Are you shy ?

[Meriweather]

Yes, but better than I used to be. I think that comes with age

 

[KimR]

Yes, but better than I used to be. I think that comes with age

While my shyness certainly hasn't improved with age, my acceptance of it has. I used to hate it and I'd force myself to go to parties and social events and try to make friends, only to be miserable. Now I've come to accept it as a part of who I am and I'm so much happier and at peace with myself.

 

[teacherlisa1978]

I'm the same way. Unfortunately, it seems to be getting worse the older I get, whereas you'd think it would be the opposite. I feed bad for my husband because he is very extroverted and loves to be around people. He just takes it in stride though and doesn't seem to be too bothered by it.

Me too. My husband and j have it worked out where he is in charge of making the phone calls (the ones to businesses, insurance companies, etc) and asking for help in stores. Left to me, it's just not going to happen.

 

[JessicaR]

No not shy at all and as mentioned above my family wishes I was, sometimes! Of course they like that I'm not when they benefit from it.

 

[ols386]

Yep, I'm kinda shy. Not quite as much as I was when I was younger, but still, basically shy (unless I'm around people who I know pretty well).

 

[CurlyJo224]

I am very shy. Not as bad as I used to be, but still pretty bad.

My dad was stationed in England when I was a kid. After he and Mom divorced, Mom and I came back to the US. Mom was enrolling me in school, and I was just quietly standing next to her. Mom mentioned that we'd just come back from overseas, and the school secretary said, "Oh! Does she speak English?" I hadn't made a peep the whole time. For a while I was so shy I couldn't order my own food at McDonald's. I was just too afraid to talk to the person behind the counter.

I also have some anxiety problems. If I am in a situation I'm not prepared for, or something goes wrong, I tend to just shut down or have a panic attack. It's better than it used to be, but still there.

The internet and message boards have actually been great for me. The level of anonymity is just enough that I can be social, but still a little detached.

I I fell in love with one of my friends from work, and we got married. He can help with some of the things I can't handle, phone calls, questions in stores, and such. Most of the time I can do things for myself, but there are still some days that I have to "pull in" a bit.

It's interesting, I was reading another thread talking about fun interactions with the characters at the parks, and wishing I could do that. I get up to the characters and can barely squeak out a "hi."

 

[ems_mom]

Very much relate to the PP. My DH is so outgoing and talkative I have a "cushion" so to speak. My family, friends and neighbors know I am quiet and reserved, and don't push too hard. My DH is always outside and very talkative.

So yes, I'm very shy. From birth I believe. But my DH has helped to take some of the stress of being shy off me.

 

[PollyannaMom]

wonder what the physiology is to this

I think it's hormonal. At certain times, um, lady-wise, I'm chatty, confident, etc., at others, I tend to second-guess what I want to say, keep quiet, and would rather not be around people as much.

(But I always hate taking on the phone. I'd much rather face-to-face or e-mail.)

 

[DMass]

As I've gotten older I find that I'm not quite as shy as I used to be. Although I still become a stuttering doofus around women I'm attracted to.