Wow- very interesting thread...
My background...
I'm the mom of an 18yo Aspie who was diagnosed 10 years ago. We first saw symptoms in the newborn nursery in the hospital when he picked his head and chest up off the warming bed he was on- of course no one thought autism then- but he sure did scare the heck out of those nurses. I just considered him a rapid developer- (note- not delayed)- he walked by 7 months and really never crawled and could pick up a newspaper and read it by the time he was three. Of course he was also kicked out of 4 daycares before starting school, suspended from kindergarten 6 times, and countless other issues growing up- by the time he was 6-7 he also developed trichotillomania, by the time he was 10 he attempted suicide (because he was so different) and aspired to be a priest because "that way I won't have kids like me".
He saw his first professional in the psychiatric world at 2 years old- a LCSW (masters in social work) who diagnosed him with severe separation anxiety- his pediatrician at the time said he was "just different and the world would have to adjust to him"- His next contact was with another LCSW who he saw through a different pediatrician (we moved) who said possibly ADD/ADHD- then my mother heard of a psychiatrist- who seemed to specialize in kids with behavior disorders- so we went to him when ds was 5- he had him see a phd speech language pathologist- who diagnosed auditory sensory disorder, a pediatric neurologist who did an EEG and actually said "mildly autistic" (something I thought was silly- as an RN all I new of autism was the severe, profound and non-communicative types), and his final dianosis based on the other two- was that he was "ADD but different" He of course added oppositional defiant, separation anxiety, and mild obsessive compulsive disorder but could never really explain the "but different part of his diagnosis
My son went to private school- and had some great, understanding teachers- and a wonderful assistant principal who called me to come in early one day when he was in second grade. She had a child that would be enrolling the next year who has Aspergers- and the parents had brought in several articles about the disorder to her- she had me come in and read them- I cried the first time I read these- because I finally found out what the "but different" meant- these articles could have all been written about my son. So I had a diagnosis that I knew was correct- but now I needed to see if I could find a doctor who saw the same thing... (yes I doctor shopped)
But unlike most parents- I am a psychiatric nurse- and I worked with five psychiatrists and several psychologists- so I started asking them what they knew about Aspergers- out of the 5 (who all heard of it) only one- the youngest and newest doctor- was familiar with it enough to really have a discussion about it. This btw was after it got a DSM diagnosis. But the one who did understand- had my son evaluated by a psychologist who did tons of psych tests- then said "I know he is on the pdd spectrum (autistic spectrum) but I'm not sure about aspergers" So he sent us to see a colleague in another state- who came up with the final determination and diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome...