Attention Moms: Was I wrong?

[JJClemson]

Let me first say that I am not a mother. However, it is my goal in life to one day be one As soon as DF becomes DH and we're more financially stable, we'll work on making that happen I LOVE children! I focused my graduate research on childhood health issues, I volunteer tutoring children at a homeless shelter, and I spend as much time as possible w/ my 4 little cousins all under the age of 5

I was running in the park this afternoon. There was a young mom running a little ahead of me and her two children were biking along side of her. The boy was about 6 or 7 and the girl was about 4 or 5, still on training wheels. I was running faster than she was, so I passed them. A few minutes later, I hear the kids' bikes coming up beside me. Right next to me, they collided into eachother and the little girl flew off her bike and her lip was all bloody (sorry if that's too graphic).

Without thinking, I ran over to them. The little girl was screaming and crying "Mommy, Mommy!" I bent down and said "it's ok, Mommy was on her way". The mother was still running to catch up to her kids. When she got there, she picked her daughter up. I asked her if she wanted help and told her I had a cell phone if she wanted to use it. She gave me a dirty look and told me "No, I can handle MY children." So, I turned around and kept running.

What did I do wrong Did I offend her in some way? I did not touch her children or anything, I just bent down to see if they were okay. If I was in the park and this happened to my little cousins, I would be glad that a complete stranger offered help and even if I did not want it, I'd thank them. Then again, I am not a mom, so am I missing something? I feel really bad about this and thought about it the rest of my run. I hope the little girl is ok

 

[tink1978]

uuuhhh...no....I don't think you were wrong. I would have done the same thing. Some people can just be rude.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Gosh, she sounds like a snob.

Sounds to me like she was probably embarassed, and a snob on top of that.

You didn't do a darn thing wrong. Some day, she will find herself in a situation where she WISHES someone was kind enough to offer her some help, and there won't be anyone to help her.

I hate people like that.

Don't let it get you down, you did a really nice thing.

 

[rie'smom]

She was wrong not you.

 

[HappyDznyCamper]

You did nothing wrong . Good of you to have even cared.

 

[mking624]

I don't care if it's a child or adult, if something happens to someone, I try and help. I remember we were in a parking lot going back to our car and this guy (probably mid to late 50s) and his wife were walking to whatever store we were at and he tripped over something and fell. Without even thinking, I ran over to see if he was ok, as did another woman in the lot. We all helped him up. It's just the decent thing to do.

Unbelievable that someone gets offended because another person is trying to help their injured child. Heaven forbid the day she'll actually need help, because if this is how she normally responds to acts of kindness, no one will want to be there for her when she'll really need it.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

As a Mom I would have been really annoyed if you saw them fall and ignored them and kept running. She was rude not you.

 

[ElizK]

Sounds like someone peed in her Cheerios today. You were great for trying to help. Don't let the idiots of the world stop you from doing good.

 

[Linzybrooke]

You did the right thing! Don't let one person get you down!

 

[TurboKitty]

I don't think you were wrong and hope her actions don't sway you from doing the same thing in the future. I am sorry she acted that way. Maybe she was embassed for her kids getting so far away from her, or stresses at the sight of blood or something.

 

[mommasita]

No, you did nothing wrong. Perhaps the Mom was nervous. I become frantic when one of mine bleeds, or even hurts themselves. I do the apologizing later..I have learned to be calmer, sort of

 

[Luv'sTink]

Nope, you did nothing wrong.

 

[DawnCt1]

She was a MAJOR JERK! No excuses exist for that behavior.

 

[jbmom]

No, you did nothing wrong. As a mom I would appreciate someone stopping to help if one of my kiddos was hurt. She was rude, even if she was upset about her child.

 

[Mermaid02]

You did fine- I agree with the poster who said she was probably embarassed that she let her kids ride their bikes and they got hurt (she didn't need to be though- this happens to kids!)

 

[luvtogo12]

As a Mom I would have been really annoyed if you saw them fall and ignored them and kept running. She was rude not you.

Agreed.

 

[lil mermaid]

I don't think you did anything wrong either. You just tried to help, and she was RUDE.

 

[Beth76]

No, she was the one with the problem. Sometimes we need to rely on the kindness of strangers--even if it causes us to step out of our comfort zone. I was leaving our gym one day and my 2yo bolted out of the door towards the parking lot through a group of people and I could not get through. This man put his arm out and blocked my son from running out the door. Should strange men touch our children? Well, sure if they're going to prevent them running into the street.

 

[kejoda]

How strange. I have never run into someone like that. I can't tell you how many kids I've stopped from running off from their parents. I don't know what I would do if someone was like that to me.

Don't let her change you. Kindness from strangers can be a true blessing in life.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

Yea, I agree with the other posters. If it had been me, I'd have been thankful that you stopped to help.

In my experience, when a child gets hurt on a playground or somewhere, the nearest adult almost always comforts the child for that short time before the mom or dad gets there. I've never seen a parent who didn't seem to appreciate it, or an offer of help.

That woman was the exception, not the norm, and I'd like to thank you on behalf of her kids. You done good.