Auditory processing disorder exists in a very larger percentage of our kids on the spectrum, although since it is so central to our kids if a child has a spectrum diagnosis they will not give a separate APD diagnosis.
ADP is truly about processing and often comes from a mind which is non linear and non discriminatory. For our children to remember things they have to be able to create a “picture” for what the person is talking about. Additionally our children are typically non discriminatory with input so they try to “save it all” so when there are multiple input sources that makes typical linear memory methods of neurotically kids non existent. While this sounds like a major challenge there are lots of ways to communicate more effectively with our child and it is actually a great gift if they can harness the non-linear abilities for complex analytical purposes.
With females and their ability to self-adept through role-playing this is often the only spectrum characteristic, which becomes evident.
Try providing a visual picture (or series of pictures) of what you want your children to do along with the verbal cues. Also a check box system next to the picture that they can mark as they complete each step will provide a linear structure for that task.
Your children are not refusing to listen they hear but the information is not being supplied in their “preferred form” so it is often ineffective. They may also lack the social impetus to recognize the importance or time related nature of the requests.
Watch for additional issues with societal social skill as they get older and monitor for executive function differentials such as a strong preference for non linear input (pictures and video are the easiest understood of these) along with indication of the ability to hyper focus on area of strong interest. Also monitor closely for anxiety which often occurs when these differential are not understood.
It may be just one simple characteristic but I still recommend reading Tony Attwoods “The Complete Guide to Apsergers” (available on
Amazon for $16) as it will give you a better understanding of the differentials that create the difficulty with linear processing, discrimination and memory which manifest themselves as APD.
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