Banning Roblox

[nw6675]

I just need to vent to others who likely understand. My DD is obsessed with Roblox and I am having to remove it completely from our lives. Limiting isn't going to work. I take responsibility for enabling her, but the time has come to give it the boot.

I completely lost my patience tonight and now I have a crying miserable kid. I feel like crying, too, since I didn't handle things so well. She is very mature for her age (9) in some ways so I sometimes forget that logic and reasoning isn't always going to work.

I know we will get through this, but good grief! That game is like a drug!!

 

[Carol_]

Let her have a few minutes.
These are trying times and silly games help prevent more serious mental illness. Bingo was my favorite part of schizophrenia group therapy sessions.

 

[mmbrad02]

We had to delete it from all devices from our 9 year old also! It is addicting to the point she was totally tuned out and had no clue what was going on in real life around her. This summer we even had a few potty accidents which hasn't happened since she was 3!! She was so tuned into the game and jus tput off going till she couldn't hold it anymore. At that point we just limited it, but when school started back we took it completely off. On occasion we have allowed her to download the app (we do it, it has to be approved on my phone) and play for an hour or so specifically with a friend we know, then delete it. We hated that she could chat with anyone and everyone and there was no real good way to limit that.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I just need to vent to others who likely understand. My DD is obsessed with Roblox and I am having to remove it completely from our lives. Limiting isn't going to work. I take responsibility for enabling her, but the time has come to give it the boot.

I completely lost my patience tonight and now I have a crying miserable kid. I feel like crying, too, since I didn't handle things so well. She is very mature for her age (9) in some ways so I sometimes forget that logic and reasoning isn't always going to work.

I know we will get through this, but good grief! That game is like a drug!!

We had to delete it from all devices from our 9 year old also! It is addicting to the point she was totally tuned out and had no clue what was going on in real life around her. This summer we even had a few potty accidents which hasn't happened since she was 3!! She was so tuned into the game and jus tput off going till she couldn't hold it anymore. At that point we just limited it, but when school started back we took it completely off. On occasion we have allowed her to download the app (we do it, it has to be approved on my phone) and play for an hour or so specifically with a friend we know, then delete it. We hated that she could chat with anyone and everyone and there was no real good way to limit that.

I didn’t know what it was and had to look it up. For others unfamiliar:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.familyzone.com/anz/families/blog/roblox-parents-review?hs_amp=true
I don’t really know what to say other than you are the parent. You will have to get her involved in other things. What else does she like to do?

 

[SaintsManiac]

I totally understand and empathize. We had the same issue with YouTube over the summer. My daughter is 10. Banning it was the best choice for everyone. Try not to beat yourself up too much. I know that is easier said than done.

 

[nw6675]

I didn’t know what it was and had to look it up. For others unfamiliar:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.familyzone.com/anz/families/blog/roblox-parents-review?hs_amp=true
I don’t really know what to say other than you are the parent. You will have to get her involved in other things. What else does she like to do?

Yes, that is why I said in the original post that it was my fault for enabling her. She loves tons of other things, but had set them aside in favor of the game. We are going back to those...art, reading, dolls.

 

[unrequited23]

My boys only have access to Roblox on the Xbox. The game system we have allows for parental time limits to be imposed. We are huge fans of parental time limits. It removes the parent from being the time watching bad guy and makes it less confrontational. We even have our tv on a timer because our oldest was sneaking down in the middle of the night and watching youtube gaming videos unsupervised.

 

[C&Jx2]

She’ll be fine.

 

[Hikergirl]

You've got to do what you've got to do.
My kids are 17 and over so I have been through many limiting and banning games in the past decade.

 

[DisneyOma]

We used a coupon system when my kids were young - each coupon was good for half an hour of either TV or computer time. They got a certain amount each week, had to learn to budget their time, and could earn more time if they did certain things, like read for an hour, do chores, etc. If they had any left at the end of the month, they could redeem them for $$$.

OP, what device is your kid using that she has access to it so much?

 

[mefordis]

I just need to vent to others who likely understand. My DD is obsessed with Roblox and I am having to remove it completely from our lives. Limiting isn't going to work. I take responsibility for enabling her, but the time has come to give it the boot.

I completely lost my patience tonight and now I have a crying miserable kid. I feel like crying, too, since I didn't handle things so well. She is very mature for her age (9) in some ways so I sometimes forget that logic and reasoning isn't always going to work.

I know we will get through this, but good grief! That game is like a drug!!

My daughter was into Roblox at that age. I just let her play when she had free time and she grew out of it. Is 12 now and Hasn't played it in 1 1/2 years.

 

[nw6675]

We used a coupon system when my kids were young - each coupon was good for half an hour of either TV or computer time. They got a certain amount each week, had to learn to budget their time, and could earn more time if they did certain things, like read for an hour, do chores, etc. If they had any left at the end of the month, they could redeem them for $$$.

OP, what device is your kid using that she has access to it so much?

The typical devices for most kids in this day and age. An iPad and a laptop, both used mainly for school and for play when permitted.

She plays other games that don't cause an issue, but for some reason Roblox puts her in obsessive mode and her whole personality changes.

 

[SaintsManiac]

She plays other games that don't cause an issue, but for some reason Roblox puts her in obsessive mode and her whole personality changes.

Then yes it is absolutely time to ban it.

 

[marcyleecorgan]

i feel ya. our household revolves around gaming. limits, timers, rewards, other activities.

 

[ronandannette]

i feel ya. our household revolves around gaming. limits, timers, rewards, other activities.

{{sigh}} Yes, I guess it’s just the way things are now and they have progressed to this point relatively quickly. There were many times during our DS’s adolescence that we wished we’d just have just said NO to gaming entirely, which was actually a legitimate option then (12 years ago). Now, I don’t know how it can really be avoided and monitoring and maintaining appropriate boundaries is practically a full-time job for parents.

 

[tink89]

Where is she playing Roblox? Her laptop, her phone or yours? Is it an apple product? If so have you tried Screen Time? You can limit the amount they are on it. DD knows She has certain time allotted for certain games. It helps her manage her time. Plus with screen time all games and non productive apps are blocked until at least 5pm. She is usually done with hw at that point or has to go to soccer anyways and plays her games after that. If she is doing an "important trade" on there she will ask for 1 more min. I know way more about Roblox than i care to know.

 

[ArielRae]

We hated that she could chat with anyone and everyone and there was no real good way to limit that.

DS10 plays it a lot too on his Ipad. I have to ask if you have her signed into Roblox as a 9yr old? If she is she shouldn’t have the ability to chat with anyone. DS is signed in as his age and Roblox has the chat function blocked for the younger kids. They can read the chat of other people but can Not chat themselves. The chat puts stars in place of words deemed inappropriate like the DISboards does here. You can also go into the setting and block other functions in the game. You set up a pin code the kids don‘t know so they can’t change the safety settings you put in place for the game.

Links to Roblox safety features.
https://en.help.roblox.com/hc/en-us/articles/203313120-Safety-Features-Chat-Privacy-Filtering
https://en.help.roblox.com/hc/en-us/articles/360031751471

 

[marcyleecorgan]

{{sigh}} Yes, I guess it’s just the way things are now and they have progressed to this point relatively quickly. There were many times during our DS’s adolescence that we wished we’d just have just said NO to gaming entirely, which was actually a legitimate option then (12 years ago). Now, I don’t know how it can really be avoided and monitoring and maintaining appropriate boundaries is practically a full-time job for parents.

Our biggest problem is that WE the Parents, are avid gamers and computer users as well, so how do you demonstrate balance to your kids when you have your own "workload" of games that have to be invested into daily ? LOL
Internet safety and long term goals for everyone!

 

[nw6675]

Where is she playing Roblox? Her laptop, her phone or yours? Is it an apple product? If so have you tried Screen Time? You can limit the amount they are on it. DD knows She has certain time allotted for certain games. It helps her manage her time. Plus with screen time all games and non productive apps are blocked until at least 5pm. She is usually done with hw at that point or has to go to soccer anyways and plays her games after that. If she is doing an "important trade" on there she will ask for 1 more min. I know way more about Roblox than i care to know.

Oh yes, the trades!!! Or she is in the middle of a pageant.

 

[mrsap]

Our biggest problem is that WE the Parents, are avid gamers and computer users as well, so how do you demonstrate balance to your kids when you have your own "workload" of games that have to be invested into daily ? LOL
Internet safety and long term goals for everyone!

I’m happy I’m not the only one!!! I actually play Roblox WITH my kids!! Adults can’t believe I play Fortnite (with and without my kids), amongst other video games. I’ve been playing video games since I was around 5. My dad and I always played together, it was our bonding time, and gaming just stuck with me. We have multiple gaming systems and my kids have been playing for a few years now. (DD 12, DS 9)

I’m not saying my way is right, to each their own, but my kids know homework needs to be done, studying needs to be done, and they’re not allowed to play all day.

What if you schedule a designated a daily game time schedule (say an hour a day), or use it as a good behavior reward, or even only allow play on the weekends?? I think that would make you both happy. That way they are limited, but they still get to play? Good luck!