"Bad Teacher" barks up the wrong tree!!!

[phorsenuf]

Does your son get straight F's? Cause if not I would think the teacher was..wait for it...joking! I think you and your son both need to lighten up.

I'm guessing at this point anything a teacher says even in jest is going to be blown out of proportion. And that was hardly bullying. God I hate how everything is bullying these days.

What's going to happen to your son if he gets a boss who isn't the best role model? How is he going to handle that? You really need to let go and allow him to learn how to handle life.

 

[declansdad]

Yes I am in contact with 2 parents and both of their daughters are coming home with poor grades. Went from A students up until this point to D's and F's. Need I say more......my decision is justified! My ds was an A,B student last year and had a GREAT relationship with his teacher. As a matter of fact he CRIED HIS EYES OUT on the last day of school and for a week or two after that because he was going to miss her. It's obvious to me that my ds succeeds with a positive role model for a teacher. I do NOT think for one second (despite all the nasty comments and personal attacks here) that what I did was wrong. I knew this wasn't going to work with this teacher the moment I had an inkling that she wasn't a fan of his. Never ever have I ever gone to the principal and asked one of my kids to be removed from their class. As far as the kindergarten teacher...NO I didn't allow my child to sit in a room of peanut butter, I had no idea about it until my son came home and told me what had happened! When I asked the teacher about it, her reply was "well if its that much of a problem then you need to send in a note from the Pediatrician". The nurse had all the info as well as an epi pen on site so what more info did she need? When I called my Pediatrician and told her what happened, she asked for the teacher's name and a phone number because she wanted to speak to her personally. She was mortified! This 5th grade Teacher had EVERY intention on humiliating him, it's VERY obvious! You also want to know the sad part? Apparently she has gotten her colleague's involved because a few days later my ds was bullied by the gym teacher. A student had picked a book from the library about a boy who gets bad grades. One the cover of the book was a report card with all F's on it. The gym teacher took the book from the child and said out loud "Oh this looks like Jimmy's report card", referring to my DS. My poor son felt so belittled. Thank GOD this is his last year in that school. We have been at that school for 8 years, I have been a substitute teacher there, a room Mom, part of the PTO, and even my husband has volunteered his time after school to teach art as an enrichment class. We are NOT THAT PARENT!

Based on everything you have said, I think you need to consider home schooling your child. You seem to think they all have it in for your child.

 

[GotLabradors]

Based on everything you have said, I think you need to consider home schooling your child. You seem to think they all have it in for your child.

I would agree with this. I've taught a lot of kids and can't think of a single child I was "out to get". A little projecting onto the kid perhaps? I always say it's not the behavior of the kids that will drive me out of teaching. It will be the behavior of the parents that drive me away from teaching.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

This thread is kind of amusing. Does that make me a bad person? Lol

 

[GotLabradors]

This thread is kind of amusing. Does that make me a bad person? Lol

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I've skimmed and here is my take on it, including the update about the gym teacher "picking on" OP's son... If the mother constantly victimizes the child, the child is going to go through life thinking the world is out to get them.

When said child comes home and says a teacher or another adult is "being mean" I always wonder if they are embellishing the story, seeing it differently than how things really played out, or even straight out lying because they see mom and dad run to their aid. It's a way to get the parents' attention.

 

[lauradis]

This thread is kind of amusing. Does that make me a bad person? Lol

nope and I got sucked in again.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Hit the send button too soon...

So perhaps the DS isn't being singled out, but he knows his mother will rush to his side without a question as to what really happened.

I don't think the original situation played out like OP said. Sorry, I just don't.

 

[phorsenuf]

I've skimmed and here is my take on it, including the update about the gym teacher "picking on" OP's son... If the mother constantly victimizes the child, the child is going to go through life thinking the world is out to get them.

When said child comes home and says a teacher or another adult is "being mean" I always wonder if they are embellishing the story, seeing it differently than how things really played out, or even straight out lying because they see mom and dad run to their aid. It's a way to get the parents' attention.

No, no. He was bullied!

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

No, no. He was bullied!

I try really hard not to even say that word lol.

 

[GotLabradors]

I've skimmed and here is my take on it, including the update about the gym teacher "picking on" OP's son... If the mother constantly victimizes the child, the child is going to go through life thinking the world is out to get them.

When said child comes home and says a teacher or another adult is "being mean" I always wonder if they are embellishing the story, seeing it differently than how things really played out, or even straight out lying because they see mom and dad run to their aid. It's a way to get the parents' attention.

Nail. Head.

 

[jrmasm]

I don't think the original situation played out like OP said. Sorry, I just don't.

Ya think?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

FWIW OP...

I don't think you are a horrible mother or person. You SHOULD be your child's biggest advocate, but I think you need to take a step back and look at how you react to situations in front of your son so that he's not feeding off of your feelings and actions.

I also hope that you can take yourself out of these situations for just a moment to see things impartially. That would help you to find out whether things are as bad as you think or maybe you just have a little extra momma bear coming out.

 

[msjprincess]

Yes I am in contact with 2 parents and both of their daughters are coming home with poor grades. Went from A students up until this point to D's and F's. Need I say more......my decision is justified! My ds was an A,B student last year and had a GREAT relationship with his teacher. As a matter of fact he CRIED HIS EYES OUT on the last day of school and for a week or two after that because he was going to miss her. It's obvious to me that my ds succeeds with a positive role model for a teacher. I do NOT think for one second (despite all the nasty comments and personal attacks here) that what I did was wrong. I knew this wasn't going to work with this teacher the moment I had an inkling that she wasn't a fan of his. Never ever have I ever gone to the principal and asked one of my kids to be removed from their class. As far as the kindergarten teacher...NO I didn't allow my child to sit in a room of peanut butter, I had no idea about it until my son came home and told me what had happened! When I asked the teacher about it, her reply was "well if its that much of a problem then you need to send in a note from the Pediatrician". The nurse had all the info as well as an epi pen on site so what more info did she need? When I called my Pediatrician and told her what happened, she asked for the teacher's name and a phone number because she wanted to speak to her personally. She was mortified! This 5th grade Teacher had EVERY intention on humiliating him, it's VERY obvious! You also want to know the sad part? Apparently she has gotten her colleague's involved because a few days later my ds was bullied by the gym teacher. A student had picked a book from the library about a boy who gets bad grades. One the cover of the book was a report card with all F's on it. The gym teacher took the book from the child and said out loud "Oh this looks like Jimmy's report card", referring to my DS. My poor son felt so belittled. Thank GOD this is his last year in that school. We have been at that school for 8 years, I have been a substitute teacher there, a room Mom, part of the PTO, and even my husband has volunteered his time after school to teach art as an enrichment class. We are NOT THAT PARENT!

Why did the other student have a library book in gym class?

 

[sunshinehighway]

I've skimmed and here is my take on it, including the update about the gym teacher "picking on" OP's son... If the mother constantly victimizes the child, the child is going to go through life thinking the world is out to get them.

When said child comes home and says a teacher or another adult is "being mean" I always wonder if they are embellishing the story, seeing it differently than how things really played out, or even straight out lying because they see mom and dad run to their aid. It's a way to get the parents' attention.

Yes.

Some of the words used to describe the way to teachers made the kid feel don't seem like what a 10 year old would say. Kids that age usually wouldn't say I felt humiliated or belittled.

 

[lauradis]

Yes.

Some of the words used to describe the way to teachers made the kid feel don't seem like what a 10 year old would say. Kids that age usually wouldn't say I felt humiliated or belittled.

they might depends on the adults in their life, how much they read, what they have been taught in anti-bully lessons.

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

When I was in college one of my professors passed around a sheet with every student's grades typed there for all to see. He did it during every single class.

I found very motivating.

My son's high school posts every students' GPA - ranked from highest to lowest - each quarter. Many of the students find it very motivating. I guess it is one way to hold students accountable for their grades.

I am currently a pre-school teacher, but I've also taught high school. At open house I always display my class's best work. Why would a teacher display failing work?

 

[phorsenuf]

My son's high school posts every students' GPA - ranked from highest to lowest - each quarter. Many of the students find it very motivating. I guess it is one way to hold students accountable for their grades.

I am currently a pre-school teacher, but I've also taught high school. At open house I always display my class's best work. Why would a teacher display failing work?

Well, according to the OP the teacher said she wanted his parents to see it. Perhaps the child is not showing his parents his failing work??

 

[Mrs. Ciz]

Well, according to the OP the teacher said she wanted his parents to see it. Perhaps the child is not showing his parents his failing work??

Maybe. There are better ways to do it though - interim grade reports, a phone call or an email, on line grade website. The schools my kids have attended and in which I've worked (both public and private) all make sure no report card grades are a surprise to the parent. There is communication (with the parent) in one form or another all throughout the quarter.

 

[sunshinehighway]

they might depends on the adults in their life, how much they read, what they have been taught in anti-bully lessons.

That kind of what I was getting at. The kid might just know mom's buzz words and what to say to get her going.