are YOU heading for a DIVORCE?????

[MosMom]

It seems we have a 50/50 chance of staying together...

We aren't loaded but we I think for our age we make a good living.

We lived together for about a month before we got married.

We have both completed some college (DH got shafted with student loans and we couldn't afford it at the time so he dropped out...I'm just a loser )

We aren't really religious. I'm agnostic and DH is just indifferent.

We were both 21 when we got married.

His parents have been married over 30 years and mine were divorced when I was 7...my dad remarried and then divorced again...and now is remarried for a 3rd time to his high school sweetheart and I think they are in it for the long haul this time.

I'm white and DH is 1/2 white 1/2 native american

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We are about to celebrate our 6th anniversary and couldn't be happier. I can't see myself with anyone else...we're meant for each other.

 

[Deb in IA]

Originally posted by EROS
I personally find it VERY interesting that:

Half of U.S. women had lived with a partner by the time they turned 30.

I would think that this would be true in urban areas but much less common across the rural U.S. ............

MUCH more common than you'd think, EVEN HERE IN THE HEARTLAND, EROS.

You need to spend some time here in the country, you city boy . . .

 

[EROS]

DEB, I thought that co-habitation was ILLEGAL in IOWA . I guess that all of those stories that I've heard about traveling salesmen and farmgirls may be..........TRUE ........ Perhaps IOWA is MORE erogenous that good ole NYC ......

 

[Deb in IA]

Hey, what else is there to do when you live in the middle of a cornfield??

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by Deb in IA
Hey, what else is there to do when you live in the middle of a cornfield??

create a ballfield .........

 

[Poohbear123]

Don't know if I should respond to this..........Oh, Well, here goes. I was married to first Husband for 5 years, Yes we lived together for 1 and it was my first marriage his second.......Escaped from him in 1986.......met my "Live In Lover" and NO we never got married...he has been married 3 times, and HIS parents were married for 52 years, until thier deaths in 1999 3 months apart. By the way, we have been "living in sin" for 15 years!

 

[Cindy B]

Very very interesting article, I am going to print it out and use it for a marriage seminar... thanks EROS!

as for me

Am I headed the divorce way? When I got married...

1) I was 20 years old
2) I had some college education
3) I wasn't religious at the time
4) I lived with my then fiance

Since then I went to school, but still trying to get done (It's not easy!), started to study the Bible., and wound up helping others.

We have been married over 10 years...


My parents (who are coming up on their 30 year anniversary)

1) Were teenagers (18/19)
2) Had no college
3) Weren't religious

But they did not live together.


The statistics don't scare me because I see the reality in them.

Yes, in the country it is common for people to live with one another. My parents live in very rural NJ (pine barrens area), and there are quite a few families that were "cohabitating".

Yes, there really isn't much else to do...

 

[Deb in IA]

EROS, you really should come and visit sometime . . .

http://www.fieldofdreamsmoviesite.com/

 

[Deb in IA]

EROS, you really should come and visit sometime . . .

http://www.fieldofdreamsmoviesite.com/

 

[Mamu]

I don't know if I believe any of these kind of study's.

DH and I are going on 37 years together. Are we still in love; Yes.

I think that is one of the most important question are you still in love?

I was 19, him 21. HS education. Did not live together. Both parents stayed married till death. Wealthy how could you be when you raise 4 children, educate them and pay for weddings. Religious yes.

I think the biggest question of all is are you willing to make sacrifices for each other, grow to be one, but keep and honor each others identity and trust each other.

These are the things that keep a marriage together.

 

[Bennet]

Originally posted by zurgswife
Looks like old Zurggie poo...and I stand a fighting chance...

.. almost been married 15 yrs...

Has it been that long?!? Time flies when you having fun!

I love you dear!

 

[Beauty]

hummm

1. We were married before 20...I was 19, he was 18
2. We didn't live together
3. White
4. I have 2 years college he has about the same
5. He was brought up in an awful way...mom who had a different man all the time. My parents were married till death did them part.

We've been together 13 years and married 11 years.

 

[Hollymom1229]

Art and I stand a pretty good chance according to this survey.

1) We'll be over 25 on wedding day
2) Never lived together
3) White
4) Financially secure
5) Deeply spiritual
6) My parents have been together 35 years, his 29 years.

Now if I don't kill him during the wedding planning we may make it.

 

[Vault Disney]

Uh-oh, not looking too good for us.

 

[HayGan]

How on earth did this resurface after 3 years

 

[Rozzie]

nice bump!!!

 

[Deb in IA]

Wow, you must have done some DIGGING to pull up this one, Vault Disney (whoever you are).

Some golden oldies there, and some long (and not-so-long) gone DIS'ers . . .

 

[ChrisnSteph]

We lived together before we got married.
Got pregnant before we got married.
He married me even though I had a child from a previous relationship.
We were dirt poor when we got married.
We weren't very religious.
Both sets of our parents have been divorced. One set more than the other.
We had two very sick children, both who died.
We've moved five times since we got married.
We've both had major career changes.
My dh's a fireman - gone more than he's home.
I'm moody.
He is too.

We just celebrated our 6th anniversary. It was tough, but we're happy. If we made it the past 6 years, we can make it through anything. I just think it has to do with how seriously you take your wedding vows.

 

[grinningghost]

Good Lord! I wonder how long this can legally stick around.

 

[HayGan]

Good Lord! I wonder how long this can legally stick around.

(I was thinking the same thing!)