Mackenzie Click-Mickelson
Chugging along the path of life
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- Oct 23, 2015
You def have to be careful about too much generalization especially on generational levels. That said it has been looked at that way by a slew of articles and over time. And TBH in the past we've had threads that are quite indicative as well. Posters who make fun of the way their children use tech or wish to raise their children, threads from posters who lack proper boundaries with their adult children and usually blame the adult children (sometimes it seems it is the adult child's fault other times totally not), posters who really seem to be dissatisfied with their level of watching over their grandkids, etc.It's interesting to me to read the biased generalizations about "boomers" on this thread. I think it's sadly very telling.
Some of this is going to come down to income levels as well and your socio-economical level as well as your culture. It's still taboo TBH if someone opts for childcare options outside of the grandparents, increasingly common for sure but still not perceived as normal though it is becoming much more normalized.
Probably the thing I see the most come up on my limited research into it is boundaries. As in the adult children setting and maintaining boundaries and the grandparents struggling with respecting them (this is in the perspective of what people report feeling is a big issue with "boomer" grandparents). Boundaries include access to the grandchildren, how the parents are raising their children and what values they are instilling, things like food even, gifts (including material and monetary as well as experiences), etc. In studies sometimes the response from grandparents is they get a "do-over in parenting" which is problematic to say the least, not always a huge red flag but not an appropriate way to view your grandchildren.
ETA: one Forbes article from 2015 mentioned this: "And how are boomer grandparents spending time with their grandkids differently than in the past?
It’s after work and it’s got to work in their schedule. With my mother’s generation, she could call my grandmother and know she’d be available all the time for any help. With this generation of grandparents, things have to be scheduled. And if the grandparents aren’t working, they’re volunteering or they're engaged with the community. They’re not sitting at home waiting for the kids to arrive.
It’s not necessarily seen as a negative. It’s just the way life is."
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