Anyone have a spouse who's definitely NOT a fan of Disney?

[Simba's Mom]

DH says it's "OK", but unless we're going with the DGDs, he doesn't want to go. And when Disney gets any negative press, he usually points it out. We're DVC members, but unless it's a trip to DHHIR, he'll "stay home and cat-sit". Anyone else have a spouse like that? Almost all my trips have become solo trips as a result.

 

[tx911]

DH says it's "OK", but unless we're going with the DGDs, he doesn't want to go. And when Disney gets any negative press, he usually points it out. We're DVC members, but unless it's a trip to DHHIR, he'll "stay home and cat-sit". Anyone else have a spouse like that? Almost all my trips have become solo trips as a result.

Lol, not quite that bad, but mine is definitely not into Disney as much as I am. She tolerates it, and claims to enjoy it, but I know if we went 6 times a year like I would-if-I-could she would balk

 

[georgina]

I've been doing solo trips for 10 years. My DH will come along every 2 or 3 years, and it has to be a more relaxed trip, one park a day, resort days, etc. He is not really a fan, could live without going. But I do not enjoy his main hobby of scuba diving, so it works out. We do out separate vacations and everyone is happy. We do get in at least 1 joint vacation a year though to somewhere new.

 

[AussieFan8]

Yes, but fortunately my daughter loves going with me, and she’s a great travel buddy! It actually decreases my travel stress that my dog gets to stay at home with my husband. We do other trips as a family.

 

[Robber Baron]

When we married my wife wasn't a big Disney person.

She has been brought over to the dark side.

It sounds like your husband just doesn't want to comply.

How does a couple become DVC members when one of them doesn't like Disney at all?

 

[Karin1984]

That your husband doesn't want to go wouldn't be my issue. People have different interests and you can do different vacations together.

That he feels the need to point out negative press everytime... that is a red flag.

Were you a DVC member before you met/wed him?

 

[Micca]

DW and I are both Disney crazy, but I don't know that we knew that when we got married. We had talked about Disneyland, and on our
honeymoon we saw a theatrical re-release of Alice In Wonderland, but we had both only been to DLR once. I guess it's lucky that we both got so into it over the years.

But we enjoy individual interests too, not a problem that the other isn't interested.

 

[georgina]

DW and I are both Disney crazy, but I don't know that we knew that when we got married. We had talked about Disneyland, and on our
honeymoon we saw a theatrical re-release of Alice In Wonderland, but we had both only been to DLR once. I guess it's lucky that we both got so into it over the years.

But we enjoy individual interests too, not a problem that the other isn't interested.

I had never been to a Disney park before we were married. We went 11 years after that, with our 3 kids. I think I started thinking about our next trip soon after, although it was 2 years later.

Our first trip was in 1998, second in 2000. Briefly considered DVC in 2000 on our 2nd trip, but have commitment issues and do not regret that we didn’t do it.

 

[2vets]

DH will go, but only if we're already in FL for another reason, and there is spotty participation even then! Works out to maybe every 3 years, but WDW with him is a very, very different type of trip than when I am solo - he requires a lot of down time away from people, which is not always easy at WDW. I have to plan, plan, plan, line up the best rides and then get us out of the park.

For a few years, I was just doing solo single days here and there before meeting my sister there (she lives a few hours away from WDW, and I'm on the West Coast so always come in a day earlier than she does). However, last year, I was concerned about flight cancellations with a hurricane brewing and extended my trip to fly in 3 days before meeting her. I figured I would be there to help her, at least, if needed. The hurricane went elsewhere, and those 3 solo days were aaaaahmazing. It changed my whole outlook about being there alone! I have already done 2 full solo trips this year and am doing 2-3 days solo before meeting her next month. DH thinks I'm a little nuts, but our incomes and finances are separate, and he does trips alone to visit his mom twice a year, so we just coordinate around each other. I adore him, but honestly, Disney is lots more relaxed without him . It would be great if he liked it more, but I like having that time to myself!

@georgina, be happy you're not a diver! DH and I are both avid divers, both at home and abroad, we do two big trips together per year; the combination of cold water dive gear for home, trips to the Indopacific, and my Disney problem, and well, let's just say I look for opportunities to be cheap in other parts of my life!!

 

[Rogue1677x]

My husband is not a Disney fan, but will go if I ask because he knows I love to go there.

He's more than happy for our daughter and me to have girl trips there and enjoy ourselves. He did go on a trip though where it was us, our daughter, my sisters, and my niece and nephew...it was quite a crew but we had a blast.

 

[lovin'fl]

We first took little kiddos to WDW in 2003 (stayed off site and did it the cheaper route, eating off site too). I didn't want to go. I had only been once prior, when I was 7. I didn't remember much about it and just thought it was a kiddie place. DH planned that 1st trip and we thought it was a one and done and I dreaded going. But it was magical. We went back in 2005 but stayed on site and got the DDP...it was even more magical. We were both hooked and bought DVC in 2006.

We have done many trips over the years...with us 5, with extended family, without kids, with teens, with 20somethings, with friends. It has evolved over the years. But while kids were young, living at home, the DH wasn't as into it as I was. We also did cruises and he also was not so into those as I was. I would have been doing 2 cruises and a Disney trip plus a DVC at Hilton head trip every year. I tried and sometimes we did but it was always like pulling teeth to get him to do any of them. He claimed he wanted to try new things and was bummed we weren't. Maybe he also wasn't into paying for 5 for so many trips. It added up.

Then, the kids grow up and finish college and are off adulting and DH decides we need to move to FL, near WDW. So we began that process 3.5ish years ago, amidst covid. We started with a vacay condo that we'd just use a lot and rent out when not using. Then sold that and fully moved to a permanent home thete. He just couldn't get enough of WDW (and also cruising too).

But I am now disenchanted. All the crazy costs and what the mouse is doing. Plus I knew living nearby and going all the time would kill the magic for me. And it did. I wanted us to get a vacay condo in Hilton Head and keep the house up north. We also had a ton of DVC points and could get to WDW enough for the DH. But he won out and we ended up in FL (admittedly, I was on board too because we could buy way way more for our money in Kissimmee than in Hilton Head).

So we have kinda flopped back and forth and never really been in sync. But I don't dislike WDW. I just have to find new things to do here and there. And sometimes we plan to go to a park for the day and I just say nah and skip it. We have good friends who also have a place and we meet up a lot in and about WDW (that husband is a non Disney fan and won't go unless we are meeting up, his wife and girls do mostly without him). We have several couples, actually, that bought in FL recently like us that we like to hang with and sometimes it's tied to WDW. So that makes it nice.

 

[georgina]

@georgina, be happy you're not a diver! DH and I are both avid divers, both at home and abroad, we do two big trips together per year; the combination of cold water dive gear for home, trips to the Indopacific, and my Disney problem, and well, let's just say I look for opportunities to be cheap in other parts of my life!!

I am by nature a thrifty person, I'm staying offsite for a couple of Disney nights in Sept while he's diving. But since he is now more often going farther than just the caribbean and western Mexico, I am spending a bit more on my trips also (but only a little). Business class airfare to Indonesia is expensive! Decided to stay onsite in December for 3 nights for holiday happenings. Eying Universal's new grand Helios hotel when they open Epic Universe.

 

[2vets]

I am by nature a thrifty person, I'm staying offsite for a couple of Disney nights in Sept while he's diving. But since he is now more often going farther than just the caribbean and western Mexico, I am spending a bit more on my trips also (but only a little). Business class airfare to Indonesia is expensive! Decided to stay onsite in December for 3 nights for holiday happenings. Eying Universal's new grand Helios hotel when they open Epic Universe.

Off topic: Here’s a tip for your hubs about buying airfare to Indo: buy Singapore or another Asian airline, checking cancellation/change policies (they are much more forgiving than US-based). Sign up for specials and all that, but Black Friday sales are the bomb. I will often buy our airfare then if I can, but often, the savings will justify cancelling/rebooking or the change fee if we have an existing ticket. We need to buy an open jaw ticket to Indo for next March/April, and I’m watching like a hawk! (We usually do biz class as well for about a million reasons…)

 

[kristenrice]

My DH can't stand Disney and rolls his eyes whenever I talk about it. We (I) bought DVC back in 2008 when our kids were 3 and 5 years old. He enjoyed the trips we took when the kids were younger, but his last trip in 2016 was his breaking point and he hasn't been back since. He does not like the "dawn-til-dusk" touring style that we did with the kids and he does not "appreciate" the Disney entertainment and nostalgia the way I do.

We have a great arrangement now...

My birthday is in October so I use our DVC to take a trip to the World for my birthday. I usually go with my best friend who is "in a relationship with Mickey Mouse", but I have also gone with my kids, parents and sister. My husband's birthday is in November so he takes a week (or more) to go up north and deer hunt with his brother. My oldest daughter is also an avid hunter so she usually goes along with him. It works out perfectly! I do not want to sit in a deer blind in 20-degree weather, waiting for dinner to pop out. He doesn't want to walk 15,000 steps in Orlando in 80-degree heat.

This year, my friend decided she would like to go in December. I have never been to WDW over the Christmas holiday so I happily obliged. Since this October is my 50th birthday, my hubby graciously said he would go with me for a quick, 3- night, NO PARKS trip. We *are* going to a park, though. If I am going in October, I am not going to miss the halloween party. I don't want to overload DH because I am hoping that this trip might open his eyes to all that WDW has to offer. We are going to eat dinner at Topolino's, attend the halloween party and enjoy the HDDR. In addition, I somehow managed to get a studio at Copper Creek for all three nights so we plan to enjoy Geyser Point as well. We stayed at WL for our honeymoon in 2002 and have not been back there since.

We will see what happens...

 

[sheilafri]

DH has gotten more into Disney as time goes on. I still like to go more often, and our touring styles don’t mesh the greatest when we are there as in I’m a morning person and he isn’t but we make it work. I try to take at least one solo trip a year.

 

[Jsharp13]

Keep taking the solo trips, or find some DISers on here to go, or share Disney with other friends. I took my non-Disney DH this past May. While he did make some memories with my son, for me it was not that fun. He disliked about everything. And the things that I thought would blow him away were just "meh". So there wasn't enough of the amazing things to outweigh the bad. It was an uphill battle. I was counting down the minutes till it was over and that is NOT how I want my Disney trip to go. So, lesson learned, I tried, and never again!
Even if one day I have a heap of grandkids to share Disney with, I will not bring him. He can stay home with the pets or cut the grass or whatever else he wants to do!

 

[Simba's Mom]

How does a couple become DVC members when one of them doesn't like Disney at all?

I went on the DVC tour by myself on a solo trip. It was a very cold day and it was something inside for me to do and keep warm. When I got home with everything the guide gave me, popped the VHS tape in the VCR (that's how long ago it was) and DH saw the huge smile on my face, he said "Looks great-I think we should do it." The fact that there was a DVC resort in Hilton Head and he's a golfer who'd always wanted to go to HHI had something to do with it. That's the one DVC place we both look forward to going to. He's just not into Disney World.

 

[Bama Mom]

My husband isn't a Disney fan. He goes and tolerates it for me. So I am going in my first Solo trip next year. When we do a big family trip and take the grand kids for their first trip he will happily go and hang out with those not tall enough for rides yet.

 

[georgina]

My husband isn't a Disney fan. He goes and tolerates it for me. So I am going in my first Solo trip next year. When we do a big family trip and take the grand kids for their first trip he will happily go and hang out with those not tall enough for rides yet.

I think mine will enjoy when the grandkids go for the first time also. We only have one grandson now so who knows when that will be. Personally I am also looking forward to when grandson is old enough to read the Harry Potter books and I can take him to Universal!

 

[Sweettears]

DW isn’t a fan. I’m ok with that as long as she’s good with my solo trips. Been going solo for at least ten years. Will be continuing annually until I can’t do it any longer which is hopefully after many more trips (67)