Cruise casual generally, but there will be one "more dressy" night. However, you will see that there is a wide variety of choices. Some, maybe 30% go all out for Pirate night, but you should get a bandana from Disney, so everyone has the option to wear something "piratey." Do you have a special meal at Palo or Remy? There are dress codes for that. For the Candy Exchange, I do give my Disname and my cabin number. It is optional. What FE did you sign up for, if it is not specific, the gift(s) is up to you. Most groups insist that it is about the fun and experience and no one should obsess about it. We are en route to NJ, to visit my mom, (94) in a nursing home. I will pack after we get home on Wednesday, but it is only me. DH isn't coming, I am going with a friend who has never been on a cruise. She is a bit concerned about sea sickness, but she has gotten something from her doctor. Everyone hopes for calm seas!!