Anyone have friends like this -

[buffettgirl]

I have a mom friend who tends to be a "one up" type of person - if someone gets XX car, she needs to get the one better. If someone gets XX purse, she gets the one better. If someone fixes up their bathroom, she fixes up her kitchen. If someone goes for a facial, she goes to get her skin peeled LOL. you get the picture? She's a nice friend otherwise, so I overlook this and I usually keep details to myself so that I don't feel copied LOL.

So she found out we were going to Disney. And all of a sudden she is now going to disney. First, she was going at the same time as me, which set off red flags. then she was getting a better hotel. then she was getting better passes. and then she was getting better everything. But the funny part is, none of what she's doing IS actually better. She claims that she's getting better discounts and bargains but she's not.

She's going for 4 days.
She's staying off site
She's getting some discount passes which do not include anything, no ph or water.
She's going to try to also go to sea world and universal.

and finally she says to me yesterday "Everyone says sea world is so much more fun than Disney anyway" And don't forget - 'you HAVE to swim with the dolphins'... :

So really, she doesn't even want a Disney vacation.


I suspect that in her quest to "one up" my trip she's hit a wall because my vacation isn't what she wants. But now she's sort of stuck. I'm getting a little bit of sick pleasure out of watching her try to compete - usually I'm not like this at all. LOL.

Anyone have friends like this?? She's asked me a few questions about planning but every time I try to answer she comes back with her own "answers" which are, inevitably, "better" than my answers. LOL.

 

[inkkognito]

and finally she says to me yesterday "Everyone says sea world is so much more fun than Disney anyway" And don't forget - 'you HAVE to swim with the dolphins'... :.

Good luck to her when she tries to swim with the dolphins at SeaWorld and gets pulled out of the tank and arrested! Sounds like she has it mixed up with Discovery Cove. I hope she realizes that she needs ressies and big bucks for that dolphin swim and that it's at another park.

(I have to admit that Kraken is better than any Disney coaster tho').

 

[mickeyholic]

OMG!!! Does she live in Many, Louisiana????????? I know several people like that!!! You sit back and enjoy this, because Seaworld does not even compare to Disney! And staying offsite! She isn't really intelligent is she!!!!

 

[oasispaul]

does kristin wiig play her on a saturday night live skit?

 

[swald91]

Yeah...I know what you are saying We have friends like that-Disney is a big thing but no matter what we get or do they need to do bigger & better...it's the petty crap that their kids do/say though that get me. I hate it when they do it to my kids-fortunately they know what they are like & just ignore it. Hope that you have a great trip-maybe you guys should meet there!!!!!!

 

[claryche]

I love your post it made me laugh. First off it made me think of my fil who is similar, but with electronics. We bought a digital camera a while back and he had to get a better one. Then we bought a projection tv years ago and he had to buy a better one. Now he has really topped us with two flat screens. So I can kinda relate.

It sounds like this friend is actually insecure and she does this because she is trying to prove to herself that she is better than everyone else. She will always think that she is doing things the right way and that she has the best plans. If I were you I would keep my ideas to myself, she isn't going to listen. Then after your trips, if I were you, I would just have to rub in all the things that you guys did and how easy things were. I've learned there are Disney people, non Disney people and the ones like your friend who will do Disney but will refuse to do it the best way. My bil, sil and niece were the same way as far as staying off site, going to sea world and spending very few days at Disney. They had fun, but I know if they had listened to me they would have had more fun, but they didn't. Oh well. Not everyone can be as smart as people like you and myself.

Hope you have a great trip and your friend, well, hope they have a great time too, but maybe at some point in their trip they will have something happen where she will say I should have listened to my friend.

 

[mizzouHHR]

In the end, you will have the "one up" in your favor as you will have the memories and pictures of staying on site and enjoying all that Disney has to offer. I agree with others who say she will wish she would have listened to you rather than try to outdo your vacation.

 

[Disneydreamer5]

Why are some people so silly?
She is your friend and you know this is probably the one about her that you would change if you could.
We all have at least one person I think who is like this Or they always think they have it harder then anyone else regardless what anyone is going through, their lives are the worst,lol.
You know what vacation you like and you know what you get when you stay at Disney vs. off site.
Let her have her delosion that her's is better as long as you are happy with your plans, let her have her better plan while you have the Disney vacation of your heart!

 

[Livin'TheDream]

I have encountered many "friends" like this in my life. Personally I don't understand people like this. I couldn't care less what car my friends drive, what size house they live in, what name brand their clothes are! If they are GOOD people that is ALL that matters to me.

Don't get me wrong, I like nice things, BUT I don't try to compete or have bigger and better than my friends do, I just simply buy and do what makes my family happy!

We have been on numerous cruises and vacations that some (not all) of our friends could never dream of going on and that is OK. We never look down on them or throw it in their face. We are very respectful of their feelings and rarely even bring up any mention of our trips unless asked by them. We do more economical camping trips with them and enjoy them very much. They would never stop being our friends because they didn't have one up on us. The people that THINK they are on top, I have news for them....there is ALWAYS someone out there with bigger, better, faster!!!

People like the OP mentioned tend to be toxic people in my life and I choose to suround myself with people who are uplifting!

 

[Lynn5700]

People like that are so annoying. They must have no confidence in themselves or hate their lives to have to compete with other people.

 

[chigirl]

I love your post it made me laugh. First off it made me think of my fil who is similar, but with electronics. We bought a digital camera a while back and he had to get a better one. Then we bought a projection tv years ago and he had to buy a better one. Now he has really topped us with two flat screens. So I can kinda relate.

It sounds like this friend is actually insecure and she does this because she is trying to prove to herself that she is better than everyone else. She will always think that she is doing things the right way and that she has the best plans. If I were you I would keep my ideas to myself, she isn't going to listen. Then after your trips, if I were you, I would just have to rub in all the things that you guys did and how easy things were. I've learned there are Disney people, non Disney people and the ones like your friend who will do Disney but will refuse to do it the best way. My bil, sil and niece were the same way as far as staying off site, going to sea world and spending very few days at Disney. They had fun, but I know if they had listened to me they would have had more fun, but they didn't. Oh well. Not everyone can be as smart as people like you and myself.

Hope you have a great trip and your friend, well, hope they have a great time too, but maybe at some point in their trip they will have something happen where she will say I should have listened to my friend.

Is you FIL my dad, by chance? My dad competes with all of his kids, my siblings, on EVERYTHING from homes to money to even illness....if you have a cold, he has pneumonia, etc. When we moved into our home which is about the same size as his, he wipped out a tape measure and measured our rooms! He's actually not speaking with me right now because he found out my FICO score is higher than his! Crazy! He does not compete with Disney stuff, though, because he hates to travel...but everything, and I mean everything else, he does!

 

[Disney Fool]

You need to correct your post. This is not a "friend". This person bears watching, because if they ever get the chance they will stick a knife in your back just to make themselves feel better. I repeat, this is NOT a friend by any stretch of the imagination. A true friend will be happy for you whatever your endeavor is. A true friend will not try to outshine you at every opportunity. At best, she is an "acquaintance." Have the last laugh, enjoy your vacation, take lots of photos, and ignore her.

 

[AustinTink]

LOL. I feel your frustration OP. I have a "frenemy" who has decided to hijack our trip. We're just going to avoid them like the plague.

 

[buffettgirl]

You need to correct your post. This is not a "friend". This person bears watching, because if they ever get the chance they will stick a knife in your back just to make themselves feel better. I repeat, this is NOT a friend by any stretch of the imagination. A true friend will be happy for you whatever your endeavor is. A true friend will not try to outshine you at every opportunity. At best, she is an "acquaintance." Have the last laugh, enjoy your vacation, take lots of photos, and ignore her.

LOL, yeah, I guess Friend is too strong of a word - we only socialize occasionally and if our kids weren't in school together we'd probably never have contact again. But she's a friend in that if I need someone to grab my child from school she's there for that, and vice versa.....that type of friend.

And you're so right - whenever something good happens to someone in our group - she's about as jealous as can be.

 

[MentalVacation]

When we moved into our home which is about the same size as his, he wipped out a tape measure and measured our rooms! He's actually not speaking with me right now because he found out my FICO score is higher than his! Crazy!

OMG. I have no words!



To the OP.......my snarky side wants to say...oh I have a 'friend' who is MUCH worse than yours. (thus one-upping you. ) But I won't. I'll just say I TOTALLY understand.

My SIL actually booked her second trip to Disney in 2 years for roughly the same time as us. DH and I wholeheartedly agreed that we were happy it was not the same week. She had nothing nice to say about our choice of AKL. But the kicker is that she hasn't paid out of pocket for either of these trips. And couldn't if she had to. But her trip will be better. (Hmmm...maybe my trip WOULD be better if it were free.... )

Anyway......I think your 'friend' has gotten herself into a pickle. Enjoy your trip!!!!!!!!!

 

[Punkie6]

Sounds like my future inlaws. DBF and I announced recently that we were going on our anniversary, then they quickly bragged that they were going too. Problem is we know they can't really afford it, since they tend to spend, and were probably bluffing at first. But of course they didn't think and said it in front of his much younger siblings who got all hyped up and now they can't take it back without creating a nuclear meltdown.

 

[BreezysMom]

I have a little bit of the opposite going on. There is a Mom that felt the need to basically blast me for going to Disney two times within 15 months and staying at the Poly and doing the dining plan. According to her I wasted my money on such a "lavish" trip. (40% Pin codes-Duh!!)

Now, let me just preface by saying, I was not bragging about our trip, I was telling a friend who was asking questions and she overheard us talking. I have no idea if she has even gone to Disney but she felt the need to interject in our conversation.

So now, at the last PTO meeting, I walk in with my very fake designer purse and she makes a comment about how she does not understand how people could spend a months worth a groceries on purses...

As much as I would love to engage her, I just ingnore her and chalk it up to the green eyed monster and take it as a back handed compliment....

 

[Goofy'slady]

Sort of sounds like my older sister. I love her with all my heart but in her ripe 'ol age(she's in her early 40's and I'm 32) she's become very competative.

I love my Coach bags and when I first started buying them my sister was all I don't see how you could spend all that money on a purse. Well, when everyone started popping up with designer purses and my BIL went from making $$ to making $$$$ then all of a sudden she started on the Doony & Burke kick. Ok, fine. I started wearing certain brand name make-up and even tho she barely wears any make-up and seemed to have the same actual make-up she had when she was 24 she ran out and started buying the same make-up when she found that what me and my friends wore. We'd go here and even tho she say she had nooo interest in going all of a sudden there was a trip being planned for her and her family to go 'there'. We'd go to this place to eat then all of a sudden she started hanging out there and it goes on and on.

Well the straw that broke the camels back for her was when she found out that we were planning our next Disney vacation and staying on property. Oh my husband and I had stayed on property about a year or so ago but it was just a trip for us and this time around we were taking our girls; well all of a sudden she had to go and stay on property too. The only monkey wrench in her plan was that her husband had become Disney-ied out and her 17yr old daughter wasn't too far behind him. We her youngest my nephew(just 11) is still very much into Disney as my sister and he's only one year older than my oldest DD(10yrs old). Well if we took our girls to Disney and they stayed on property then they would come back with all sorts of stories of how it was and everything that they did and she and her son would feel left out(mostly her). So she asked if she could sort of tag along and fly down in the middle of our vaca and join us. Well, when I hear that it would propbably be my nephew's only vacation this summer due to the fact that my sister and my BIL are saving for a trip for the two of them to Korea then I couldn't really say no!

So we leave on 5/2(driving from MD) and arriving on 5/3 and my sister and nephew fly down and meet us on 5/7. We depart on Monday 5/11 and they depart on Sunday 5/10 so all in all I guess it could be worse. Although I can't really see how!

Sorry to take over your thread.

T.

 

[jennikat]

I don't have a friend like that, unfortunately I have a sister, "Kay" who has been doing this since we were teenagers. We bought a new van, she had to have a new one, my other sister bought a new car, "Kay's" husband had to have a new car, I got a new laptop, she got a new laptop, we are going to Disney, she's planning a fancier trip to Disney, etc. The problem is that is they do not have the money to afford all of this. Now both their vehicles have been repossessed and they are behind on their house payments. My sister and her husband both have full time jobs but they are so busy competing with everyone in the family they are going to end up with nothing.

 

[eliza61]

MY SIL. My son is graduating H.S. and is trying to decide on a college. Of course her 9th grader (my nephew) has already decided he wants to go to the Naval academy and of course she knows all the right people to make sure he gets in.