiring Minds want to Know!

 

[DISLOVE]

I'm sorry to hear that your friend ruined your trip. Have you talked with her at all since you returned home?

We went back in 97 with a large group and we had an absolute blast. My aunt had a teenage daughter who threw
a couple fits for various reasons and locked herself (with all the room keys) in the room.... Luckily we all had seperate rooms so my sister and I went back to take a nap while they dealt with her. Since that trip we have been talking about going again in a large group... it works because we all have our own rooms and are free to roam as we please.

Hope you get to go again soon!
Kristy

 

[lynr]

wmears13,
One of the best trips I ever had was with my sister and her daughter. Last year we went to wdw for 5 days, my sister her daughter, my son and myself. After the 5 days our husbands met us and we went on the cruise. We had the best time, and just the time we spent alone by the pool talking was priceless to me. With our busy lives today we just don't have the time to just sit and talk. So as my travel agent said, my sister and I had a chance to reconnect. I would do it again in a heart beat. As a matter of fact this year I am taking my son, and my niece to WDW and then my husband and my son's friend are meeting us to go on the cruise. I wish my sister and brother inlaw could go with us, but they are building a new house and are in a hurry to get it finished. Well there is always next year, it just gives me a reason to go back again.
Aren't sister great! inkbounc
Lyn

 

[DISLOVE]

My husband and I are going this fall and I really want my sister and her future husband to come along. But, alas, they
really can't afford it. I'd really enjoy going with just her but I think after the first day or two I would miss my husband.
He enjoys WDW so much as well and I would feel like he was missing out.

Candice, my sister, and I were there together on a family trip in 97 and we had a blast. I hope we get to do it again at some point.

Kristy

 

[Jane E.]

We've taken some successful trips with others, BUT we always make sure that they are short trips. We'll plan a trip with someone for a few days - then go off on our own for the rest of the time. On a Disney trip that we planned with a few others - we made sure to get our own hotel room. We also made breakfast ps on our own and would meet up with the group after breakfast to spend the day together. So, we had ample time away from each other. My sons have often asked to bring friends from home to Disney and I always emphatically state NO!! I want it to be time for my family alone.

 

[wmears13]

Lynr,

Thanks! I think we will have a great trip. It's a special trip; my dm and I -the disney "expert"- were planning a trip for us and the grandkids when we suddenly lost her. It's been a year and a half but is still very difficult.
My little ds has had a hard time dealing with it and is very nervous and high strung. I am hoping that this trip will help. (I know she needs counseling (so does her dh!), and maybe this trip will help.)
I actually have 3 ds, but one must stay home to care for my dd. This ds has college-age kids who have NO desire to go back to WDW--I tried!!! (Last trip she drug them to the World for the week between Xmas and New Years because it was "the slowest time of the Year!!!!" LOL!!! (I tried to tell her!)

Yeah, sisters are great and I've also got 2 great friends who are just as close to me as if we were related!! I'm lucky!!!inkbounc

 

[georgiapeach60]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I would be very frustated too. We are going with my BIL and SIL and thier 2 sons this Feb. It will be thier first time and our second. I do have some concerns about it although generally speaking we get along well. It puts a little added pressure when you are trying to plan what to do for people other than the ones you are closest to. I figure I will do the best I can and hope that everyone has a wonderful time. My SIL just keeps telling me how grateful she is that I am doing all the work and just tell her when to have her money in. I am anticipating having a great trip. Lots of planning but everyone will be free to do thier own things if they want to. I too, will institute the NO Crabs allowed rule!!! It will be either get over it or don't tell me about it.

 

[kristikae]

I'm starting to get worried about my trip as well. I have promised my kids since they were young that I would take them to DisneyWorld. Well my oldest is now 15 so I figured it was time. I got a part time job and have been saving for about 6 months. I am extremely obssessive/compulsive and have been planning endlessly! A girlfriend of mine said that her and her daughter would like to go with us. We have been friends forever so I though this would be fine. We are already running into snags! At first her attitude was, "Whatever...I'll go along with whatever you want". We had originally planned to rent a house but then found cheap rates at the All Stars so I really want to stay there. Well she doesn't want to. I also want to get priority seating at Rose and Crown to watch Illuminations but she says she doesn't like any of the items on the menu and they are overpriced. It just really has me worried about how things are going to be once we get there. My kids all like fast thrill rides but I know her daughter doesn't. I just hope it all works out!

 

[Richnj]

Sorry to hear: Now we know why she's divorced. I feel so bad for your family.

 

[LKS]

That sounds like a terrible situation! I am in the camp that says you just have to talk to her again, if she will, and try to get to the bottom of what happened. Good friends are too valuable to lose.

It sounds like something happened that you don't know about. Kids fighting, she didn't like sleeping arrangements at HIFS, didn't agree with way bills were split, felt like a 5th wheel, etc... There is NO excuse for the way she acted, but perhaps the friendship can be salvaged if you can get her to explain what made her do it - She may even apologize.

 

[coachv]

Well, LKS, that's exactly what I attempted to do yesterday. Eventhough, I felt that we were the ones wronged, I sucked up my pride and contacted her yesterday. I asked her to tell me what made her so mad on our trip. I told her that it was sad to end a 30 yr. friendship because a trip went sour. She really gave me no good reason and was not very receptive at all to my suggestion that we still be friends. I don't understand it at all. She is holding a grudge over something petty when we were doing a favor. We bent over backwards to make it an enjoyable trip for everyone, so I don't know what else we could do. All I can say is, I tried. The ball is now in her court.

 

[BONZO]

Well, you've done everything you can now. If she doesn't come back to you on this one, just put it out of mind and get on with life. It's too short to waste time on someone who is obviously harbouring bad feelings!

You've made your approach - so don't feel guilty!