"Bad Teacher" barks up the wrong tree!!!

[lukenick1]

Wow. Those threads were very enlightening.

Thank you for taking the time to read them, I find it very flattering

 

[luvsJack]

Thank you for the advice. We do go to family counseling where everyone gets to speak whats bothering them, because I do care enough for my family to get some professional guidance. Being a parent doesn't come with a hand book and there are lots of challenges along the way. We do the best we can and hope that everything works out in the end. That is all we can do........

You are so right. Wouldn't it be so much easier if they handed you a guide book at the hospital when they hand you that little bundle of joy?

Every kid is different too so what works for one sure doesn't work for another. I am glad you are going to family counseling.

Your son sounds so much like my own was once upon a time. It took some doing on all our parts but he made it through and it all turned out well in the end. But, he made me have a soft spot for that kid that always seems to get in trouble. Sometimes you can look in their faces and just see how much its hurting them. to your little boy.

 

[lukenick1]

You are so right. Wouldn't it be so much easier if they handed you a guide book at the hospital when they hand you that little bundle of joy?

Every kid is different too so what works for one sure doesn't work for another. I am glad you are going to family counseling.

Your son sounds so much like my own was once upon a time. It took some doing on all our parts but he made it through and it all turned out well in the end. But, he made me have a soft spot for that kid that always seems to get in trouble. Sometimes you can look in their faces and just see how much its hurting them. to your little boy.

Can you come be his teacher???

 

[luvsJack]

Can you come be his teacher???

Awww! Thank you!

 

[despina]

this teacher or any other teacher to disregard their students feelings, to allow them to feel embarrassed, belittled in front of others....I think not!!! She could have easily put nothing on his desk instead of embarrassing him... as well as the others in the class...like I said, open house, why not display work that all the kids could be proud of .

So kid comes home crying the teacher is going to display his failing grade. whips up a sob story, and parent goes marching to the Principal. What should have happened is the kid should have been told if he doesn't want the embarrassment of having a failing grade show, he should try harder and not get a failing grade. The kid is 10. It's past time to start learning accountability. Instead he learned he can turn in shoddy work, cry and manipulate his parent, and get out of it.

Here's some more on the kid
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3116272

And here?
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2931782

Something tells me the teacher doesn't think she barked up the wrong tree. Something tells me she's wondering why she didn't do it sooner.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

this teacher or any other teacher to disregard their students feelings, to allow them to feel embarrassed, belittled in front of others....I think not!!! She could have easily put nothing on his desk instead of embarrassing him... as well as the others in the class...like I said, open house, why not display work that all the kids could be proud of .

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[Riles_and_Gabe]

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That is an awesome catch! I would have never noticed that!!

 

[Sabeking]

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Yo, yo Magnum, T.C. Is in the house!

 

[despina]

real good ... lol

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

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Welcome to the club. Sincerely, Magnum, P. I.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Welcome to the club. Sincerely, Magnum, P. I.

Thanks, waiting on my limo to pick me up to start the trip back to Hawaii. I surely do miss it!

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

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I read only the first post the day the thread started, but with there now being 400+ responses, curiosity got the best of me and I decided to peek in on the last page, and now you've got me wondering about what transpired between page one and 28! Thanks a lot! LOL

I will say regarding the topic of the thread...IIRC, my kids' and their classmates' work were inside folders on their desks, not out in the open. (Altho it was so long ago...) That's the way I prefer it, thinking about it, but in actuality, I don't know if it would have bothered me otherwise. Certainly not to the point of going ballistic on the principal to have my child moved to another class.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Thanks, waiting on my limo to pick me up to start the trip back to Hawaii. I surely do miss it!

You're welcome.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Well, wow, what an interesting thread. Yeah, I am not even going to give an opinion at this point--OP does not want to hear it an everyone else (except the BFF and one or two others) has pretty much the same one I think

Adults don't have their job performances displayed. Not just because of a law, but because a certain level of privacy is expected. Why should it be different for a kid? Not arguing. Just curious.

Sure they di (some anyway). When I worked doing surveys at a mall our main goal was to get people to take the surveys. How many you brought in every day was displayed on a big board for the whole office to see.
My mom was a customer service rep for the phone company for nearly all of her career. There were displays in her office several times over the years in which results of customer surveys after the calls were posted linked to each employee, or which showed who had sold the most (and least) add on features, etc.

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[sunshinehighway]

this teacher or any other teacher to disregard their students feelings, to allow them to feel embarrassed, belittled in front of others....I think not!!! She could have easily put nothing on his desk instead of embarrassing him... as well as the others in the class...like I said, open house, why not display work that all the kids could be proud of .

Looking at the previous post in a thread like this (they were mentioned early on) does not make one a creeper. Curiosity is perfectly normal.

I don't think anyone is saying it justifies the teacher's actions. After reading some of those past threads I think people are questioning the way the Op handled it and if the entire thing really went down the way she thinks it did. Just look at the whole kindergarten peanut butter story. She told it on another thread and there are some obvious differences from the story she told in this thread.

The OP put off many posters early on when she accused everyone who didn't agree with her of being a teacher. It came off as a little much (I can't thing of a proper word to describe it without being mean).

 

[sam_gordon]

No I didn't discuss anything with her because DS was already feeling as if the teacher hated him, why go there and make matters worse.

You shouldn't go to make things worse, you have the discussions to make things better. I can see letting one problem slide, maybe two. But from what you've said, it sounds like there have been a number of problems. Isn't it better to try to get things straightened out BEFORE you need to storm into the principals office?

 

[lukenick1]

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Wow you deserve an award for that! She should have my back, she is my bff and knows the whole story as well as our family.

 

[Skywalker]

So the kid is humiliated and embarrassed over a bad mark?

When I was in school I sucked at gym...like I was still running laps 5 minutes after the rest of the class was done. - embarassing as heck by the way - Should I have demanded that I not have to do gym? Some people were not good in French and could not pronounce properly when told to speak it out loud. Some sucked at math and would always get the wrong answers when called on. Should we have all expected our teachers to stop doing these things? Maybe if we'd had parents we knew we would manipulate we could have gone to them and had them storm into the principals office but what would we have learned?

What happened to the days when teachers could have different personalities? Now it is all sunshine and roses and that is not realistic and teaches the kids nothing about the real world they will be entering.

Now of course the OP is different because she has outright mean teachers (ones who cut off kids circulation, ones who don't care if their kindergarten students die, ones who are out to humiliate etc.). Sorry that is hard to believe.

Especially given your son's history - wow. Maybe it is because of yours sons issues that you are going too far the other way to try and protect him and feel like a hero I don't know.

You said your self he cannot take no for an answer, maybe that is a lesson she is trying to help him learn, and maybe that is the real reason he set his sights on this teacher - because she wouldn't give in and give him what he wants.

Also, privacy for marks? I guarantee the kids all know each other marks, strengths and weaknesses. First thing we used to do after a test was all ask each other "What did ya get?" There is no privacy in school, not unless you want to build schools with a thousand closet-sized individual classrooms with no interaction.

Anyway OP, I hope you can use outsiders' perspectives to realize you may need to re-think what you are doing, because it is obviously not working.