baby shower etiquette for 2nd baby?

[Antonia]

What is appropriate for a 2nd baby? Do people do baby showers for a 2nd baby?

Especially if the 1st baby is just 15 months old?

 

[laurafergie]

Not really, but I guess you could if the baby was going to be a different sex. Or if the parents needed it financially.

 

[cinmell]

What is appropriate for a 2nd baby? Do people do baby showers for a 2nd baby?

Especially if the 1st baby is just 15 months old?

I've never been to a shower for a second baby, it's not something we do.

We only have showers for the first born. We do bring gifts to the hospital and/or home for each baby that is born and for their christenings whether they are first born, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc.

 

[aprilgail2]

Nope- not a fan of second baby showers! Of course you still bring a gift the first time you see the baby just like you do with the first even though there was a baby shower.....but no baby showers after the first child!

 

[mjkacmom]

Around here, you don't do it.

 

[mom2travel]

I say "no" also. With the exception being if there is a big age gap between youngest already-born child and new baby.

 

[Ohiodislover]

Seems to be happening more and more. I'm not really a fan.

I can see things be needed when the new baby is a different sex, or since the older one is only 15 months, I guess maybe there will be some things that the parents will need 2 of.

But I wouldn't have a 2nd "shower". Maybe a party with just really close friends/family.

 

[Antonia]

That's what I thought - no showers for 2nd baby - but I see one coming. Niece on my husband's side is pregnant with 2nd baby and I just know DMIL is gonna expect someone to plan a shower!!!!

I am already preparing how I am gonna say no. Particularly since it is not really a happy occasion in my opinion. 2nd baby, 2 different fathers and she is unmarried with little aspiration in life. Both pregnancies she has denied being pregnant until the 7th month and then says oops - she didn't realize she was gonna have a baby.

The first baby we did do a shower. This time I will give a nice gift.

 

[LisaNJ25]

Not that closes together... I did have a shower for my first 3 kids but they were all spaced out.

 

[legalsea]

I agree! My niece is going to have her fourth child soon, and yet they are having a baby shower. I even mentioned to some of the family that it seems strange to keep having repeat baby showers for one person. My day, you had one, and any subsequent babies had to wear hand-me-downs.

 

[quentina]

I believe there is a 5 year rule in etiquette (in between kids) or if it is opposite sex we have not a full shower, more of a get together.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

No. Completely tacky.

 

[Mermaid02]

My kids are 7 years apart so I did get 2 showers. We had NOTHING left for "baby" stuff!

15mos apart I would think they were pretty well set.........

 

[ms.yt]

Around here, sometimes people do diaper showers for second and subsequent babies, but usually only for very close friends and family members to attend.

 

[cakesnkids]

I suggest after the baby is born having a "welcoming" party. Do not ask people to bring gifts. I can tell you that as my children get older, they look at photographs, and one asked me, what, Sarah was worth a shower but not me and Abi?
Each child is a gift and deserves to be celebrated in some way I feel, and a welcome party is how we handle that here. At the expense of the parent, not their friends.

 

[momof1princess]

in my family, we celebrate everything, and even we don't do second showers unless the babies are several years apart or are of different sexes.

 

[happygirl]

I don't see anything wrong with a second shower if the first and second child are opposite sex

 

[mjkacmom]

I don't see anything wrong with a second shower if the first and second child are opposite sex

With a child of the opposite sex, all you need are clothes, which people give you after you have the baby, anyway. I've never been to a 2nd shower that was thrown because someone was having a boy, and already had a girl.

 

[ilovejack02]

Usually around here we will throw a diaper shower for very close family and friends, last one I attended was a small luncheon for about 10.

 

[kilee]

Only time I've been to a second shower was for my aunt who there was 15 years between her 2 babies.