awkward situation.... wwyd

[MsDisney23]

Ok this is my first wwyd thread. I had an important meeting today with a professional person... it was a man. As I we were finishing up our meeting we were standing up facing each other chatting. The man had is eyes placed on my chest... He would then look up to have eye contact but hiis eyes wondered again and again. I was really shocked. I just finished up the meeting and left very graceful.. Please know that I was completely covered not showing anything.

Part of my wanted to say something, part of me wanted to smack him and part of me wanted my eyes to roam to below his belt....

 

[kdibattista]

I definitely would have (and have in the past) made a smart *** remark to him.... but that's just me

 

[Mayl]

awkward for sure.. my point of view is as a guy, cause, well that is what I am..

business wise, he needs to maintain eye contact. really that simple

Saying something would be fine if you felt he was being really blantant about it.. Perhaps something like "my eyes are up here" or such would put him in his place. Question is, would it be worth it? Will you deal with him much? Is he your coworker etc.

Nothing wrong with saying something.

My only comment would be if you were showing off your ahh assets.. You said you were not, so all good there.

However, some women dress with very low cut outfits where I work. I do a very good job of keeping my eyes high, but at times without meaning too you can get a peek. Sorry but those outfits while nice, more then likely dont belong in the work place..

It get annoying that some women like to flaunt it, then get upset when/if someone gets an eyefull

 

[Stitchfans]

I agree with what Mayl said. I would of reminded him that my eyes are up here.

 

[goofy4tink]

My comment would have been...'Oh my, have I gotten something on myself again??!!' as I brushed off my 'bodice'.

 

[horseshowmom]

awkward for sure.. my point of view is as a guy, cause, well that is what I am..

business wise, he needs to maintain eye contact. really that simple

Saying something would be fine if you felt he was being really blantant about it.. Perhaps something like "my eyes are up here" or such would put him in his place. Question is, would it be worth it? Will you deal with him much? Is he your coworker etc.

Nothing wrong with saying something.

My only comment would be if you were showing off your ahh assets.. You said you were not, so all good there.

However, some women dress with very low cut outfits where I work. I do a very good job of keeping my eyes high, but at times without meaning too you can get a peek. Sorry but those outfits while nice, more then likely dont belong in the work place..

It get annoying that some women like to flaunt it, then get upset when/if someone gets an eyefull

I agree with what Mayl says here.

I once had a guy who was pumping my gas ask me just how large my breasts were. I was so shocked that I didn't say anything. Having dealt with that sort of thing, I know how upsetting it is.

What I would have said depended on the situation. Was I a client to him or was he a client to me? If I were his client, I would have said something for sure. If he were my client, I would have had to decide whether it was worth losing a client over what I said (sad to have to make that decision).

I wouldn't have looked at his pants though, because this clod would probably have taken it as encouragement.



I also agree with what Mayl said about how women dress in the workplace (this is not directed at the OP, because that wasn't her situation). It amazes me how often I have the displeasure of having someone's breasts shared with me. It's almost like, "Hey, everybody look at these!" A man is a man, and they're going to look when the breasts are put out on display. The workplace is not the place for that kind of clothing.

 

[horseshowmom]

My comment would have been...'Oh my, have I gotten something on myself again??!!' as I brushed off my 'bodice'.

You know, that's a nice non-confrontational response. I'll remember that!

 

[Stacerita]

I would have said something. I have a rather large chest so "they" often get talked to more than I do. I generally would say something nice as to not embarass or make the situation uncomfortable. But if its been one of those days or something, I would have made him feel dumb. But thats just me. Some of the things I have said when in a bad mood have been, they won't answer you, you know and they don't do tricks. Otherwise I would use the, did I get something on my shirt? thing. Either way, I would have said something.

 

[diznygirl]

My comment would have been...'Oh my, have I gotten something on myself again??!!' as I brushed off my 'bodice'.

That's something I would do. Follow the gaze a few times and say, "What? What's there?"


Kitty - you could always slug him!

 

[Cantw8]

Here's my standard response: "Yeah, I'm just getting used to them myself. I used to be a man"

 

[Cool-Beans]

This is the first time that this has happened to you?

If I don't know them well, I ignore it. If I do, I ask, "Don't I have the most beautiful eyes?" I've received some funny replies, but it gets them looking at my eyes again.

 

[Bobiejoe]

A man is a man, and they're going to look when the breasts are put out on display.

Note... just in case all women aren't aware:

We guys really like breasts. If they are "out on display," we are going to look. If they are tastefully covered up, we are going to look and wonder what they look like when out on display. It really doesn't matter. If a guy is looking at a woman - don't blame the woman for how she dressed. Blame the guy's DNA.

It's rude to stare, so most of try to be discrete. Now, some guys aren't always good with their discretion, and some don't care. But we usually do try.

What this guy did was rude. But, other than getting caught, he's not doing anything different than 90% of other guys women meet everyday.

 

[nannerbadnanner]

Say, "They're not microphones. You don't have to speak into them."

 

[HelenePA]

Say, "They're not microphones. You don't have to speak into them."

 

[MsDisney23]

Say, "They're not microphones. You don't have to speak into them."

Nope, they're my Almond Joys...

 

[Poohbear123]

Nope, they're my Almond Joys...

Good one Kitty! I myself have Ju Ju Beans....

 

[Pam]

Here's my standard response: "Yeah, I'm just getting used to them myself. I used to be a man"

 

[Cool-Beans]

Note... just in case all women aren't aware:

We guys really like breasts. If they are "out on display," we are going to look. If they are tastefully covered up, we are going to look and wonder what they look like when out on display. It really doesn't matter.

It really doesn't. I do not display anything. An early bloomer, I have been trying to hide them most of my life. When I shop, I make sure nothing is close to low-cut, nothing is too tight, nothing gets worn that might slip to one side or the other.

It doesn't matter. I'm sure it'd be worse if I dressed like a hooker, but still.

It happens a LOT more often if I'm sitting and the guy is standing. I don't know why, but I've noticed that.

I do think that women who put them "on display" and then whine about guys staring at them are just hypocrites. But it doesn't matter how hard you try to down-play them.

I love men...but they are pigs.

 

[JR6ooo4]

There is a funny tv show that we watch and I can not tell you the color of the mom's eye's. I don't think she notices me, though.

But at work that is super creepy. Oh and inappropriate. Once is an accident... more than once is a lech(sp).

Reminds me of the guy from Bridget Jone's diary, Mr. Fitzherbert. I can't type his nickname....

Mikeeee

 

[pixiemel]

Well, he's obviously NOT a professional and would, therefore, lose any respect from me. I would not be comfortable alone or even around him.