Are your husbands spontanously romantic

[angel659]

Hi

I was thinking the other day that my dh only buys flowers three times a year birthday, valentines and anniversary. A couple of years ago Bruce and I never celebrated valentines. We said we would have a romantic dinner etc another time of the year. However, that never happened. My dh is lovely. He has a great personality and sweet natured. I mention that he is not romantic, but he feels doing a few little extras around the house is? The other excuses were I would love to wine and dine you, but we have problems with sitters, your job and that we are always saving up for things. I said that even a £5.00 boquet of flowers occassionally would be nice or little notes. I used to make him lunch and now again I would write a little note about how much I loved him or a poem. I was wondering whether I was expecting too much. We have been together for 12 years and married for 6. We love each other very much and are the best of friends. When we go out we can chat and have a laugh for hours. I even wear myself out with all the chatting I do. If I say be more romantic he buys some flowers and the next day.

So the question I ask is does romance really end?

 

[Funniebunny]

My Fiance is very tactile and will always hug me and tell me that he loves me but somewhere the romance got lost.
He has good intentions but never quite gets there. The other day he called me whilst on his way home and said "I was going to buy you some flowers tonight" I just really makes me laugh when he does that as number 1 he doesn't get them and number 2 he tells me.
I wouldn't want him any other way though as he is the most caring guy and makes me laugh all the time

 

[mandymouse]

No my hubby isn't very spontaneous with romantic gestures. He works long hours and is usually cream crackered by the time he gets home from work. But we do try to get an evening away every now and then, and if we have a shopping weekend, then he'll spoil me rotten

I'm not over keen on flowers, but if he did get me some I'd probably think 'What does he want ?' or 'What has he done ?' (it's been years since I received a bouquet)

 

[Richard Bruvofetc]

I'm always spontaneous but DW always has a headache


Note added by DW:

Oi!! That's not true.

 

[saratogagirl]

I'm always spontaneous but DW always has a headache

 

[Minniespal]

Wouldn’t say that Tom is spontaneously romantic. Tom works away a lot overseas, so the time we both have together is very precious to us. I’m not really a flowers type of girl, so I tend to get pressies from the places he visits. I usually get lots of pressies on my birthday and at Christmas. I love to spoil him rotten too because I know how hard he works.

 

[higgy66]

My hubby often sends me text messages just to say he loves me. He always used to buy me flowers but once we started joint fincance I put an end to that!

he never buys ne flowers on valentine as my friend owned a florist and told us how the suppliers double prices for that day so I can't justify that. I sooner have a meal out together .

He's still very tactile and we hold hands when we're out and he's always hugging me in the house -usually trying it on!

As you will gather he's more romantic than me but I don't need romance to know somebody loves me. I had that in my youth - guys sending me flowers while they were sha""ing somebody else!

He's the most amazing person I ever met - kind, considerate and very very funny! On the rare occasions we've had words he can make me laugh within 5 minutes so I can never stay mad at him.

In fact I' off to text him........

Janet x

 

[Boo Boo Too]

Some men are just not "romantic" in the way that we are led to believe they should be (i.e. flowers, notes, poems, surprise candlelit dinners etc...). Angel659, was your husband EVER romantic?

My husband is JUST like yours, angel659... I get flowers 3 times a year (birthday, anniversary, valentines). If I get any more it is because we have argued (probably me complaining that he doesn't buy me flowers!).

I had a big laugh a couple of months ago when I bought a nice bunch of lilies for the sitting room - they look nice and smell heavenly (you just need to be careful where the pollen falls). When my husband came home from work, the lilies were still in their packaging in the kitchen. He said "who are the flowers for?". I said "they are for us in the sitting room". He got incredibly hurt and said "I could have bought them for you!". Boy did I laugh... this is the man who NEVER impulse buys me flowers, all hurt because I bought myself some.

Life is about compromises - nothing is perfect. My husband is very loving, very kind, very affectionate, very affectionate and spoils me rotten (maybe not a good thing!). We have a great relationship and love each other very much. Those are the most important things. Yes it would be nice to see the occasional bunch of flowers, but he makes up for it in other ways.

Boo
(married for 9 years, but with him for 13 years altogether)

 

[gilld]

DH also buys me flowers only on anniversaries and occasionally on Valentine's day - never birthdays as I usually get some jewellery then. I buy flowers every week because I like them in the house.

He's so wonderful in every other way, I can forgive him not buying flowers - and we've been married 29 years this month.

 

[jen_uk]

Maybe once a year Alex will buy me flowers (other than at Valentines etc). He too is one of those men who tells me that he nearly bought me something but then didnt!! I would have to say that there isnt much romance left now which is a bit sad but I think its just one of those things.

 

[carolfoy]

I think you're dead lucky anyway - finding a partner that is your bets friend as well as lover is a very hard thing to do, congratulations on succeeding. I had a boyfriend once that did tons of romantic things, but I finished it for the man I eventually married (and divorced - that tells you something!)

 

[Cyrano]

Diane and I will often send texts. We have concentrated a lot of our energies and affection on the troops but now make time for each other. I love giving her flowers as well as receiving them... I know sappy, but hey that's me

 

[xyzabc33]

WOW...you ppl actually get gifts and flowers on birthdays and such? Lucky women, I am jealous now. My other half's idea of romantic is washing the dishes or calling to say he will be home for lunch soon. Hey at least he DOES the dishes(my most hated chore) tho I do check them before I put food on them just to be on the safe side. He has been known to leave ucky things on a few. BLEHH!

 

[wideeyes]

I last got flowers from DBF when I was pregnant with dd 5 years ago and I was in hospital quite ill. DBF mum buys me flowers for no reason about twice a year.

Last month he came in and said he got me a present, I got very excited and then very disappointed when I found out he got me bath room towels!

 

[xyzabc33]

I last got flowers from DBF when I was pregnant with dd 5 years ago and I was in hospital quite ill. DBF mum buys me flowers for no reason about twice a year.

Last month he came in and said he got me a present, I got very excited and then very disappointed when I found out he got me bath room towels!

That would be mine too.

oh yeah he did buy me flowers when DD was born--forgot about that. I am glad his mom ignores me flowerwise...so much better that way

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

You lucky ladies. I don't even get flowers on my birthday, valentines or anniversaries. Didn't even get them after having the boys. I'm going to have a cry now.

Like some other husbands he holds my hand and generally can't keep his hands to himself which is partly my fault for being so good and losing weight and going to the gym to tone up, its taken him back to our courting days

 

[kimis]

I have been married for 31 years and is or has my dh ever been romantic. NO! NO! NO! His idea of romance is camping out in the mountains. You know no bathrooms or showers. HA! He is a good man and a great provider but totally unromantic!!! So I did the next best thing..... I raised our 3 sons into 3 great romantic men. Each one proposed in the most romantic ways. The oldest son was at a resturant with glistening lights in the courtyard and music playing in the back ground while he was down on one knee. The second was on top of a ferris wheel with fire works going off. The third son (but first one married) was on the beach in southern california with Sea Worlds fire works going off in the back ground. They bring their wives flowers for no reason---their dad doesn't even do flowers for my birthday. LOL!
I decided a long time ago that I would probably have to be the romantic one if there was to be any romance in the air. LOL

 

[Claire L]

Yes DH is romantic he buys me presents every now and then. I do like flowers but never have anywhere nice to put them so haven't had flowers for a long time. The last present I had was the HDTV for the bedroom which was a surprise. I have also had some lovely Christmas and Birthday presents including a trip to New York, along with clothes and shoes Most times I know about the presents as I have had to be part of the buying process but even still the thought in the first place was always there.

Claire

 

[angel659]

Hi

Bruce is great I love him dearly and he makes me laugh all the time. He has a great sense of humor and is so supportive. I love flowers and would love to receive some now and again. I cant bring myself to buy them for myself. I think its really because no one really likes babysitting unless its for an occassion really. Unless we pay someone to have them, which is fine, but turns a cheap night out an expensive one. I know its not his fault. He does spoil me for bday and xmas. He got me flowers and a gift after the kids. He does romance me when we are together alone. We are going to NY in March for 3 nights on our own. It will be nice to have some romance. I think I have been watching too many girly films lately.

 

[Deedee]

My Dh hasn't got a romantic bone in his body in the 25 years we have been together i think he has only bought me flowers twice. He wasn't even romantic when he asked me to marry him, he said i suppose we had better talk about something you see on a toilet door "engaged" Having said that we are best friends and go every where together we feel like we have lost a right arm or something if we go out without each other and we have been married for 21 years so he must be doing some thing right.... OMG pass the sick bucket!!!!!!!!