Tigger&Belle
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staci said:My ds will do this if left crying. Doesnt take him real long, maybe 10 minutes.
We have totally failed at his nighttime scheduleand have come to terms with that. We tried on a few occasions to let him 'cry it out' in the crib to go to sleep for a few nights in a row, and we never made it very far. I just cant listen to the crying (or clean up puke
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I know you know this, but I will say it anyway...
As a mom of 4 kids--6, 12, 15, and 18--your son will not sleep with you as a teenager. As a matter of fact you'll be lucky if he wants to even be seen with you then.
You're doing what seems right to you and what works--you can't ask for more!
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I was NEVER the kind of mom who, despite it becoming the "in" thing to do when my kids were babies, let the kids "cry it out". It would make me want to cry too!
It always seemed mean or something. (and yes, I was also one of those horrible moms who gave the kids a bottle at bedtime...you know what? Not only did I not do any permanent damage to them, out of 3 kids, we have had only 1 cavity!!
I think the last time she did it was when she was about 2 1/2....her brother accidentially got his battery operated trained stuck in her hair (it was running and the wheels just were totally tangled in her hair... completely down to the scalp!
). As she was crying in the kitchen, I was trying to cut the train free (since the train was still on, anytime I got the hair free, it would just wrap around again...the switch was too close to her head to reach it to shut it off). She was crying so hard, that she exploded all over the kitchen...and me....and herself...Did I mention that at this time, I was pregnant with my youngest and had extreme morning sickness??!!
I thought I was going to lose it there myself!! 
I began making him clean up whatever he threw up, and after a few times that pretty much solved the problem.
We always knew that the crying thing wasnt for us, but felt a lot of pressure from others to 'take control of the situation'. My grandmother even said ds will be emotionally scarred and dependant on us forever.
So we were caving to pressure.