D (((HUGS))) about your Dad and I have no doubt you will get it sorted out. I do hear you on the differences in people though. My MIL is the same age as my parents but my parents are much YOUNGER if you know what I mean and this is even before my MIL became ill.
My parents always worked hard and lived a relatively clean lifestyle as compared to my MIL who looked for the supposed Easy way and drank and smoked heavily. I am of the belief of how we live helps us in our later years. I know that not all people have the best but we should all strive to be the best we can be. I can even see the difference between G and his brothers.
thanks for the welcome home I am happy to be home but am beginning to feel panicked. I am off to work today. Hope you have a fabulous day.
Thanks Chiara... It is just so hard to watch your parents deteriorate.
I hope you were able to get a few things done so that you don't feel so panicked.
I am glad that your Easter was mostly a nice day. I'm sorry that your dad is having so many issues. I can definitely relate. My parents really need to move out of their house and into somewhere that I think they could live more easily and more safely. I hope your dad will be willing to go along with your plans. Our issue is that my parents refuse to move/downsize and they have the right to make their own decisions even if they are bad decisions. I'm glad that your dad's car accident wasn't more serious and that the only thing that seems to be injured is the car. Having aging parents is very hard!
I agree - they do have the right to make their own decisions, even the bad ones. And I try so hard to let him do that, but sometimes, the bad decisions endanger himself and others... And I just can't let that happen. I agree - I hope he goes along with our plans, and sees that we are just trying to keep him save and happy. Initially - he is the one who brought up moving... So, I felt it was the perfect time to step in and suggest some good reasons for it.
I hope that your parents find a way to accept a new lifestyle soon.
I can definately relate to your problems regarding aging parents. My 83 year old had to give up driving a few months agao after a couple of near misses. He lives in an assistant living facility.
We're a little more worried about my in-laws, ages 72 and nearly 78. Both are still in relatively good health, but they have the typical medical problems for their ages. Neither of their sons live close. We're 4 1/2 hours away, and my brother-in-law is three hours away. They're trying to move closer to us; however they cannot sell their home. The housing market is affecting their neighborhood. Plus, it doesn't help that the developer sold one of the homes on the street to his daughter for less than half of the fair market value of the house. That, artificially, lowers the values of the neightborhood homes.
Yes, the housing market is a huge factor for many these days - us included. So, I completely understand everyone's frustrations. I hope they are able to sell soon.
D~, as you know I typically don't comment often on topics...but my heart goes out to you on your situation with your dad. We have not yet had to start taking care of our parents, but we know it's coming. We have already had discussions about it. Since we waited until a later age to have our own children...by the time they all become adults and move out, it will be time to take care of our parents. I watch as my mom has had to make very difficult decisions regarding my grandma and it does break my heart. Ours is a very close family as I am sure yours is, and it is just sad to see the people we love deteriorate. It is hard to have to treat them as children, and yet maintain the respect and their own dignity. Prayers to you, my friend!
Thank you Oopsi - I appreciate you taking the time to respond and share your story. I agree with you completely.
D~ Sorry to read your Easter was somewhat upsetting do the problems with your Dad driving. My DMIL was still driving at 74, her old Ford she had bought "new" in "85" this was in 2006.....the car needed to go. Once we convinced her to get rid of it, she coincided to give up her license too. I wish you luck and hope your Dad can see the logic easily also.
It sounds like your situation had a fairly good outcome Sheila... Thank you for sharing -I hope he is able to see the logic, as well.
I can relate to the situation with your dad! I live in a duplex and my mom lives next door. I don't know how I would handle it if she lived any farther away! I take care of all her meds and finances and we've hired a "companion" to come for 4 hours three days a week to take her to the gym (she still works out) and the grocery store. She doesn't like not driving at all and still thinks she'd be fine to drive She does have some medical problems that we've used as an excuse to ban her from driving So far so good! She has one of those buttons she wears in case she falls or needs medical assistance and they do work well .... except when she goes to bed with it on and accidentally pushes the button at 3:45 in the am but at least we know it works.
It sounds like you have a really good living situation for your mom. I wish something like that was feesable for my dad - but because of my brother, he can't leave the area, and I don't want him to. And there is just no way for us to go back. My dad does wear the Lifeline button too... I've received several calls, which have all turned out to be false alarms - but it's still enough to get your blood pumping.
Glad to hear you had a good holiday. Sorry to hear about your Dad's issues. My own parents are gone and have been for amny years, so I can't really relate, however my mil, who is 92, bless her soul, had a number of issues a few years ago and voluntarily gave up her apartment at the retirement home and moved in with my sil. She's now in a nursing home because she needs care 24/7. She's still going strong though! We live about 5 hours away though, so everything pretty much falls on my sil's shoulders. We help out where we can, though.
Glad you all were able to find a good solution for her. My grandmother is still living at the ripe age of 93... She still bowls twice a week and goes to daily mass, plus she volunteers at the local senior center... However - she is starting to have some memory loss issues, which is very sad - because she is one of my few connections to my Mom that I have.
I solved my future situation by telling my kids I was going to spend 3 months of every year with each of them! The way they only need to put up with me for a short period of time!
LOL Great solution!
We had some exciting news yesterday! My younger son and his gf became engaged! We are so happy for them - they have been together for about 6 years now. They met in college and are so suited to each other! No wedding plans yet, but I expect they will have a wedding soon. My ds does not care for long engagements.
Have a great day!
Congratulations on the engagement of your DS! Weddings are so much fun!
D~ Glad you and your family were able to enjoy most of your Easter day. I am sincerely sorry you heart is burdened with concern for your father and brother. I will say prayers for you all.
Thank you Dee.
Judging by your photos of your shelves, I wouldn't say you have a outrageous stock pile at all. I truly envy organized people.
That's good, because I don't want to be one of those people - LOL. And I certainly don't want to stock up on things that we don't use or need.
I hope you are able to enjoy your sewing chores today, and keep your mind of more tiring situations in your life.
Thank you - It was a good day.
Two of your Ruth's did get together and we had a Great! time. Just think what all three of us could do!
LOL - I just don't wanna know...
Your shelves are beautiful and perfect for what you need them for. Like RuthIE,I don't buy much anymore. It's really almost cheaper to eat out. I do remember very well the days with 4 kids,husband and aging mother. After cooking for a family for 30 years, I now dust my stove more than scrub it!
LOL I am not sure if I could ever get used to that?
I'm glad you enjoyed Easter in spite of your worries about your dad. It sounds like the decisions you've made are good but will be difficult to carry out. My prayers are with you.
Have a great day! Ruth
Thank you Ruth. If we can just find him somewhere to live - that would be immensely helpful... And the first step to making me feel better about being so far away.
D~ your a rock... and a Star. seriously. I pray for your family always and forever.
Awww... Thanks Mo! You too.
If at anytime you just need to break down i'm here...
This is why we have the dis... escape the reality. enjoy the possibility!
Sorry i am late but HAPPY EASTER! it has been very busy week and weekend!
Exactly! I hope you had a wonderful Easter too!
Love the pantry photos. I have a lovely pantry in my house. The women I bought the house from liked to cook and she designed the house so I have a lovely kitchen and more space than I need for just me!
I dream of a lovely pantry and kitchen... I spent some time yesterday at V's appointment on Pinterest again - dreaming of a new kitchen. Someday...
Sorry to hear about your dad. I know this is tough for you. I hope your father sees your wisdom and is co-opertive. I hope he gives up driving for his saftey.
He is usually pretty cooperative... So, hopefully he continues to be.
My mom's pretty young but I always tease her that when she get more senile (she's pretty absent minded) I'll stick her in a nice home that feeds her Jello because she will have forgoten that she dosn't like Jello. I think women are more pratical about getting old, though. My grandma would have happly moved to a home, where they cook and clean for you. My granpa, even though he is alone in the house now has no intentions of leaving. Dispite the fact that he has fallen down the stairs before, at least then there was my grandma around, now he could be lying somewhere for days before found.
LOL about your joking with your mom - you sound a lot like the girls and I.
How awful about your Grandpa... I hope that you all are able to find a solution that suits him soon.
Your storage space looks great.
I'm glad you had a nice Easter even if you got some bad news about your Dads last car accident.
Thanks Lillian!
We have had Easter holiday here since last Wednesday. So it feels good that everything goes back to normal again tomorrow. I heard on the news that Norway has the longest Easter holiday in the world.
I believe that! I hope you enjoyed it.
It has snowed every day this Easter. And it is going to continue snowing next week. We are not done with the snow avalanche. Today there were 2 new avalanche. One very near a school and a lot of houses. But it ended well. The snow avalanche stoped above the school and houses and no one was taken in the avalanche. So it ended well. But the danger is not over yet. Since it's still going to snow the danger of new snow avalanche are not over.
This just scares me a lot for all of you. You continue to be in our prayers.
I can so relate to the issue with your dad... we moved my mom in with us. Then we got the two kiddoes. I thought it was safe having her drive the kids home from daycare each day, now I wonder if that was the worst mistake I ever made. I have issues with...was her accident my fault... should I have made her stop driving?
Nini
Oh Nini... What you said really brought tears - I can't imagine the inner struggle you must have had - and still continue to have. I am so very sorry.
It was not your fault - no one could have predicted. We do the best we can - and sometimes there is just no way that we can prevent bad things from happening.
Sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you're able to get him into a place sooner than later. At least you know what needs to be done though. Sounds like you did have an enjoyable Easter regardless of what you saw and found out.
Thank you Sandra.
Sorry to hear the upcoming issues with your Dad We went through a similiar situation with my MIL eventually after numerous accidents and medication mix ups we had to call a family meeting with her and asked her oldest & dearest friend to help buffer the situation. Its a tough thing the drivers license and car is the last hold on independence and for a lot of people that is a fight they are willing to have with you Eventually she did give in and moved in with my SIL but it was only after she had been hospitalized (due to her stubborness she had refused help coming in even for a few hours and someone to organize her meds)
It was a blessing in disguise as we were all afraid she would either kill someone on the road or herself by leaving on the stove or something I PRAY none of you have to go through such heartache Does he have a close friend doctor pastor anyone that can assist with this ? Someone whose opinion he respects ? Most times when its not coming from the "kids" they will eventually concede they need assistance and a new way of life
much prayers sent
Thank you Ruthie... I am so glad you were able to find a solution for your MIL, even if it's something she didn't want to do.
My dad is very close to his church family, however - they are the ones who continue to be his crutch. It's very frustrating to me, because it seems like every time I turn around, someone is giving him their old car - it's because they don't want to have to worry about getting him to church, which they would have to do, since there is no other way to get there, and when he does have a car, he is very good about giving rides to others. So, they benefit two fold when he has a car. I'd love to call the pastor, but I am just not sure that they would understand - and I am not sure that they would even be willing to help.
But it is a very good option - and definately one I will consider using - thank you for that idea, because I am not sure I would ever have come up with it on my own.
Hey D when you get a chance check out the Disbou thread someone is searching for help with a vintage singer
I did go look... It seems that we have a few people over there now that know a bit about vintage machines.
D,
Sorry to hear about your Dad. It can be hard. I worry about my parents all the time. Dad has had Alzheimer for 3 years now...he will be 88 later this month and my mother who has her own issues is taking care of him. Thank God my brother lives 10 minutes away and can help them some times if the winter is bad and my Mom needs to drive to a doctor's appt. But he can't be there all the time and my SIL isn't any help at all. I don't know how much longer Mom can take care of Dad.
Both Josh's grandparents had memory loss issues - at different times. His grandmother had alzheimers and his grandfather took care of her until it was just too much. Then his grandfather eventually suffered from dimentia - and that was so sad too - as I knew his grandfather much better. It's just never easy.
Good job with the coupons. When I'd go to the Navy or Air Force to shop. I'd save my coupons and I'd make out list of each aisle and give the kids a list with the right coupon attached....I had some great savings
I also learned years ago never to send my husband food shopping. One time I gave him a list with veggies, soup, and meat for the week. He came home with 10 cans of cranberry sauce, 20 rolls of Toilet paper, a bag of greens and ONE can of tuna.
Sheila
ROFL... THat had to be an interesting meal planning week.
Yikes! I can't even imagine...
I wish you luck with your decisions for your Dad...I dread when that time comes for me. Good luck, I hope things fall into place easily with a car and a place for him to live.
Thank you Suzi.
Glad your Easter went well. This was our first year without a big egg hunt with my niece (she was with her mother this year), but Bradey had a good time. I think he was excited to get all the eggs to himself for once
LOL - I bet!
Guess what....it's APRIL! I know, it's not August, but they both begin with an "A", so that makes it feel closer...right??
LOL It is April... Next month - you and Mo will be here!
I'm glad your Easter was good, even with the worries about your Dad. I'm so glad my mom (age 79 last week) moved down here to be closer to my eldest sister and I. My other sisters can barely take care of themselves, much less help Mom.
I do worry about her driving though, but she's just as happy when someone else drives and she makes a lot of friends.
I am glad you are close to your mom, that is so helpful. I hope that finding solutions for her goes well for you when it's necessary.
I think I could learn soooo much from Ruth and RuthIE. It'd be an honor to meet them both.
Just be careful... I have a feeling that the 3 of you together could be a bit...
Part of the reason I don't stockpile as much as I'd like is storage. We've got one little pantry cupboard in the kitchen and a really rather decent sized closet in our front bathroom. That is where my stockpile is...currently about 10 bars of Dove soap. And that's it.
ROFL! Me too... I can't stock pile too much due to no storage. But now that I have a few small shelves downstairs - that does help me a lot.
The honor would be mine BUT I have a feeling if/when the 3 of us got together T R O U B L E seriously don't know when it will be but when you do come to FL let me know asap RuthIE
That is exactly what I am afraid of.
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Thank you - all of you for sharing the stories about your parents - it really did help, and many of you gave me some great ideas. It's just never easy, and it weighs on my mind so much. I plan to give him a few days to think about everything we've said, and I will give him a call later this week to see if there has been any more progress - or if I need to try more persuasion tactics.
I started off with some great progress in my sewing room yesterday morning... Then my neighbor came over and we had coffee and chatted for 3 hours! It was great fun, but now I need to catch up today - it should be pretty easy to do that.
V had an appt yesterday, so I had to run to town... Then I had to rush home after to make dinner... Then I had to rush out the door for my Planning Commission meeting. I won't even get into my frustrations with that.
Today - I plan on locking myself into my sewing room and not leaving until I am all caught up on this bag.
I hope all of you have a wonderful day today, and the spring weather is finally making it your direction... All of our snow pack is almost gone and it's a muddy mess out there.
D~
seriously don't know when it will be but when you do come to FL let me know asap 
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