Arguments at the Parks - Stories?

[seashoreCM]

I feel for you...
My DH is required to be available 24/7 even when he is on vacation. He has to be avaiable to take calls (which are only supposed to be emergency calls but in IT people seem to think everything is an "emergency"), and do much of his work from his laptop in the room at night. He spends several hours when we get back at night working while we are asleep. It stinks, I know it is not good for his health (we all need a real break sometimes). We don't argue over it, I know he'd rather not be connected to work, but he needs to be so I try really hard to tell him how much I apprecate it and try not to say how much it bugs me. Glad your DH won't have to be conected this trip, that's great. My DH will be (in fact they got him a mobile internet card for his laptop for the ride down) but I will do my best to not throw the laptop out the window!

But how is his company going above and beyond the call of duty in return for his working during vacation? Perhaps with a gift of company stock? Such would go a long way towards minimizing arguments with spouses, etc.

If companies don't treat their workers decently, this can only lead to such things as doing personal tasks on "company" time.

 

[shelby101301]

I only had a fight once with my 1st (now ex) husband... It was our honeymoon, I had made all the arrangements, but didn't know we needed ressies for Sci fi diner which he really wanted to go to. He had a fit, yelled at me and made me cry. I divorced the idiot 4 years later.

I've never had a fight with DH though, thank goodness, even though we've taken our little ones 4 times now (ages 5 and 3) and even my parents. Course he's been a keeper right from the start!

Sorry he went off on you like that...there's no reason for that honestly. I would let him know that behavior is not acceptable in your relationship and see how he handles that...

 

[two-foxes]

First, to the OP....don't let other posters tell you "this raises red flags....." We ALL act immature from time to time, but thankfully, those moments are not always open for scrutiny on a public forum. He had a less than "magical" moment, but I am betting he offers you many more magical times!

Now, DH and I seem to have different ideas of vacations at WDW. With no kids, we seemed to disagree (aka have "less than magical moments) about our touring plans....I am commando, he is most certainly a guy who thinks the park will still be open at noon, so why get there at 8 am?!?!? It led to one blowout at MGM which led to a very quiet boat ride (I was giving him that ever so mature silent treatment) from MGM. Thankfully, within 15 minutes, we were laughing at it all. But now with DS, we seem to meld a bit better on the plans, and oddly enough, the typical disagreements have seem to have disappeared!

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Wow, you all should really be a fly on the wall when we travel with the in laws. Too many to tell. The worst was 2006 in Disneyland. We took a day away from the parks to go eat some fish tacos my mother in law heard about on FOOD NETWORK. We all thought she knew where it was. Turned out, all she knew was that it was across the bridge? WHAT BRIDGE???
We found it hours later....in SAN PEDRO, CA!!

There was screaming in the car and silence during dinner. At least the tacos were good.

This was a great story! The last line is killer.

 

[LVSWL]

Well, we have certainly had our share of "disagreements" at the world. Not proud of it either.
The worst was when we took friends with us and my DH felt like he needed to play "tour guide". They didn't expect it, he did! By day 4, he was very tightly wound even though we were getting to see everything(early Dec. trip) and were all having fun. I was going into the fast food restaurant in the American Pavilion to get our meals so we could sit at the table and listen to the Christmas music. He said to get him a hot dog, he was tired of hamburgers. Well, I FORGOT and ordered him a hamburger while I was ordering for all 6 of us. When I came out and he saw it, he lost it and I ended up crying, the kids were embarrassed and our friends were uncomfortable. We got over it, and enjoyed the rest of our week, but he knows he had better NOT say anything if I don't get his order right. He did do the same type thing at a baseball game, you know..the "get me anything honey", so when I came back with a fried chicken plate(because our friends and I agreed at the counter that he would probably rather have that) he went on and on about how he didn't want to eat chicken at a BB game, blah blah blah! So now..he gets his own food!

 

[Principessa1284]

Hey friends! Some of those stories are classic.. but it's great when you can laugh at them later, right? Just to update everyone, I went over to DBF's house on Tuesday, and he took me out to dinner. Seems back to normal - I wasn't about to mention it and open the ol' pandora's box, but he brought the DAK trip up a few times to mention things and seemed to be content about it. Had an uneventful night, except that it ended up being way colder than normal and he kept insisting that I take his coat and I kept saying I was fine, lol.

So, who knows what his deal was that day. I bet I'll be a good mom someday since I'm apparently already raising a 28 year old that acts like he's 7.

 

[littleteapot]

I wasn't about to mention it and open the ol' pandora's box.

So, who knows what his deal was that day. I bet I'll be a good mom someday since I'm apparently already raising a 28 year old that acts like he's 7.

I'm glad things are better. Please don't ignore this kind of behavior, talk it out, work it out now. Dating is a time for establishing how your relationship/marriage will work over time. Be honest with each other and fix the broke stuff now before you decide that this DBF is forever.

 

[TheWog]

Don't have any personal stories of fighting in the park, have only been once so not a lot of experience. We did see a father and son in MGM studios walking together. Dad reaches over and smacks son in the back of the head and says, "I have so had enough of you today".... we look down at our watch and time reads 10:55 a.m. Another Happy Disney Family is our motto.

I did enjoy the part of your story that says it was cool at 76 degrees and you would be cold. hehehehe sorry, that just makes me smile. It was something like 28 degrees here last night.

 

[crisi]

I'm glad things are better. Please don't ignore this kind of behavior, talk it out, work it out now. Dating is a time for establishing how your relationship/marriage will work over time. Be honest with each other and fix the broke stuff now before you decide that this DBF is forever.

And when you actually HAVE a seven year old, it will not help if his father is modeling seven year old behavior.

Everyone has days when they act like immature brats (Lord knows I have those days) - but they should be rare. If he truly behaves like a seven year old with any frequency - you stand a good chance of regretting chosing him to be the father of your children. Think about the behavior he generally models - if its generally behavior you want modeled, you have a keeper, if not, think hard about continuing this relationship - because a lot of women THINK it will change when kids come - but it doesn't happen often.

I think we've managed to avoid most battles at WDW - there have been a few kid battles - over homework mostly - while we are there. And a few disappointments - but I can't remember us fighting.

 

[crisi]

Dad reaches over and smacks son in the back of the head and says, "I have so had enough of you today".... we look down at our watch and time reads 10:55 a.m. Another Happy Disney Family is our motto.

Been there - without the smack. Homework battle, got homework done before getting to the parks (which made the whole family late), followed by unwillingness on the part of the same child to compromise, followed by picking on his sister for preferring "baby rides," followed by.....

Sometimes you HAVE had enough of your children. Or at least sometimes I have had enough of my children - you may have better behaved kids or be far more patient.

We've left the park because of our kids....once. Now we just have to say "we've had enough of....."

 

[JimmyPicker]

Oh yes, been there.

My first ever trip. My first ever day in MK. It was probably within the first hour of our vacation.

We wanted to get on some ride (can't even remember which one), but the line was really long.

I suggested fast passes. He was against it. Yes, what a moron, against fast passes.

I'm trying to point out the merits of a FP. We'll go do something else and then ride this ride later.

His point was that we had no idea where we'd be "later" and that we could be on the other side of this huge park and have to walk aaaaalllllllll the way back to the ride.

It was insane, and completely blown up. He just walked away, leaving me and a couple of others standing there. I start crying, thinking my whole vacation is going to be ruined. I don't even have my phone on me, because I figured he had his, so I wouldn't need mine and left it in the car.

So I couldn't leave from that spot, or I'd never be able to find him again. I didn't know where he was, but at least he knew where to find me.

 

[TashaRVT]

I did enjoy the part of your story that says it was cool at 76 degrees and you would be cold. hehehehe sorry, that just makes me smile. It was something like 28 degrees here last night.

Hahahahahaha...! I was thinking the EXACT same thing as I read the post!

It hasn't been that cold here yet, but it's coming!

 

[Principessa1284]

I did enjoy the part of your story that says it was cool at 76 degrees and you would be cold. hehehehe sorry, that just makes me smile. It was something like 28 degrees here last night.

Ha.. yes yes, i know. But 76 is cold when you're soaking wet!! I get teased all the time.. I moved down to Orlando from Buffalo (snow capital of the world, it seems sometimes), and all my friends make fun of me because I get cold so easily now lol. Then I get them back in december when it's -8 there and 85 here, heh.

And when you actually HAVE a seven year old, it will not help if his father is modeling seven year old behavior.

Everyone has days when they act like immature brats (Lord knows I have those days) - but they should be rare. If he truly behaves like a seven year old with any frequency - you stand a good chance of regretting chosing him to be the father of your children. Think about the behavior he generally models - if its generally behavior you want modeled, you have a keeper, if not, think hard about continuing this relationship - because a lot of women THINK it will change when kids come - but it doesn't happen often.

Nah, I just mean he acts 7 in the sense that he's usually very playful, likes to joke around.. especially when he discovered how ticklish I am, and that a pinch in the **** will result in a high-pitched shriek. I do think he'd make a great father, though, whether it be with me or not. He loves kids and does great with his nephews. His number one thing he's looking forward to is watching saturday morning cartoons with his children.. insted of by himself But thank you, I do appriciate your concerns and I'm definately not one to ignore things if they don't feel right.

 

[SLK1]

My DH and I got in the BIGGEST fight at Six Flags over GA because we were sitting there people-watching, waiting for our two older kids to ride a ride. Our third child was maybe two at the time. He sees a baby and says, "Aw, don't you want one of those again?" and I said, very plainly, "NO WAY". A huge fight ensued and went on for the rest of the evening. It was truly horrible to fight at a park. On vacation. Over CHILDREN!!!! We ended up having that fourth child, total surprise, and I wouldn't want it any other way now, but at the time, he just did NOT get why I was wiped out and not in the mood for anymore babies!

 

[crisi]

Ha.. yes yes, i know. But 76 is cold when you're soaking wet!! I get teased all the time.. I moved down to Orlando from Buffalo (snow capital of the world, it seems sometimes), and all my friends make fun of me because I get cold so easily now lol. Then I get them back in december when it's -8 there and 85 here, heh.



Nah, I just mean he acts 7 in the sense that he's usually very playful, likes to joke around.. especially when he discovered how ticklish I am, and that a pinch in the **** will result in a high-pitched shriek. I do think he'd make a great father, though, whether it be with me or not. He loves kids and does great with his nephews. His number one thing he's looking forward to is watching saturday morning cartoons with his children.. insted of by himself But thank you, I do appriciate your concerns and I'm definately not one to ignore things if they don't feel right.

Thanks for taking it in the spirit it was intended.

 

[design_mom]

Mine's a totally different situation than the OP, but I'll share anyway. My family is generally not one that argues. I think I can count on one hand the number of times I've *ever* seen my parents raise their voices to each other. One of those times was on my 16th birthday.

We were in WDW for my 16th birthday. To celebrate my special day, my parents said I could pick where I wanted to eat that day. I wanted to eat dinner in the castle (this was back when it was King Stephan's Banquet Hall and you didn't need reservations 6 months in advance) because I thought it would be neat to see all the lights from inside the castle.

We went to make a reservation and Dad noticed that menu for lunch was basically the same as the dinner menu, but much less expensive. He wanted to eat lunch. My mother insisted that I had wanted dinner, not lunch, and they got into a big argument right in front of the castle about whether we were going to eat lunch or dinner.

I was mortified and would have done anything to get them to stop! I finally said, "Lunch is fine." (and that's what we ended up doing.) I would have preferred dinner but I thought I would diffuse the tense situation. In reality, my mother just ended up being mad at BOTH Dad and me. She was mad at Dad for being a cheapskate. She was mad at me because she went out on a limb for me and I left her hanging there by herself. (If it ever gets brought up, she's *still* mad at me about that... and it's been TWENTY YEARS.)

But, generally, everyone is in a good mood at WDW even if they're tired, etc. We often joke that they must pump in extra oxygen to keep people happy.